Fortune-telling office next to Ciyun Temple

The ancients said, "The winner is strong." A person can reflect on himself at any time, correct his shortcomings, overcome himself, surpass himself and eventually become a strong man.

Many people are nervous every day, enduring the reprimand from superiors, the exclusion of colleagues, the pressure of performance and family problems. Like an old truck, loaded with thousands of tons, and like a rusty clockwork, it is forced to rotate quickly. Over time, the color withered and gaunt, and gradually occupational fatigue. As if every day is the end of the world, as if every morning castration bell is the death knell. Why are we in such a predicament?

If you can't figure it out, you will be "angry", so nothing will go smoothly. Only by being good at reflection and diligent in reflection can we adjust our mentality and reshape ourselves, and a successful life requires us to constantly reflect on ourselves.

Philosophical thinking can be obtained by reflecting on everything in the universe; Reflecting on complex things can make you wise; Reflecting on a long history can accelerate progress; By reflecting on ourselves, we can get rid of ignorance and boredom, transcend reality, reshape ourselves and keep moving forward.

During the Wanli period of Ming Dynasty, Yuan Lefan was born in a small town in the south of the Yangtze River. Because of his poor family, he had to study medicine for a living. Once, he met Mr. Kong, who was proficient in fortune-telling, in Ciyun Temple. Mr. Kong said that it was his destiny to be an official and study. In the second year, he could be admitted to a scholar and advised to study. Please invite Mr. Kong to his home and ask him to calculate according to his own astrology. It really works. Then let him use his own eight characters to verify his life in detail. Mr. Kong is unambiguous. In the second year, he was ranked 14 in the county exam, 7 1 in the government exam, and 9 in the promotion exam. It also determines that he is a student and a tribute student in a certain year; Moreover, it was decided that he could not be admitted to Jinshi, so he could only be a junior official in a county in Sichuan for three and a half years after his promotion. 53 years old, 14 died at home in August, with no children.

The rankings of the next three exams were exactly the same as those calculated by Mr. Kong. After being admitted, the things of being a tribute student have been realized one by one. Therefore, Yuan Lefan is convinced that everything in life is predestined and cannot be forced at all. Since then, he has no delusions, and everything is resigned to fate. Later, I went to Qixia Mountain in Nanjing and met a monk, Master Yungu, who explained in detail the truth that "fate is in our own hands and happiness is created by ourselves" and encouraged him not to be an ordinary person who resigned himself to fate. But to be a hero who changes his destiny.

Yuan Lefan suddenly woke up under the inspiration of Zen master. From then on, he checked his mistakes in thought, language and behavior every day, filled in his good deeds and evil deeds in the column of "merits and demerits", and never forgot to give happiness to all lives in order to reap the happiness of life. He did good deeds for more than ten years, turned over a new leaf, finally overcame his bad habits and remolded his noble personality. This completely changed his fate: Mr. Kong ranked third in the examination of the Ministry of Rites, but he got the first place; Although he failed in the Jinshi exam, he was admitted to the Jinshi and became the county magistrate of Baodi County. Although he has no son, he has two sons. He lived to be 53, but he lived to be 74. At the age of 69, he wrote his personal experience and the experience of transforming his destiny as family instructions to educate his son on how to be a man. He named this family instruction "Four Instructions from Fan", which became a model of ancient family instruction and inspired generations of people eager to change their destiny.

From the story of Mr. Yuan Lefan changing his destiny, we can understand that to change his destiny, we must first reshape ourselves; To rebuild ourselves, we must first overcome ourselves; To defeat yourself, we must first recognize ourselves; To recognize yourself, we must always reflect on ourselves. Otherwise, although it seems that you are studying hard and struggling hard, you can't escape your fate, because you are unconsciously dominated by habits.

Heine once said: "introspection is a mirror, which can clearly show our mistakes and give us a chance to correct them." Lian Po refused to promise Lin Xiangru because of jealousy, but he could reflect in time and understand that civil servants and military commanders had to make peace, which made Zhao stable and became a legendary story of "offering a humble apology". Only by taking yourself as a mirror and recognizing yourself can we reflect on our mistakes in time and avoid failure in life.

Admittedly, it's not just mistakes that deserve reflection. Every bit of life contains profound philosophy. Su Xun was frustrated for three times and deeply reflected, which made him "know the difficulty of being an official, so he never intended to become famous and committed himself to learning" and eventually became an excellent essayist. Xin Qiji spent most of his life in the sigh and helplessness of being abandoned. He looked at the society, looked at himself, knew the national crisis, sublimated himself in the dispute between good and evil, and struggled for the rejuvenation of the country with his own strength. They all found their own value in themselves, understood what to do and always knew their mission. Keep an eye on yourself, always be alert to yourself, find a guiding light in the blurred reality, stick to your beliefs, and stick to your choices. They all regard themselves as mirrors, and often ponder over right and wrong, ponder slowly, observe carefully, reflect and meditate.

Not all people can keep an eye on themselves, just as not all seeds can find the soil to take root. Xiang Yu, the hero, is arrogant and never looks in the mirror, let alone has a chance to correct himself. Finally, he committed suicide in Wujiang River, leaving only a sigh. Xiang Yu didn't wake up in the end because he didn't go back to his heart to look back, to find and to save himself.

People who can reflect can take themselves as a mirror, reflect their inner nature and observe them carefully. Only in this way can they think that they can build a rising star in Ran Ran, find their own way to success and stop being at a loss. Silence in regret, frustration in failure.

Xunzi said in "Persuasion": "A gentleman is knowledgeable and saves himself every day, so he knows what is clear and does not make mistakes." The "knowledge" and "knowledge" mentioned here are explained in the words of the ancients, that is, "those who know others are wise, and those who know themselves are wise." Only by studying knowledge extensively can we correctly understand things and others; Only by regular self-reflection, can we really know ourselves, so as to challenge ourselves and reshape ourselves. With this wisdom of "knowing yourself and yourself". In order to create an invincible life.

In the second year of Xianfeng, Zeng Guofan was ordered to set up the Taiping Army to resist forever. In the following six years, he suffered a series of political and military failures, but he was able to learn from the failures again and again, reflect on his lack of self-cultivation and try to correct it. He changed from pretentious and headstrong to open-minded advice, which made him change from repeated defeats to repeated defeats, and from repeated defeats to undefeated battles, and finally eliminated the Taiping Army and won.

As a scholar, Zeng Guofan led troops to run the army without any combat experience, but he was able to rise from failure and turn defeat into victory. What does he rely on? It depends on his wisdom of self-reflection and self-transcendence. Later, he wrote in a letter to his family: "In my early years, I thought I was capable and resilient, and I often saw the shortcomings of others. After four years of confession and enlightenment, I realized that I had no skill at all and could see the advantages of others in everything. Therefore, the nine years from May 5th to now are very different from the nine years before I turned 40. I can not only strive for self-improvement, but also work in harmony and stop complaining about others. "

The ancients said, "The winner is strong." A person can reflect on himself at any time, correct his shortcomings, overcome himself, surpass himself and eventually become a strong man. Just like playing chess. If you lose to the other side, it means that you have many defects that lead to failure. When playing chess, you can see more of your own loopholes and remedy them, so that you can defeat your opponent and turn defeat into victory; If you always complain that your opponent is too strong, but you don't find your own reasons, how can you improve your chess skills?

Life needs reflection, and life must also reflect. Reflect on yesterday for tomorrow; Reflect on failure in order to succeed. It's hard to imagine how terrible life without reflection is.

Reflection is a quality that makes us awake. Constantly reflecting, we will refuse to repeat mistakes. Reflection, let's walk in the forefront of the times, and don't miss the upcoming opportunities.

The greatest achievement in life is to constantly reflect, reshape yourself and let yourself know about life. Learn to reflect on yourself. You will learn about society and the environment. You won't blindly worship others and go with the flow. Learn to reflect, and you will firmly grasp the steering wheel of life and reshape yourself; Grasp your own direction and don't be unconventional; Show your personality and give play to your strengths.

-quoted from Yanbian People's Publishing House, "Being angry equals punishing yourself"