What should girls do if their tone of voice is too fierce?

A person's way of speaking has a great relationship with his own personality and attitude. Careless and generous people often speak fast and loudly, while gentle people speak slowly. The stereotype of women in society is gentle and soft-spoken, otherwise it is fierce. In fact, there is no need to stick to this, just be yourself. If the way of speaking affects the other person or you realize the problem, it needs to be improved.

If bad tone is caused by temper, I think we should pay attention to our temper first. Set yourself a switch, you can set an action score, clench your fist, and let yourself realize that you are losing your temper now. Realize that in the future, try to deal with each other in an objective tone, or simply don't talk and leave the source that makes you unhappy. You can also directly explain to him how you feel now, "Your words sound very uncomfortable" and so on.

In order to make us communicate more smoothly when we realize that we talk too much, you can use languages other than actions and some languages that describe the facts more objectively. Describe objective phenomena as much as possible, and express your opinions, attitudes and emotions relatively little. Look at the problem from the other side's point of view. Sometimes different people have different views on a problem. If the other person's idea is far from yours, don't rush to refute it even if you don't agree. Try to understand, so that you will be calm and your tone will naturally ease.

Sometimes, it is obvious that the inner thoughts are good, but the words spoken are urgent, which may be related to the tone, speed and way of speaking. When communicating with each other, you should look at each other's faces, not just staring at each other's eyes, because this will bring a sense of oppression to each other. Speak slowly. If you are interested in a topic, you might as well smile. When you speak, use "Your words sound …" and "…". Is that right? The beginning or end of "Can I think so ……" makes the expression more gentle. ——

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