Chaoshan wedding twelve-page sticker

The twelfth edition is for parents-in-law and uncle. Just fold the invitation into 12% and write 12.

Chaoshan wedding etiquette:

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When we met and talked, we got to know each other. Both sides thought we could be partners. The matchmaker took the woman's birthdates and gave it to the man. It was called an invitation. The man put Geng Tie in front of Si Mingjun's throne, if there are no ominous signs at home within three days (such as breaking rice bowls and pots). ), it will be fine in a few days. Then they exchanged jobs with each other. Ask the fortune teller for a blind date, thinking that the next step can be taken.

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When we met and talked, we got to know each other. Both sides thought we could be partners. The matchmaker took the woman's birthdates and gave it to the man. It was called an invitation. The man put Geng Tie in front of Si Mingjun's throne, if there are no ominous signs at home within three days (such as breaking rice bowls and pots). ), it will be fine in a few days. Then they exchanged jobs with each other. Ask the fortune teller for a blind date, thinking that the next step can be taken.

3. Employment and re-employment

After the preliminary decision of marriage, the woman will be employed, and the employment form will be written in twelve editions in red paper. Bride gifts include cash, sugar, jewelry, clothes and so on. After the man receives the employment order, he can reduce it as appropriate, but generally he does not reduce sugar. Because sugar is for the woman and for relatives and friends. You can reduce the employment fee, which is called "reducing employment". Now it is generally written that the engagement fee is included. In the reply, the man can also specify what gift he wants the woman to give, that is, add the word (Zuomu Yousheng) at the end of the bride price, and write the following items, such as X double contract and X double blessing cake. The matchmaker will send the employment form back to the woman until there is no disagreement between the two sides. The engagement fee doesn't need an integer of X hundred, because the dialect "Hundred Debts" is unlucky. Add a few numbers after one hundred. Chaoshan people should have a double mantissa, such as four or eight. Because the four are homophonic with the world, it is said that the world is good. Hakka people use nine, nine and long homonyms, which are called long and long.

4. Decision (Wen Ding)

After the engagement ceremony is agreed, the man will choose the date according to the date of both men and women to carry out the engagement ceremony, which is called "fixing" On the same day, the man made a cone-shaped sphere out of brown sugar, called sugar mother. Because sugar is homophonic, it means that sugar mom passed it on to her grandchildren. Some people use white sugar instead of sugar mom. Put pomegranate flowers on sugar. Add brown sugar, cash, jewelry and so on. Compose four samples (of which cash and jewelry can be used to pay employment expenses). The woman came back with two sugar bags, usually wine cakes and sugar. Take its symbolic yeast and ferment Chang Rong. After receiving the candy, the woman distributed it to her relatives and neighbors to tell them the good news. After the date is fixed, the man decides to have a facelift, get a haircut, get married for his birthday and send it to his wife's house. This is called a day off.

5. Employment and reemployment

On the day of engagement, the man sent someone to give the woman a bride price, including bride price money, brocade tea (including reading bag), jewelry, three sacrifices, duck eggs, noodles and so on. And a bottle is essential. The quantity should be one Kyrgyzstan, and Kyrgyzstan and other projects can also be increased. The woman also returned bananas, contracts, pig hearts, bean balls, five seeds, a shrimp grass and spring grass, and taro seeds. There are twelve kinds of red eggs on the handkerchief, rice swill in the hip flask, and the gift money from the reading bag. The man received the gift, cut the pig's heart in half and sent it back to the woman. Husband and wife share a pig heart, which is called concentric liver and lung. Plant spring grass in flowerpots, carefully maintain it, and distribute bananas and contracts to relatives. Get married for about ten days, send bananas, and send invitations when signing the contract. The woman will also invite her in-laws that night. The bride's dowry is generally a basin, a bucket, a chair and a dowry in the room, such as a dresser and a gown cabinet. 2/kloc-0 In the first half of the century, the rich had a dowry called Quanting Mian, which included all the necessities of the bedroom and hall. Such as kang beds, round tables, drum chairs, paired armchairs, suitcases, five buckets (rice bucket, bowl bucket, foot bucket, waist bucket, toilet) dressing tables, gold and silver jewelry, even kitchen tablecloths, and even life boards (coffins) and title deeds in some places. Of course, the engagement fee is much higher. Around 1930s, Hakka bride price was called "money for drinks". What wine goes with what dowry. Wine is graded, and the lowest one is called "rooster". The man only needs two Jin of pork, two pots of wine and a few pairs of eggs to send it to the woman. The higher level is called eating "basket", and the third level is called eating "basket". The fourth kind is called eating "some", and the highest level is called eating (left eye and right sound). According to different grades, the bride's dowry is also different, of course, there are simple and complex differences. This has become a historical topic and has been gradually simplified.

Get married and get married

On the wedding day, the man sent someone to marry the woman. He used to use a sedan chair, then a bicycle, and now he uses a car. When a man gets married, he should write a 12 page post asking the bride to get on the sedan chair, which is called "sedan chair post", and also write several worship posts, such as in-laws, sons-in-law and fathers-in-law. Depending on the specific situation of relatives of both parties, plus sedan chair posts, there must be at least two. It is essential to get on the sedan chair, because the woman thinks that with the invitation to get on the sedan chair, she can say "I was invited by the twelfth edition" regardless of the quarrel between her mother-in-law and her daughter-in-law. In fact, some of them didn't send sedan chairs, so the woman refused to get on the bus and had to go home to make up for it. In addition, we will send you a sedan chair, two pieces of pork, two pieces of introductory tea (sugar packets) and share the money with the brothers. These items were also delivered the day before the wedding. Before the woman gets married, she should invite an aunt with a full house of children and grandchildren to have plastic surgery. On the eve of my wedding, I invited my sisters to eat seven kinds of dishes, among which there must be thick food. Pick up people behind the door. That night, put straw in front of the stove, spread a straw mat on it and sleep on it. According to legend, in ancient times, a stepmother's daughter who abused money arranged this sleeping method. After Qian's daughter became a monk, she actually prospered. Later generations imitated this practice and became this custom. Hakka daughter sleeps with her mother on the eve of marriage. When the daughter gets married, the father sits in a sedan chair, pours a bowl of water on the sedan chair and makes four sentences. Because as the saying goes, "a married daughter is spilled water", which means that a married daughter is like spilled water, which is difficult to recover. Although people's ideas are no longer this set, the old rules still continue to this day. When the daughter gets married, the matchmaker will choose two red cloth bags, which will enlarge auspiciousness (raw oranges), grain seeds, coins, a suit and so on. I remember a nursery rhyme: "The water chicken carries a cloth bag, and the field crab comes to congratulate each other", which means this. In the past, the bride was accompanied by a "green mother-in-law", many of whom were full-time, usually middle-aged women, with decent appearance. She must be eloquent and intelligent. Because from eating to getting married at the dinner table, the man opens the box and obeys the company's orders. She can speak eloquently and export into poetry, and her luck is endless. There is another middle-aged woman with her, called the companion room. In some places, the bride still wants to cry and marry when she gets into the sedan chair, to show that although Chang 'an is happy, it is better to live in an ancient house. On the morning of the wedding, I had breakfast with my sisters at home, which was called "Sister Meal". After the meal, I divided the sisters' money. It is to spread copper coins on the rice net, and then the brothers and sisters touch it from small to large. The day before the man gets married, he should write the words "Kirin is here" with vermilion on red paper. Beds, doors and the whole yard should be pasted up until the bride passes the village entrance. The man marries the bride and gets on the bus, but he can't get off on the way. He had to drive all the way to her husband's house. If he meets another married woman on the road, they should exchange handkerchiefs or towels. When the bride arrives home, someone must report it first. As soon as the bride enters the door, the whole family, old and young, should avoid it and come out after the bride enters the hall. So as not to collide with the bride. When the bride is about to enter the house, she must go through fire and smoke. That is, the straw is tied into a ball to make a fire, and the bride crosses it. It is a good life to make four sentences. After entering the door, the bride and groom should worship Si Mingjun (heaven and earth in some places) and then worship their ancestors. Dinner for relatives and friends at noon, when making reservations, mom and uncle should sit first. The groom's parents should also sit at the table, according to the four themes, each table has four companions, at least in the theme. On this day, the bride will also sit in a big position. Special seats can be set up in the bride's room, so that the bride can sit in the east. At the beginning of the banquet, the mother-in-law who sits first should hold the audience, make a toast and make four sentences to master the audience's dining situation.

When everyone was full, they thanked everyone and invited everyone to drink congou. The main table didn't leave, and they couldn't leave from the table. The master table is gone, so are the slaves. We can't stay. After lunch, the bride offered tea to relatives and guests at home one by one from the elder to the younger generation. When offering tea, you should kneel to your elders. The worshippers will immediately lift the bride (now just kneeling). Drink two cups of tea. Give the bride red envelopes or gold and silver jewelry. This is called "bride tea".

In the evening, neighbors, men, women and children come to see the bride, eat candy, and in some places send out fried peanuts. When the bridal chamber is noisy, it is both joyful and lively. Accompanying the bride can not only increase the courage of the bride's field, but also help the bride and groom clear the gap. Especially in the past, if there were books on the first four sentences, when the bridal chamber was noisy, they sometimes teased each other and used the form of duets. This young woman is a genius for dealing with everyone by herself and improvising.