My sister-in-law packed her old clothes and threw them directly into the trash can. what do you think?

My mother called me and said that there were too many clothes in my hometown. Now she is middle-aged and chubby, and most of my clothes can't be worn, and I can't wear them. It coincided with the Chinese New Year, and she picked up all my old clothes, but she couldn't think of a solution, so she came to me to discuss it.

After all, I have some clothes that I haven't opened yet. The label is still hanging, so I put it aside. In most cases, after wearing it once or twice, I feel that I don't like it and it's not suitable, so I like the new and hate the old, so I abandon it.

My mother said, give these clothes to some relatives to wear and put them on display. If I don't wear it, she can't wear it. If I leave them at home, they will take up space. If I give them away, I can help.

I answered her at that time, don't, just broke her mind.

My plan is to sell those new clothes on the second-hand commodity trading website and recover some costs slightly. She can keep what she can wear. As for the rest, the brightly colored ones should be washed and ironed, and then donated to poor mountainous areas, or directly put into the love recycling box. Those with face, no lining, faded and worn-out ones should simply be thrown away and not given to anyone.

To tell you the truth, I really don't think it's necessary to give old clothes to others. Now, who can't even afford a dress? Even if you really can't afford it, you can't tell whether you helped others or hit them in the face by giving them old clothes.

My mother was persuaded by me later, but she still felt that I was thinking too much and complicated, just sending some old clothes. Do people think so?

Really, as for ... some people may be really kind, but this kindness still advises you to put it away and don't send it out rashly.

Everyone has self-esteem, and everyone has different sensitivity. If you really want to help, spend some money to buy some new ones. It's really inappropriate to send the old one.

Moreover, the reason why some people send old clothes may not really be out of kindness.

Zhang Lin just gave birth to a second child some time ago, and the whole family is very happy. Sister-in-law also specially came back from her husband's house to visit her little nephew. However, it was such a visit that something happened. Zhang Lin got angry at that time, kicked her sister-in-law out with a feather duster, and then completely blackened her sister-in-law because of a pack of old clothes.

Zhang Lin's husband's family, in fact, the conditions are not good, but Zhang Lin has never regretted marrying her husband. Her husband is very kind to her. Most of her husband's family are kind people and get along well. Although I can't afford to buy a house and live with my in-laws, my in-laws always regard Zhang Lin as their own daughter. If there is something delicious, they will let Zhang Lin eat it first and never hide the secret. Therefore, Zhang Lin has always been grateful.

"Although many people think that my marriage is really bad, I always feel that I am really lucky. My in-laws are very kind to me, my husband loves me very much, and I have such a husband's family. I think there are almost no material conditions. After all, I'm not from a noble family. I am an ordinary person. I am very satisfied to have such a home all my life. " Therefore, Zhang Lin did not dare to have a second child. My in-laws are willing to help her with the children. She has nothing to worry about and nothing to be afraid of.

However, there is an exception in a kind family, and that is Zhang Lin's sister. This elder sister-in-law is actually not Zhang Lin's own sister. Before entering the door, Zhang Lin knew that her husband had a younger sister, but it was not his own. After the in-laws found it on the road, they looked pitiful and adopted it.

Because of this, Zhang feels that his future in-laws are kind people, and this family is trustworthy. Later, she trusted her husband more.

Zhang Lin was right. Her in-laws were really kind and easy to get along with, but what she didn't expect was her elder sister, but she was not a person who knew how to repay kindness.

Sister-in-law gets married early and is lucky. She married a husband with good family conditions, but her life is not so good.

Sister-in-law has a bad temper and is not like ordinary people. Zhang Lin also knows her elder sister-in-law from the side.

"My husband said that my elder sister-in-law has been very compassionate since she knew that she was adopted. Obviously, her in-laws and her adoptive parents are very kind to her, but she always feels that her life is not good and everyone owes her.

To tell the truth, my in-laws treat her better than my husband. When I'm away, everything at home comes first. After I came, my in-laws must be equally kind to me, and have never neglected my sister.

But it's not nice to say that she has a husband's family. She can't always live with her family, can she? I don't know what she thinks, but every time she goes back to her parents' house, she will be very satisfied, and she will be very happy if everyone follows her. I really can't understand the significance of her doing so. "This kind of personality, let elder sister's husband's family is not very popular, in-laws don't like her. Although her husband never said he wanted to divorce her, he was cold to her, rarely accompanied her back to her parents' home, and she always ran back frequently.

Zhang Lin actually has no prejudice against her elder sister-in-law, so she doesn't feel very familiar. Every time I come back, my elder sister-in-law is not particularly affectionate with her, which is more invisible.

Zhang Lin is also very generous. Aunt doesn't get close to her very much, so she doesn't get close to her. Anyway, she doesn't live together, and if she doesn't get along, she won't get along, and she never feels unhappy.

On weekdays, greetings should also be played as usual. Occasionally, when I see my elder sister-in-law posting something in a circle of friends, I can also praise her. The rest is really nothing, but just after Zhang Linsheng gave birth to her second child, her behavior made Zhang Lin's peaceful mentality collapse.

After Zhang Lin gave birth to her second child, her husband told Zhang Lin to stop working. Although Zhang Lin's husband doesn't earn much, he works extra hard. He told Zhang Lin that he would try his best to support his two children, including their mother.

After work, it's better to deliver takeout or give someone a ride. Anyway, it is right not to starve their mother. That's what my in-laws mean. They feel that the two children still need their mothers to accompany them. Even if they don't take care of them, it's better than the two old people. Zhang Lin can safely breast-feed the children at home.

That day, my sister-in-law came unexpectedly. This is the first time that eldest sister-in-law went home to see Zhang Lin's two treasures. When she came, she brought a large object in a snakeskin bag and spread it out on Zhang Lin's bed. Zhang Lin was speechless when he saw what was inside.

What's in the snakeskin bag? Some children's clothes and adults' clothes are very old. The key is that many of them are not washed, and there are still stains on them. Children's clothes are even more, with some yellow and old marks on them.

Zhang Lin is puzzled. She didn't understand what elder sister-in-law meant, but she was a little vaguely unhappy and asked.

"Sister, what are you doing with these old clothes?" "Give it to the children and wear it for you." The elder sister-in-law replied.

Zhang Lin was even more angry when she heard this. She directly rejected her elder sister-in-law.

"I appreciate your kindness to the children, but I think I'd better forget it. We are not naked. Take it back. " But the elder sister was upset first: "What do you mean? I kindly brought you clothes. Why don't you take them away? I worked hard to get it. My family is so rich that I don't wear other people's old clothes. Your family is so poor, don't you wear it? "

Zhang Lin's anger at that time had reached the critical point: "Really, I was so angry that I had nothing to say. You don't know her tone of voice. I get angry when I think about it. She married well, but what she said was not someone else's home, but her own. Do you think it is sick? No matter how poor I am, do I have to wear these rags? Do I have to wear other people's second-hand clothes? It's like saying that I only wear this, so I didn't let her wear it. "

Zhang Lin was immediately grabbed by a feather duster, threw himself out and threw it into the trash can outside with his clothes.

"Our home is not a garbage collection station, your kindness away, I don't want it. Besides, you'd better stop saying anything strange to me, or I'll call you once when I see you! " Sister-in-law refused to leave, and Zhang Lin didn't care. She went back to the house to take care of the children and blacked out her sister-in-law. She doesn't want to get along with her anymore.

After a long time, Zhang Lin's husband came back and finally joined hands with her in-laws to persuade her elder sister to leave.

After the elder sister-in-law left, Zhang came out of the room and told the whole story. Zhang Lin's in-laws did not blame Zhang Lin, but sighed heavily. Without saying anything, Zhang Lin's husband burned the old clothes outside with a torch.

Later, Zhang Lin's husband said that he made Zhang Lin suffer. He felt that his sister was right, but he failed to make Zhang Lin live a good life, which made Zhang Lin feel very uncomfortable. Fortunately, the family's heart is towards Zhang Lin, and this matter will go away.

Zhang Lin's elder sister-in-law said that it was out of kindness that Zhang Lin packed a pile of worn-out old clothes. When Zhang Lin didn't want them, he spoke in a derogatory way, without thinking at all. After breaking up with Zhang Lin, she still felt that Zhang Lin was unappreciative, unappreciative, and regarded her goodness as a malice, thinking that she was particularly wronged.

Who do you think is right or wrong about this? If so, will you appreciate such kindness, or will you be like Zhang Lin?

I think if it were me, I wouldn't be any better than Zhang Lin's attitude. As a sister, it is understandable to send old clothes to my sister-in-law.

But my sister-in-law's children have to call her "aunt". If you really love the younger generation, you can send some new clothes, which are not worth much. Why get a bunch of old ones? Even if it is true, it may mean burying people.

Zhang Lin is not a person who is too sensitive and self-respecting. She is a down-to-earth woman who has no great heart to compare with others. Otherwise, she wouldn't marry her husband's family with poor family conditions for love.

Is Zhang Lin's elder sister-in-law, married a rich husband's family, began to feel good about themselves, quite a villain in power mentality, she began to look down on her family, look down on Zhang Lin.

In other words, your marriage is not so perfect, but she just feels that she is much smarter than Zhang Lin and her husband's family is much better, but her marriage with her husband is not happy, and it looks far less than her own life, but she has got an ordinary little happy Zhang Lin, and her heart is unbalanced.

No matter what Sister Zhang Lin's intention is, good or bad, misunderstanding or fact, it should not happen.

Zhang Lin doesn't say, I know many people give old things to others, most of them are really out of kindness, but Yan Fang still advises you not to. Because you don't know what the other person thinks, even if the other person doesn't think much and accepts it, the other family doesn't necessarily think so. In a few words, if you can't say it well, you will interpret your goodness as something else, but it will indirectly affect your feelings. In the end, your kindness did something bad.

Either don't send it, if you really want to send it, then send a new one, even if it is not advanced, but it will never go wrong. Some things, not the more the better, nothing, far better than having.