Everyone else can meet love once in a while, but why did you go on a blind date?

Blind date is a very popular social means involving marriage in modern times. Modern people are busy with their own careers, and some companies explicitly prohibit office romance for fear of affecting work efficiency, which makes more older young people only know their marriage partners through blind date, making blind date more important in people's lives. How can a blind date tell who the other person is?

In fact, when it comes to blind date, it is not that men are not good enough and women are not beautiful enough, but that they are looking for a more direct marriage partner, and both of them are moving in the same direction. As the saying goes, women are afraid of marrying the wrong person. Blind date is of course a way to solve your marriage, but it can't guarantee the happiness of your marriage, so when dating, you must keep your eyes open and observe each other carefully to see if it is necessary to continue, so as not to waste time. So, how to see each other's personality in a short meal?

The girl I work with recently encountered a distressing thing. She talked about a boyfriend, and every date was unbearable, blushing and heartbeat. This is a rare relationship.

Just last weekend, she was worried. She went to calculate a divination, and the diviner on the roadside told her that this boyfriend can't do it now, and he won't be the only thrill.

I mean, aren't you in love? It's only been a few days, and I'm immediately wondering if I can stay together for a lifetime. It's ridiculous to rely on fortune telling.

However, people who know her also know that there is a reason for absurdity. In the past two years, she has dated more than 20 times and met countless men who are as determined to get married as she is.

After she came into contact with them, she met them for a short time, and then she died, but the longer time was no more than a month. In short, they all ended in failure.

This time, I finally met a free lover, but she was cast a shadow by the fortune teller. She feels that love without a future is impossible to persist.

Moreover, the fortune teller's words affected her intimacy with her boyfriend. It bothers her.

In fact, even without the episode of fortune teller, I believe she will encounter the same problem.

Long-term blind date experience has made her have habitual thinking of results, and love has only one purpose: marriage. If you don't get married, the process of love is meaningless.

It's just that once you start thinking about results, the romance in love disappears completely. There is an episode of fortune telling.

But this is definitely not the only drawback of blind date.

Every blind date is a "bad reviewer"

Many older men and women on the blind date road are not social experts, so they can't pick up girls independently and only listen to the matchmaker.

However, the blind date market has always been snobbish, and the lack of any conditions, such as looking at the face, looking at the chest, looking at the money, looking at the car and looking at the house, will become the reason for refusal.

After all, everyone is in business and has no obligation to train social interns. The blind date process can not stimulate the self-confidence of people with weak social skills, but it has gained a lot of bad reviews.

You must have seen the kind of thing when you come back from a blind date-the woman spits that the man has no money and is stingy. Both men and women are ugly and have strange personalities.

Tucao blind date is simply a practice after blind date.

If you spit more, you will find that dissatisfaction is often both sides. You secretly called others ugly and were scolded for being ugly. You say people are poor and old, and people say you are fat and work.

The more times you fail, the less confident you become. Either refuse the blind date business in the vegetable market, or simply break the jar, raise or lower the standard of mate selection without thinking, continue to go to blind date, and finally get more and more depressed and meet all kinds of low people.

Occasionally, there are exceptions, and a person will be addicted to blind date.

I heard a girl say that blind date can eat for free, watch movies for free, drink coffee for free, and eat and drink in the name of blind date; There are also some men who use blind date to make friends to make a wave of dew.

Blind date is destined to be the enemy of romance.

The purpose of blind date is to get married, and it is a clear and deliberate choice to embark on the road of blind date. There is only one purpose when dating-to choose the right person to get married.

In this process, the two sides play games with each other in the way of language question and answer, calculate how much benefit they can get, or ensure that they will not suffer anything.

Although many blind date activities are designed to be romantic, the more deliberate they are, the less romantic they are. Just like sales promotion, no matter how poetic and gorgeous it is, it can't hide the essence of business.

From a subjective point of view, there is not much difference between a group blind date scene and walking into a pork shop.

No matter how well the TAs are dressed, they look different. The last question is just income, house, car, everything is clear, I knew it before I decided whether to hold hands or have a second meal.

Very realistic, very mechanical. In such a pluralistic social era, it is embarrassing to imagine a dull blind date scene.

Students who have been in contact also know that the blind date process should not only understand the hardware configuration of the blind date, but also pursue speed. This process is equivalent to each blind date holding a human manual with various parameters written on it.

It's like buying a mobile phone. Not only the parameters, but also the system optimization and experience. Unilateral hardware parameters will be attractive on the surface, but mature consumers will not only look at hardware parameters.

What's more, life is a hundred times more complicated than digital products, and the experience of interpersonal communication is even more unspeakable. So this blind date mode is destined to be the enemy of romance.

Why not date and end up single?

From the perspective of survival optimization strategy, blind date can be regarded as a straight-to-the-point transaction, which can screen out the right partner more quickly. The process is simple and rude. If it is appropriate to discuss, it will cost money. If it is not appropriate, it will be a pragmatic form.

However, from the perspective of human nature, it is obviously not enough to rely solely on material matching for marriage and love. We should be equal in spirit, compatible in character and mutually exclusive in hobbies. Even after a hundred sentences, silence is self-consistent.

This obviously cannot be drawn from the specific blind date situation. The blind date process is all hardware, so how much time and energy can you have to pay attention to spiritual experience?

Based on these basic facts, I want to say that blind date is aimed at men and women with poor social skills and less social time.

If you have independent social skills, there is no need to go to the muddy water of blind date.

Even if you have poor social skills and little social time, avoid being a blind date. Try to adjust your position on blind date, especially after frequent blind date failures, and reflect on blind date strategies to see where you failed. Then reposition your own mate selection criteria and methods.

I know a young couple, the man is a game planner, and the woman writes YY novels anonymously online. They met because they played online games, added WeChat, and chatted very speculatively. After meeting, they confirmed their love relationship, fell in love for one year, and entered the marriage hall.

I also know a young couple who met on a trip and shared the same interests. They chatted all the way from Guilin to Lijiang and established a love relationship in a shabby little bar in Lijiang. Before getting married, they asked each other if they could get along for a long time. The man said, I will accompany you wherever you go. Women's eyes are flowing and tears are crystal clear.

The people I know may be limited, but I know many love stories. I heard that Starbucks used to meet love when drinking coffee, listening to the radio, playing forums, getting into the elevator and going to a friend's house party?

Love is random and natural. From the unexpected relationship to the established marriage, the passion from hormones enters the interdependence brought by oxytocin, which is a wonderful emotional change that blind date can't bring.

Of course, if your marriage plan is to get married first and then fall in love, that is another matter. However, I don't know how many people can complete the reverse growth of their feelings in marriage.