Ask the fortune teller to help me and my girlfriend see why we always quarrel.

Your date of birth:1982165438+1October 10 0 1: 00 East Eighth District Standard Time.

Your geographical location: east longitude 125.09 degrees, north latitude 42.58 degrees.

Date of birth:1982165438+1October 1 1 02: 00 Eastern District 8 Standard Time.

Geographical location of the other party: east longitude 1 14.58 degrees, north latitude 27.07 degrees.

First, your pursuit of life

⊙ Rational communication is the mainstay

If you get married, communication with each other will be a key point. For a marriage, this has advantages and disadvantages.

The advantage is that you will have a strong desire for each other's language communication, and you hope to exchange views openly with each other. And the language exchange between you is very pleasant most of the time.

But the biggest weakness of your marriage is that the communication between you may stay in non-emotional factors such as thinking, and the emotional communication between you is not as strong as expected. For a love and marriage, emotional communication is more important. Your relationship is sometimes more like a family relationship than love. You are used to talking, not emotional communication.

There is nothing wrong with reason, but in marriage, reason alone is not enough. Of course, if some other factors in your marriage structure ensure the smooth emotional communication, then this rational attitude is still very beneficial.

Second, your emotional needs.

◎ Uncover the secrets hidden in your heart.

Your marriage may require you to do many things that other couples are unwilling to do. These things may be done by other couples to increase their feelings, and it doesn't matter if they don't do it. But for your sake, you have to do this.

If you don't do it and let these things be shelved, you will not only be unable to let the other person feel what you are thinking, but even you don't know what you are thinking. You tend to avoid each other's exploration because you are worried that if you get too close to each other, you will find the secrets hidden in your heart.

Your greatest danger is that you are often not loyal to each other's feelings, or even sometimes you are not just emotional, but actually do something disloyal to each other. You always suppress your worries and fears, which makes it impossible for you to be honest with each other.

What you have to do is: both of you should fully integrate into your feelings, find out what is going on between you and what it is for, and face it directly and sincerely. Don't run away, because the result of running away can only be much worse than what you face honestly.

If you don't know the truth of the matter, your relationship will give you a feeling of being defeated by forces you don't know in life. When this repressed emotion finally reaches its limit, its outbreak will be devastating. However, if you sincerely seek understanding, you will gain great wisdom from your feelings and experience great growth.

Third, your communication.

The pleasure of thinking collision

Your marriage is very valuable for your common development, because you tend to have no ideological obstacles and hope to communicate completely smoothly.

Many other couples may lack good communication skills in some family chores, which will cause cracks in their marriage, and generally you will avoid this problem well. In fact, you will feel a strong desire for oral communication between you. It is even possible that you came together because of the collision of sparks of thought when you first met.

You two not only have a strong desire to exchange ideas and ideas with each other, but also want to get in touch with others, get along and exchange views. You are all willing to communicate with your friends in various ways. You prefer to go out to the outside world, chat with friends, play games and enjoy a happy time, rather than being locked in a small world of two people.

The only thing you should pay attention to is that although jokes and chats are happy, they are inevitably superficial. Any successful marriage needs those profound and serious exchanges. But at this time, it is easy for you to enjoy it and refuse some profound topics. So you should have more meaningful and in-depth communication. If you can avoid possible superficial communication, you two will have an extraordinary future.

Fourth, your emotional interaction.

Share a good feeling

Your marriage will greatly enhance the beauty of both of you

You pay more attention to the pursuit of beauty than before the combination. You will think more about the good things in life and try to fill your home and work environment with good things. You will often go to places where you can find beautiful things together, or you will often talk about beauty and art together, and discuss painting, poetry and music.

In marriage, it is very easy for you to feel each other's feelings, and you can actively express your feelings and exchange each other's feelings. In fact, you tend to talk a lot about how to maintain your relationship, but it is easier to say more than to do it. Be careful not to interpret your love too superficially and rationally, which will be very dangerous. In any case, don't let reason prevail over sensibility at any time. After all, love and marriage need emotional communication more.

Verb (abbreviation for verb) Your personality is displayed.

◎ Contradictions are hidden in my heart.

In your marriage, if you can't coordinate each other's energy, it will have a very significant negative impact. If the energy between you can be released smoothly, you may not feel anything. You two will get along well and have a stable relationship. However, if it cannot be released smoothly, it will face a series of difficulties.

Because the conflict between your self-cognition is deeply buried in your heart, it is difficult to alleviate it through some external channels. These conflicts often occur in seemingly everyday things, and it is easy for you to realize the seriousness of the problem in these things.

If you live under the same roof, this contradiction will eventually be released because of family reasons. You may have different views on how to run a house. If you live with your parents, then your parents may be the direct trigger for the quarrel. But these are not the real reasons. The fundamental problem is that you often suppress your true thoughts too deeply. Once your true ideas about various things are challenged or questioned, they will clearly appear on the level of consciousness, and then you will find that you can't agree with each other's views.

In order to solve these problems, you need to explore your inner thoughts.

Sixth, your philosophy of life.

⊙ the improvement of thinking realm

Your marriage means that you will expand and improve with each other through common experiences and ideas in daily life.

You two work together to help each other get rid of narrow and harsh thinking habits. Moreover, this change is usually a pleasant change and will not cause any unaccustomed.

You will gradually find a better way to deal with daily affairs and get rid of the old way of life. And you will find that after being with each other, you are more and more interested in disciplines such as philosophy to enhance the realm of life. Your combination will raise your life with each other to a new height.

Seven. Your shared responsibility

The important influence of money

Your marriage often means that you are prone to distrust and insecurity in money. In addition, you may always have a strong sense of lack of property and try your best to make money. Money is your biggest concern, so it may also be the biggest cause of problems between you.

Sometimes you live too frugally, and you are too stingy to enjoy life. Similarly, trivial matters about money often lead to various quarrels between you. Therefore, your property and money become the decisive factors that affect your relationship.

In addition, your marriage may face financial constraints for some time. But what causes this situation is often your attitude towards property, which makes you miss many obvious opportunities to make money or fail to keep your property. You are conformist and afraid of taking risks, so that you are on the old road, even though these old roads may lead you to poverty forever.

S cares too much about money, so we must learn to be generous with money, so that we won't miss the opportunity because we can't let it go. In this way, you won't be disgusted with each other.

Eight, your fluctuation factors

Avoid the tension of thinking communication.

Your marriage indicates that marriage will completely change your basic view of life. This change may be a gradual subtle change, or it may be a sudden change in the storm. But change will be inevitable. And you two may constantly express your new way of looking at the world to each other, and at the same time try to change each other's mind.

With the increasing tendency of your marriage, you must avoid putting all your eggs in one basket and make your marriage meet your expectations. If you try to do this, the unstable factors in your marriage will become very obvious, and the communication between you will become strange and divided, which will often make each other angry.

If this state continues, you will eventually feel that being with the other person will make you nervous, uncomfortable and unable to maintain a peaceful mind. There are indeed some couples like you who make progress by challenging each other's ideas. But for marriage, it often means losing stability.

Nine, your potential blind spots

Avoid excessive fantasies about home.

Your marriage is the most two-sided marriage. You have an overly idealistic fantasy about your family, and you are trying to pursue this fantasy wholeheartedly.

What you often say may be "if only we could have a home of our own" or "if only our home could be like this". While fantasizing about each other, you forget that your real family also needs you to work hard. You two only imagine your family in your mind, but you don't pay attention to what happens at home in reality.

Sometimes it means that although your marriage has reached a difficult stage, neither of you has noticed this fact.

If you are asked to give up your fantasy, you may be extremely reluctant. In fact, this is almost impossible. But it is necessary that you learn to recognize reality and let fantasy and reality coexist peacefully in your world. If you can realize this and shift your fantasy to more spiritual pursuits, then there won't be too many problems between you.

Tenth, your life has changed.

Don't take money too seriously

When you two are together, you will find that you begin to have a strong passion for acquiring property, which exceeds all other goals. It seems that unconsciously, you regard matter as the source of changing and manipulating all forces.

You feel that in order to dominate your life, you must control your wealth as much as possible. But it should be noted that too much material greed will eventually lead to wealth dominating you rather than your situation.

Of course, your pursuit is not limited to the material level. Your marriage will bring you strong values. Whether you like this new value or not, you need to accept it. If you reject this new value, it will become the source of all your contradictions. Similarly, if you are not flexible enough to accommodate each other's value system, it may also lead to conflicts between you.

But on the whole, the pursuit of property or material is likely to eventually become a decisive factor limiting the development of your husband and wife relationship, or at least a controlling factor for the success or failure of your marriage. You must learn to accurately evaluate the importance of wealth to you, and don't take it too seriously, because together, you tend to care too much about it.

First, the quantitative distribution of various features.

☆ Excellent interaction: 3.

○ Advantage interactive power: 9

⊙ Neutral interactive forces: 2

◎ Adverse interaction force: 1.

● Fatal interaction: 0

Second, the specific characteristics of interactive analysis

☆ Luck and opportunity are inseparable.

It should be said that you are a very good couple, at least to outsiders, you will be a very lucky couple. You often have a common outlook on life, and together, you can provide more opportunities for each other's development. Many times, one of two people will bring more wealth to the other, at least the opportunity of wealth; In turn, the other party will provide a lot of support to the other party.

With your marriage, your sense of luck will be greatly improved, so to some extent, it also provides a source of motivation for the harmonious coexistence between the two sides. At the same time, your luck is not only manifested in the material level, but also beneficial to the other person's spiritual realm. Through joint efforts, both sides can greatly improve their life realm. Your combination not only represents the immediate luck, but also represents the joy of growth. Therefore, even if they don't become husband and wife in the end, getting along will have a very positive effect on each other.

☆ Pleasure and opportunity coexist.

It is easy for you to have a fun attraction, and you will feel warm more easily because of each other's company. Moreover, after you get to know each other, it seems that you have opened the door to your own life opportunities at the same time. You have a feeling similar to a new life, and new opportunities are beckoning to you.

You have so much to share, and there is always happiness together. And you will tend to like each other's complete self. In other words, in your eyes, the advantages of the other party are advantages, and the disadvantages can also be advantages. In this way, many difficulties that other couples can't overcome are easier for you to overcome because you are tolerant of each other.

Even if it's really hard, we can't get together in the end. But looking back on the days we spent together, we will still find that the harvest is far greater than the pay.

☆ Warm and true romantic feeling.

There will be a very romantic feeling between you, and you can easily feel each other's love deeply. The love between you ensures that you can overcome many difficulties and obstacles that others can't face and make your marriage more stable and lasting. Usually, there is no stormy love between you (unless there are other factors), so this gentle and warm feeling of love is enough for you to maintain a long-term and beautiful relationship.

You are like lovers and friends, you can share more with each other than when the two relationships exist alone. At the same time, your combination has a strong parental instinct, so it is your desire to have a child after marriage, and the arrival of the child will become an important factor for a more stable relationship between you.

○ The greater the setback, the stronger the combination.

Maybe you will face many practical difficulties together, and there may be some difficult times that you need to spend together. But fortunately, you have the greatest degree of consensus on the difficulties. Instead of giving up the other person's insistence because of difficulties, you will try to overcome it. And sharing weal and woe, the experience of sharing weal and woe between you will make your relationship closer.

Maybe many couples fly separately in the face of disaster, but you can face difficulties and work hard. Your spirit is very worthy of the envy of other couples. Of course, this feature itself does not guarantee whether you love each other. But if you are in love, having this feature will undoubtedly increase the stability of your marriage.

○ Common hobbies, common fun

It should be said that having this characteristic is very beneficial to marriage. Because this feature ensures that you have many common hobbies, you usually like to spend your leisure time with each other. For a peaceful society, whether two people can constantly discover different strengths in their daily life is an important indicator of marital happiness.

Too many couples are bored with the trivial things after marriage, but usually you don't, but you can constantly feel good emotional interaction with each other.

But there is a danger that the communication between you usually shows that it is difficult for you to treat each other objectively and rationally (unless there are other qualities to make up for this), so if you are not suitable in many other ways, but are attracted by the fun of accompanying each other, then you are likely to end up with a strong love-hate relationship. Breaking up is hard, too. After all, when I think of the good times we spent together, there will always be a reluctant plot between two people. At this time, the lethality of love memory can be reflected.

Integration of sensibility.

There is a strong subjective emotion between you, and it is easy for you to have a strong emotional adhesion with each other. But the danger is that you may not be able to objectively tell whether there is a problem between you, and it is easy to fall in love when your mind is hot. However, for intimate relationships, being alone is still good.

○ Work together to create opportunities.

You have a certain degree of tacit understanding, and both communication and cooperation are relatively smooth. At the same time, there is a normal attraction between you. Usually, you don't need to hide anything between you, you can completely show your true self. Therefore, this is a very comfortable interactive feeling.

At the same time, you usually don't have too many troubles about who belongs to whom and who overwhelms whom, but develop in equal joint efforts. This overall coordination has laid a good foundation for the development of your marriage.

Strong sexual attraction

It should be said that you are usually not an objective and rational communication attitude. You can obviously feel each other's physical attraction and send a strong sexual signal to each other. And you don't suppress your enthusiastic reaction at ordinary times, and you will devote yourself to bed sports. Therefore, sex is an important bond between you and makes it easy for you to enjoy it.

However, you can't expect each other to remain detached and rational, because this feature will dilute your rational factors and make each other more emotionally integrated into each other. Similarly, if you have some possible sexual defects that can't satisfy your partner's strong sexual desire, it may be very troublesome.

Share the wonderful fun together.

You usually don't limit each other's self-expression, but appreciate each other's characteristics. You usually don't make unrealistic demands on each other.

At the same time, you will be willing to attend various activities with each other, and you will also be willing to share art and watch performances together. This common artistic pursuit can greatly enrich each other's life fun.

○ Express ideas clearly and directly.

There is not much cover-up in your communication. Usually if you have an idea, your first reaction is: say it. Because of the existence of the other person, your thinking is more energetic. It is even possible that you will deliberately lure the other party to start some language quarrels and take pleasure in arguing.

If you have many other contradictions, then this feature may have separated you in the early stage of your relationship. But if you have a tacit understanding as a whole, it is actually a great advantage to have such characteristics. Imagine, as a husband and wife, how can there be no dissatisfaction with each other, but many people endure it for the sake of immediate harmony. But this tolerance has accumulated, and in the end, new accounts and old accounts are counted together, which is really harmful. On the other hand, if you are unhappy, say it out, clearly tell each other what you think, and usually don't like to hold grudges. This actually helps to ease the tension between husband and wife and make their lives full of vitality.

○ Both material and spiritual harvests

When you two come together, not only can you have a more optimistic life experience, but you can also open up opportunities for each other to gain more material wealth. You two usually don't force each other to make changes against each other's wishes, but are more willing to accept each other's current personality and behavior.

Both of you will broaden your horizons because of each other's looks, and your marriage life will not fall into simple stereotypes. Even, you can find different beauty in ordinary life.

○ Passion like fire

Couples with this characteristic are usually very energetic. You are United, and there is no lack of common enthusiasm and motivation. Many other couples' troublesome tasks can be easily completed by you. It also means that if you can work together, you will gain more than just the simple marriage itself. Indeed, you really need to find a common career or activity, at least you should take part in sports or outdoor activities together.

Another place to show your great energy is in bed. The sudden desire between you is almost dizzy with beauty. As you can imagine, as long as there are no other too serious interactive forces, your performance in bed must be particularly fragrant.

Rational communication atmosphere

Relatively speaking, you won't fall into the quagmire of excessive emotions. Usually you are a little rational besides each other's feelings. You can analyze the problems between you relatively objectively, and you will not be at a loss because of difficulties, showing great negative emotions. This rational communication atmosphere should be said to be a very good trend for modern society.

However, you also need to avoid taking an overly rational attitude towards feelings. After all, marriage is for married life, not a business alliance that completely abandons subjective feelings, so not everything can be solved by reason. If you try to be rational all the time, you will gradually feel alienated from each other. This needs to be avoided as much as possible.

I like oral communication.

You will be a couple who like to communicate with each other, especially sharing their feelings through chatting. Although this tendency of loving communication itself can not explain the quality of your marriage, after all, it is good for the stability of marriage to communicate and discuss well in this era.

But this influence may also bring some negative effects. For example, you may be too fond of discussing problems between two people rationally and arguing about a right or wrong question. But you must remember that marriage is sometimes irrational, and no one is right or wrong. Even, sometimes we have to ignore some mistakes. If there are some bad interaction forces between you (after all, perfect marriages are rare), then your attitude towards the problem may be counterproductive. This is something you must work hard to overcome.

asceticism

Generally speaking, this feature is not wrong, but for our usual sense of husband and wife, this feature is not so optimistic. Indeed, you symbolize the perfect combination of dream and reality. One of them will help the other realize his dream with a down-to-earth spirit, and the other will provide this dream. However, there are so many spiritual interactions between you that you even feel that your sex is unclean. It's unlikely that one of you wants it and the other is not in the mood. What's more, you two have no sexual needs for each other.

Therefore, if you are still young, you must think clearly about your motives before choosing such a relationship to enter marriage.

Quite a good marriage:

There is only the possibility of conflict between you on a few issues. If you give full play to the strength of your advantages in communication, your marriage will be easy to last for a long time.

You are a good couple. Persistence and patience will eventually win!