I want to find a great god to help me see when it is appropriate to get engaged.

According to the information you provided, you and your fiance were born on 1987, the fifth day of the eighth lunar month and the second day of the third lunar month respectively. According to the traditional eight-character fortune-telling in China, we need to know the birth time of you and your fiance, so as to accurately determine the best wedding date. Therefore, the following suggestions are for reference only.

According to the eight-character relationship, it is suggested that you get married in June, July, August or October of this year (2023). These months have a good relationship with you and your fiance's horoscope, which will help your marriage to be stable and happy.

At the same time, the choice of wedding date should also consider other factors, such as the work, family situation and preferences of both parties. Therefore, I suggest you discuss with your fiance and family before choosing the wedding date, and make a balance and decision according to the actual situation.