You said that you should be happy with everything in your life, but there is a kind of pain that you can't do without seeing it.

There are a few words written in front:

Once upon a time, you and I, young and frivolous, believed in such a life creed-

How can you know what you want without walking and trying?

The problem is that if you adopt this strategy for a long time, your future will be very dangerous.

Because in this life, there are two things that will make you feel pain-

One is that we can't see it and the other is that we can't do it.

In such a life, frustration is more of a wake-up call, always reminding you-

It's time to change a life strategy.

First, you want to be content with the status quo, but there is no chance to "follow the fate"

In reality, many people have been playing a game all their lives, called "Meeting".

"I can't wait for a suitable career, so I will continue to work hard."

"How can you know what you want if you don't walk around when you are young?"

"Plan this kind of thing, and then consider it after thirty years old."

Once, I went to Nanjing to hold an open class, and Xiao Ting I met was such a person.

Xiao Ting was 28 years old. After graduation, she believed in the life creed of "happy-go-lucky" and felt that life was limitless. So she tried various occupations, worked odd jobs to open a clothing store and traveled every once in a while. To outsiders, this kind of life in Xiao Ting should not be too fashionable.

However, at the age of 28, Xiao Ting suddenly felt something was wrong.

She had no choice but to find out that she still didn't know what she wanted after trying for a while. She has tasted setbacks and hardships all the way, but it seems to be of no use.

"Maybe you won't believe it. I still have nothing. I didn't leave any savings before opening a clothing store, but I played it all. Look at the classmates around you. Many of them were not as good as me at first, but they all achieved the position of department heads. Now I am faced with career choices, and suddenly I find that many opportunities have closed the door to me. It is difficult for the company to accept a 28-year-old newcomer to the workplace. " Xiao Ting said.

I have come into contact with a case like Xiao Ting more than once or twice.

Second, there is a kind of pain called missing.

Some people, like Xiao Ting, worked hard until they were thirty-five, and suddenly found that they had no expertise in the professional field. That kind of anxiety, confusion and pain has long gone beyond the scope of words.

This kind of life, we call it "social life".

In Meet Life, many people try to meet a lover and a suitable career by luck. However, the cruelty of reality is that in this life, the first thing you have to face is the risk of "not meeting".

As far as occupations are concerned, there are about 2,000 occupations in the People's Republic of China (PRC) Vocational Classification Ceremony. However, a person can try about 7-9 career opportunities at most in his life.

A cruel fact is in front of you and me, that is, meeting the right career is absolutely a small probability event.

When you bump all the way to the level of 30, you will find that many opportunities have closed the door for you, whether it is love or career.

You don't have the age advantage of young people, and your carelessness and freewheeling are professional taboos in the eyes of any HR.

Third, there is a kind of pain called failure.

When it comes to dreams, many people give me the same answer-being an actor, opening a coffee shop, opening a book, a flower shop, traveling around the world, fashion design and starting a business. ......

However, you will eventually find that the dream competition is more intense than the real competition.

Because there are not many interesting dreams, only a few.

On the road of dreams, people only see successful people, and more people are in a more embarrassing situation-that is, they can't realize their dreams and don't want to return to ordinary life.

These people eventually drifted away from life and became "bystanders".

They are disgruntled, unhappy and extremely sensitive;

When they talked about the ugliness of society, they were filled with indignation. The temporary venting made them find an excuse and comfort for their failure, but soon, this kind of happiness vanished and was replaced by a lot of pain and confusion.

They will cry when they hear sad songs, and they will be very emotional when they brush their circle of friends and see chicken soup.

For this group of people, dreams are a poison. Facing the reality, they kept wrestling, being hit and frustrated, but these didn't seem to play any positive role except aggravating their sense of powerlessness and frustration.

Fourth, relying too much on planning will eventually hurt you.

In an uncertain era, you need to plan your career in advance, but if you rely too much on planning or forecasting, I am afraid it will also hurt you.

Just as the fortune teller told you, your future lover should be in the southeast.

As a result, one day, you met a northwest girl who was kind to you. Without the guidance of fortune telling, you can finally marry her. It's a pity that you took these words seriously, so you missed a good marriage again and again. In the end, what is more troublesome than complaining and complaining is that you have wasted your life.

Such setbacks and costs make it difficult for people to turn over.

Many times, we overestimate our courage and strength, but underestimate the fatal blow and destruction of setbacks to a person.

Five, the best life strategy

Today, what kind of strategies should we adopt for our life and career?

0 1

If you don't know where you are going, then constant change is the most effective strategy.

A reader friend once shared one of her tips with me, that is-

Don't rush to give time, but rush to see your own wishes.

If you don't know the world and where you are going, then the best strategy is to practice the ability to live a good life everywhere. When you have enough vision and ability, today's difficulties are not enough to constitute future troubles.

To quote the previous example, no matter whether this girl is from the southeast or the northwest, you can take her to the southeast and start a new life.

This kind of life is called "creating life"

02

In the process of creating life, you need to adapt to uncertainty.

In life, people are used to leaving their fate to the outside world, unwilling and too lazy to think;

When planning life, people tend to leave their fate to so-called experts and seek peace of mind for themselves;

In the process of creating life, you hold the rudder of your own destiny. Facing every uncertainty, you need to react quickly and find your own light in the vast sea of life.

03

Only thinking and action can turn setbacks into wealth.

As a career counselor, I firmly believe that everyone has the ability to reflect and examine their own situation.

If you are meeting life, please turn back as soon as possible. This kind of frustration in life will only make you more and more confused and powerless.

If you are planning your life, please consider several possibilities, because the times are changing every day, and you should speed up the pace of upgrading;

If you are creating life, you need to always be vigilant, always contend with inertia and greed, keep a keen insight into the outside world and cultivate your own strong heart.