The ancients said: "If you are over forty, you will not worry about two things;" If you are over 50, don't worry about two people. " Do you know what this means?

People will have different views on things as they get older, especially after the golden age and middle age. No more youthful blood, more mature and steady, more thinking is also your responsibility. It is true that at this time, we are shouldering the lives of parents, lovers and children, and we can no longer move forward as unscrupulously as we did when we were young. The ancients also realized this, and the wisdom of treating people after middle age has long been rendered in various literary masterpieces of historical subsets. Even folk sayings have such inculcation. This sentence "people over forty, don't do two things" is the embodiment of the wisdom of the ancients in this respect, and the second half sentence is even more enlightening.

Forty years old is undoubtedly the beginning of life entering dusk. At this time, we are no longer as carefree as when we were young. Family has undoubtedly become our backbone. Everything we do is not only for ourselves, but also for our family. At this moment, the responsibility on our shoulders is even greater. Our choices and actions must be responsible to every member of the family. Any impulsive and blind choice may bring a blow to the family. But now it is difficult to "spin a thousand pieces of silver and take it all back!" Just like when you are young, so what should be managed and what can't be managed is like a mirror in your heart.

First of all, don't worry about what you can't do. After your struggle in the first half of your life, your family needs stability and self-cultivation at this time, just as ancient countries need to recuperate after the war. At this moment, the elderly need to be raised, the children need to be raised, and the lover needs to be cared for. If you want to spend too much money on human resources at the moment, you will not only overdraw yourself, but also your family. In the end, it is extremely unwise to help those families who are still in trouble, because at this time, if you want to accumulate again, things have changed, so when you face what you can't do, you must first think of your family.

Secondly, it is meddling. At the age of forty, we should put more energy into the family and the responsibility of educating the next generation. If you put the cart before the horse at this time, you will still spend your mind on some insignificant tricks. First, you will ignore the education of your children, and second, it will affect family relations. We all know that the family needs careful care, and it is undoubtedly more important to spend more time with parents, lovers and children at this age. My parents have worked hard for us for half a lifetime, and life is already over half. What they want in life is filial piety and filial piety, and they can love each other all their lives. Children are the sustenance and hope of the family, just like saplings. Xunzi also said that "wood is straight for rope, and gold is sharp", so it is undoubtedly the responsibility of parents to do a good job in rope.

And at the back of this proverb is written: "People over 50, don't worry about two people." At the age of 50, they have almost spent most of their lives, but at this moment, many things are beyond their ability. The only thing they should do is to keep calm and calm in a quiet heart. If you meet two special people at this time, you should stay away from them. The first kind is a villain. Such people are narrow-minded, and they have to haggle over every penny. Often because of some trivial things, offending such people will undoubtedly make people fidgety, but at the age of 50, they can't stand the toss, and peace is particularly important. The second is jealous people, narrow-minded and haggle over every ounce. I often go to great lengths for trivial things. If I see something better than it, I will lose it. If I see something worse than this, I will be cynical. It's really hard to understand. It's undoubtedly exhausting to associate with such people at the age of 50.

The way of the world has been learning since ancient times. The ancients highly summarized it and passed it on by word of mouth in the form of proverbs, which made people have to respect it. However, there are countless examples that have fallen short because of this. In fact, we should not only pay attention when we are forty or fifty years old, but also be vigilant when we are young. Encountering these things and people will undoubtedly make people worry.