What do you think of your destiny?

I remember that people often tell my fortune. Growing up, my mother would ask someone to tell my fortune whenever she had the chance. At that time, she told me that you can't do whatever you want. What kind of person you are destined to be, you can't change or choose. Therefore, you should focus on the foundation rather than the ideal. When the fortune teller said what kind of setbacks I would encounter, she also told me that when I grow up, I need to be careful not to go the wrong way, or I will encounter bad luck.

At that time, the textbooks told us that fortune tellers were charlatans, and the "dogma" of "believing in science and not being superstitious" was deafening, so I thought it was all nonsense when I was a child. The teacher said that fate is in our own hands, not calculated. So I never trusted my mother at that time. I think she scared me.

When I was a teenager, I was an extremely naughty and stubborn child. So, I am often beaten by my mother. She often hits me and keeps instilling in me the concept of fate, telling me to be careful, and I will be punished for fooling around.

I don't know whether her slap has a deterrent effect or her words have a threatening effect. I often feel scared. I often wake up in the middle of the night to see if there are ghosts in my small room, because I feel that something has been watching me, directing me and controlling me. I often think that maybe something bad will happen tomorrow. So I gradually restrained my prank, because I was afraid that fate would retaliate against me-who knows how many children were instructed by fate to oppose me at that time? Who knew that fate would arrange a big stone to trip me up when I was not looking at the road? So, I must be careful.

When I became more and more sensible, I regarded "fate" as the most important and crucial thing in my life by default.

This kind of consciousness has been growing with me.

In fact, I have never been superstitious. I don't believe what the fortune teller said was his prediction. I know what they say about "predicting the future" is sheer nonsense. I know better that it is not ghosts and gods that guide me to grow up, but myself.

But I still tell myself: believe in fate.

I often use "God's arrangement" to summarize the death of some people, and I often use "fate" to summarize the gains and losses of many things. When I encounter setbacks in my study and work, when my interests are infringed, when I fail to discuss things with others, I tell myself that this is fate, and I have no choice.

At the beginning of 2009, I met a numerology teacher in Beijing and asked him some questions about numerology and physiognomy. He told me that these problems actually belong to the philosophical category, and every cause and effect is the best explanation of "fate". The fortune teller said that the future would come true because of its suggestibility. Some people can predict the future of others by reading their palms and faces, because they penetrate the soul through their hands and faces and discover their own characteristics. That's all.

I have always understood that my so-called belief in fate is only to comfort my failure, to tell myself to live freely and not complain so much, to imply that many disappointments in life are inevitable, and to convince myself that there is actually a model for what tomorrow will look like, and this model is determined by myself today. Just like I planted some seeds today, after half a month, "destiny takes a hand" will grow something new.

As my mother told me later, fortune tellers can't predict your future, but fate does exist. It is in your body, in your heart.

At that time, I was grateful that my mother told me a lie about my fate when I was a child. I see, she just used fate to guide her children to grow up carefully. I knew that there were more scientific and wonderful things in her education methods than in textbooks in those years.

Thanks to "fate" for teaching me to grow up. Thanks to Fate, I realized the philosophy of fate in the process of growing up. Thanks to "fate", I learned to understand and use "fate" in a non-decadent way.

What about you? Dear readers, what do you think of fate?