Why aren't Baoyu and Daiyu together?

He really went to become a monk. At first, she was angry about it, but she didn't think what he said was true. Lin Daiyu is actually not so strict with Baoyu. He had a physical relationship with Xiren, and he was also suspected of having a physical relationship with Bi Hen Musk Moon. Also suspected of being gay with Qin Zhong. As a noble family, Lin Daiyu is very open to "physical infidelity". She knew that he loved her, but she didn't expect that she was in his world.

When reading a novel, you must put aside some prejudices.

When I was a child, the teacher talked about a dream of red mansions, saying that Baochai's love tragedy and Baoyu's marriage tragedy were all caused by a feudal family. It seems that the elders of the Jia family forcibly separated Yuanyang, but after reading the text of A Dream of Red Mansions carefully, I found that this was not the case at all.

First, correct an illusion ―― Is Lin Daiyu well treated in Jia's family? Fair enough. First of all, her father, Lin Ruhai, is the proud son-in-law of the Jia family ―― his ancestors once attacked Liehou, and he himself is a flower picker. This is called "noble", promising and respectable. I was ordered to inspect the salt empire in Yangzhou and know a little about the ancient economy. At that time, the monopoly of salt and iron was a fat job. Even if Lin Ruhai is innocent, his family will never be poor. You know, Daiyu's mother, Jia Min, was the only big lady in the heyday of Jiafu, and she had no worries about food and clothing (Jia Min's growth was personally stamped by her sister-in-law Mrs. Wang). Just say that now your sister Lin's mother, when she was unmarried, was so spoiled and expensive, just like the scandal in My Lovely Girl. "。 Now these sisters are just a little better than other girls. "), so solemnly, married people are more selective. After Lin Ruhai's death, Jia Lian and others helped to arrange the affairs. Lin family property was merged into Jia family, and Lin Daiyu was brought into the group. In fact, few people dare to show her face.

Conventionally, we think that Jia people are not good to her, mainly for these reasons: 1. When Lin Daiyu first entered the Jia family, she was "careful step by step, always worried, and refused to say a word easily and walk a few more steps", so she introduced her humble mentality of "relying on others". No, Cao Xueqin made it very clear that Lin Daiyu grew up with a simple family composition. "Your father will be over 500 years old and has no plans to continue the family. Besides, you are sick and very young, without the support of your mother and your brothers and sisters. " Lin Daiyu grew up almost in a threesome environment. Now she is going to grandma's house alone, and grandma has never met her. Besides, isn't caution the quality of a boudoir lady?

Jia's servant is very disrespectful to her. Quote is a passage sent by Zhou Rui's family to Hua Gong:

Daiyu only looked at Baoyu's hand and asked, Is it just for me or for other girls? Zhou Rui's family said that you all have them. These two branches belong to the girl. Daiyu sneered, I knew others wouldn't give me the rest if they didn't pick it. Hearing this, Zhou Rui's family was silent.

This passage is not only used to prove that Jia's employers look at people, but also often used to prove that Lin Daiyu is narrow-minded and difficult to get along with. But from another point of view, Zhou Rui's family is Mrs. Wang's escort room, which belongs to a higher rank among servants. If Daiyu really worked hard in Jiafu, where did she get the courage to face Zhou Rui's family? Isn't she afraid of Zhou Rui's family giving her a hard time?

In fact, I think this is the tone of an adolescent girl, and it is a self-pity attack of a girl whose parents are dead. "Only those who are favored have nothing to hide." Lin Daiyu's cautious attitude when she first entered the Jia family turned into a "good girl demeanor" who dared to run on servants like this, which just shows that the Jia family raised her well. It's probably just that Lin Daiyu was unhappy that day. She knew very well that she was the baby in the grandmother's heart, so she dared to be unhappy and let the servants be unhappy for a while.

3. Lin Daiyu's poems, such as "360 days a year, wind, frost and swords are hard to bear each other", really make people wonder whether Jia Fu is mentally abusing her.

Is it difficult to survive in Jiafu? Of course, it's hard. Many people talk a lot and have no parents' pet. Although Jia loves her, she is everyone's elder, unlike her mother, who is her own mother. But the "harshness" she felt was added by her own personality-she came to "return tears" and said that she was "more knowledgeable than her", so she felt more difficulties. But objectively speaking, Jia Fu knows that Jia Fu loves her, and it is really impossible to embarrass her face to face. It can be seen from Feng's words that at the 50th meeting, she and Pinger were discussing Jia's expenditure in the next few years. She said, "Baoyu and Sister Lin are married, but the official can't make money, and the old lady takes it out herself"-look, it's the old lady's own money, Lin.

Ok, let's discuss it next. Are there really so many people in the Jia family trying to break up Baodai?

There are some, but-the young couple actually don't have so many enemies, and the elders' will to "not look good" is not so strong.

In fact, some elders are still very happy about this marriage. The most obvious example is that Wang Xifeng teased Lin Daiyu and said, "You ate our tea, why don't you be our wife?" The only person in the Jia family who wants to urge Baochai to marry Baoyu is Baoyu's mother, Mrs. Wang, and Wang Xifeng is Mrs. Wang's niece. Supposedly, she should be Baochai's client, but in A Dream of Red Mansions, Wang Xifeng and Baochai have little communication. Instead, she told Daiyu a joke, "Why don't you be our daughter-in-law?" It can only show that 1 Feng Chili likes Lin Daiyu very much. After all, they have different personalities.

Obviously, only Yuan Chun, Mrs. Wang and Aroma want to combine Baoyu and Baochai.

The reason why xiren and Baochai are close is very simple. She was assigned to Baoyu as a maid, that is, a concubine. From the servant's point of view, she prefers Baochai, a mistress who is emotionally stable and lenient to her servants. From the perspective of "doing good for Baoyu", she thinks Baochai can better urge him to make progress. Baoyu was more afraid of Baochai and obviously relaxed about Daiyu. He even joked with Zijuan: "If you have feelings, how can you make the bed?" This is similar to the yellow cavity in the modern sense. Therefore, xiren must hope that Baochai will be in the upper position, which will play an effective role in regulating Baoyu, and it will not be too difficult to be a man by herself.

But xiren's opinion is really too unimportant.

The authority is Mrs. Wang. After all, it's her son, and marriage is still her call. Mrs. Wang's attitude towards Lin Daiyu is always faint. On the one hand, she knows a little about the world. It's really hard to be particularly close to her aunt and niece. On the other hand, Daiyu estimated that her appearance was not Mrs. Wang's type. We all know that Mrs. Wang hates Qingwen very much and says that she is a beauty. Moreover, in A Dream of Red Mansions, it is clearly stated that Qingwen's appearance is "water snake, cut shoulders, and her eyebrows are somewhat like your sister Lin." At the same time, Lin Daiyu has been hanging out with Jia Baoyu since childhood, but it has not played a positive role in persuading. On the contrary, Jia Baoyu went further and further on the road of "incompetence in the world, unparalleled in ancient and modern times". To put it bluntly, Lin Daiyu is really a "fox" in the eyes of Mrs. Wang. Mrs. Wang is neither a bad person nor a saint. She is just an ordinary mother-in-law mentality.

What's more, Baochai is her niece and the relationship is very clear. Mrs. Wang is a staunch partner of good fortune.

Yuan Chun also supports Baochai. After her mother died, she gave presents to her brothers and sisters on the Dragon Boat Festival. Baoyu and Baochai are in the same class, and Daiyu and Yingchun's sister are in the same class. Her love for Baochai, 1, is to respect her mother's wishes. After all, she is the daughter of Mrs. Wang's in-laws. Secondly, Baochai is a bit like a low-key version of Yuan Chun. She is the Jia Yuanchun who didn't enter the palace. Her plain and low-key poems are exactly what Yuan Chun likes, while Miss Lin Daiyu is full of pride.

Chai Dai Party tug of war.

Support Baochai led by Mrs. Wang and Yuan Chun.

Support Daiyu led by Jia Mu and Wang Xifeng.

Baoyu himself has long been steadfast. People say, "I'll become a monk when you die."

Neither side made things too ugly, and everyone wanted to wait and see. After all, Baochai is an only child and has reached marriageable age.

there is still a lot of time.

There is plenty of time, that's the word. When you read A Dream of Red Mansions, you will find that the first eighty chapters go by so slowly. Nothing seems to have happened except Qin Keqing's death and Yuan Chun's mother. The boudoir flirting of "seeing off Hua Gong Jia Lian and beating Xi Feng" is also a round, and the quarrel of "going to radish and jasmine powder" is also a round. In fact, in the last 80 years, Jiafu has been in a state of resurgence, and it is really going downhill. Even outsiders in Leng Zixing can see that "the shelf outside is not very down now, but the capsule inside has come up". All the foreshadowing of "defeat" has been buried, but Cao Xueqin is still slowly writing about the disputes, jealousy, trivialities and confessions between Bao and Dai.

I thought it was a tragedy. Isn't it tragic to tear up beautiful things for people to see? Cao Xueqin made great efforts to write about the beauty of this relationship. He wrote about the process of getting to know each other, and he made them face the test of rival in love. When we read the part of the Grand View Garden, we can use classmates instead ―― Baochai is a beautiful and beautiful elder sister who just transferred to another school, while Baoyu was busy earlier and everyone was close? Daiyu's attitude towards Baochai is a bit like a clever student in the class looking at the monitor, but also a little envious of others' calmness and hypocrisy. Her little boyfriend is also suspected of having an affair with others, so there will be bad blood. Later, she and Baoyu confirmed their feelings for each other, and felt that Baochai was really good to her, so they completely became girlfriends with Baochai.

I don't like to see people say Baochai has a bad personality and is a scheming bitch. I don't even think Baoyu likes her that much, and she doesn't like Baoyu that much. A bedroom is decorated like a "snow cave" with no decoration at all. How can a person go to all the trouble to marry a careless constantly chauffeured?

When we read novels, we should not label the characters or deify them. Just like Bao Dai is a junior high school couple, what they do is actually very close ―― watching The West Chamber together, similar to secretly reading romance novels or idol dramas together today, and Baoyu swears "I will become a monk when you die"? It can also arouse the empathy of young couples. A friend once heard her boyfriend say, "I will remember you all my life, and I won't know you until you turn to dust." She felt something was wrong when she was moving. There is even a god who is helping nightingale. She "tested" Baoyu, saying that Sister Lin was going back to Suzhou, which scared Baoyu silly. Look at this scene, it's more like you quarreled with your boyfriend. Your girlfriend called and said, "Hey, if you don't make peace, xxx will make peace with others?"

The reason why it is said to be a great love tragedy is that it is delicate and colorful, and it can still poke our readers hundreds of years later, so that its demise can be called a love tragedy. No one will think that the half-hearted marriage between Xiangzi and Tigress is a love tragedy, right? That is the tragedy of life.

Touching my conscience, in the first 80 times, everyone in the Jia family could complain bitterly, but the Baodai couple were good fortune tellers. Yingchun is weak, Tanchun is smart and powerful, but she is an unmarried woman. There is also a mother who always gives her an impression. Cherish that Chunchun is so small, and ignore all emotions. Feng wants to catch rape cases and find ways to make money. Shi Xiangyun even has to do needlework to supplement her family. Baochai has an unworthy brother. Not to mention the servant girl, it took only a few days from "disappointing" to being expelled from the Grand View Garden. But in the first eighty chapters, Baodai's life was really comfortable. Baoyu only needs to worry that his father won't find out what he did, and Daiyu only needs to worry about whether Baoyu hooked up with another sister. They are really like middle school students from well-off families, worrying about assigning new words and falling in love with each other.

In fact, the storm was very close at that time, but they didn't notice it.

In fact, there were many tragedies of youth in the first eighty chapters, such as Jin Chong jumping into a well and Qingwen being fired, but these things had limited shock to Baodai. They were sheltered by wealth and Jia Mu, and they confirmed their feelings to each other. They were really carefree until the last moment.

But the storm didn't detour after all. Daiyu was seriously ill, Baoyu got married, Jiafu withered, and the upheaval behind it came so quickly. It is so easy to subvert the warmth and happiness carefully constructed in the first eighty times.

As for why Baoyu wants to marry Baochai, I think the possibility of "switching" is too small. The Xue family is also proud. Put yourself in the other's shoes. Will you let your daughter become somebody else's body, body double, and marry Jia Baoyu? Not that Xue Baochai can't get married. Jia Fu and Jia Baoyu, who are in a bad mood after the fall, really don't belong to the range of women who want to get married even if they break their heads.

More likely, 1. Daiyu is dead, and there is no other candidate. 2. Daiyu was seriously ill, and the Jia family was anxious to arrange marriage for Baoyu, so they considered Baochai. 3. Lady Jia lost the right to speak, and Mrs. Wang and Yuan Chun tried their best to persuade Baochai to marry Baoyu.

I tend to say 1 and 2, but in the end, there is nothing I can do.

At this time, you will feel sad when you look back at Baodai's story. Huang Weiwen wrote the department of infatuation, in which he said, "In fact, your dreams and mine have long been exhausted, and lingering is useless." They tried so hard to understand each other and make clear their weight in each other's lives, but it was useless because there was really no time. One will die of heart failure and the other will face the collapse of the whole family? Her "best friend" Zi Juan's words of scaring him finally came true. She really went back to a place where he could not meet for the time being. He went to see him as promised. On his way to the cemetery, he met two children and asked him what he was looking for. Find an old friend.

"Who is the old friend?"

"Gusu Lin Daiyu."

She arrived at his house too early, and he thought it was his sister. It was not until after her death that he remembered that she was originally from Gusu, and she should have never met.

Those good times of getting along day and night, like a big dream, a carefree big dream based on wealth, power and favor, have now been taken back.

He really went to become a monk. At first, she was angry about it, but she didn't think what he said was true. Lin Daiyu is actually not so strict with Baoyu. He had a physical relationship with Xiren, and he was also suspected of having a physical relationship with Bi Hen Musk Moon. Also suspected of being gay with Qin Zhong. As a noble family, Lin Daiyu is very open to "physical infidelity". She knew that he loved her, but she didn't expect that she was in his world.

No one really thought of it. Jia Mu thinks they are suitable because they play well. Xifeng teased them because she was such a "poor woman", and some people looked up to Daiyu's surpassing Baochai, because Daiyu's parents died, and her property could keep pace with Jia's. Baochai, after all, has a brother, and her dowry is very limited. They are all very shallow regional feelings of Jiebaodai. I think Jia may not even think that these two children need to be together. As an elder, she only wants them to have a good home. The so-called home, not someone has to.

So in many versions, it is said that Lin Daiyu finally married King Jing, which doesn't sound so absurd. After all, King Jing is also a "good husband". Jia just wants to find a good husband for her, not necessarily Baoyu.

Many people agree with them, but only "agree". Only they know that even without the so-called "wood-stone alliance", they still agree with each other.

It is said that he later married Xiang Yun stranded on a painting boat. Xiangyun doesn't like Lin Daiyu very much, just as the generous female students in the class don't like the delicate literary committee members. But after the storm, those old friends who didn't like it very much in adolescence will also become a very warm part of the memories. They may talk about her little temper, which is very lovely, and talk about her talent. She wrote such a good sentence: "Marry Dong Fengchun, let her go, and endure for a long time."

Baoyu later had to deal with many practical problems. He may not think about her all day. The dream is over and life is still there.

"But it doesn't matter," he thought. "See you in the sky later."