People often say that my emotional intelligence is low. What should I do?

Since others say that your emotional intelligence is low, you should change yourself and become a person with high emotional intelligence.

1. High EQ does not mean hypocrisy and smoothness. It doesn't mean not to offend others everywhere, nor to satisfy everyone. Some people will fall into a misunderstanding about high emotional intelligence. They think that high EQ is to handle everything tactfully and make everyone like it. In fact, everyone's personality is different, even if you do it well, it is impossible for everyone to like it. Sometimes when you encounter something that offends people, even if you don't do it, unintentional actions will disgust some people. Don't care too much about what those people think of you. Knowing the consequences of doing so shows that EQ is online.

Second, high EQ means accurately identifying other people's emotions. Some people will think that those who have a good relationship with everyone and are sophisticated and smooth are people with high emotional intelligence. In fact, those people may have the lowest emotional intelligence, because they care too much about other people's opinions, but they will make people think that this is a social butterfly. High EQ requires self-awareness, control, knowing why you are happy and angry, and knowing how to manage. People who know how to self-regulate their emotions and those who know how to encourage themselves until they restrain their impulses are all people with high emotional intelligence. Because they will not deviate from their goal trajectory because they are controlled by emotions. In social occasions, we can also look at other people's emotions by looking at the color of sunlight, and deal with the relationship with others by being more sensitive.

Third, talking about dialogue, high emotional intelligence is not achieved overnight. People always say that your emotional intelligence is low. If you want to change, you should take your time, because nothing can be done overnight. Especially in the control of emotions, it takes time to change. If you feel that low EQ has nothing to do with your life and you don't need to change it, then follow your heart. Moreover, high emotional intelligence can indeed bring some benefits in social interaction, which is also worth learning.