Meet people: make friends, do business, be an official, you must look at people!

Many people may not be familiar with the concept of fortune teller, fortune teller or fortune teller. In fact, in layman's terms, the technique of face-to-face observation is to observe a person's character and character through his words and deeds. It's a little different from physiognomy. The purpose of physiognomy is to predict people's good or bad luck through "physiognomy" (face, palm and bone are equal). The focus of observation on people is to observe the personality of the sommelier.

Yilin in the south of the Yangtze River did not deliberately learn the art of observing people at first, but because of the living environment as a child, he was good at observing words and feelings since childhood. The most typical thing is that TV is not popular in primary school, and people often go to other people's homes to watch TV. In other people's homes, of course, it is no more free than in your own home. Sometimes people are sleepy, or unhappy, and generally they don't make it clear, while young Yilin in the south of the Yangtze River often can quickly observe the implication of adults. This can also be considered as a gift.

When I was in college, I actually read similar books, both written by modern people and ancient people, such as Zeng Guofan's Ice Guide.

In recent years, Jiangnan Yilin has gradually formed its own system of judging people by combining traditional physiognomy with modern related theoretical systems. If Yilin in Jiangnan can get along with a person for even half an hour, such as playing cards and drinking together, or just showing Yilin in Jiangnan to his/her room, Yilin in Jiangnan can basically see the general character, preferences and personality of this person.

Usually in the street, I like to look at people coming and going, their faces, their expressions and their walking posture when I am free. . . The same is true of watching TV, especially the chronicle programs such as Legal Online. Jiangnan Yilin is often interested in those real people. For example, criminals, Jiangnan Yilin will observe their words and deeds to verify their character. Blessed is the murderer who loses face. Jiangnan Yilin is very interested in these things that people usually don't pay much attention to, and often you can see a lot.

Friends and netizens often send photos to Jiangnan Yilin. Jiangnan Yilin can see the general character through photos. Although every photo is different, some things cannot be changed. People have different verve in different periods, such as eyes. No one can disguise their eyes.

Jiangnan Yilin said that these things are not mysterious, nor are they showing off from Jiangnan Yilin. They just want to explain an important truth: pay attention to learning everywhere! A lot of wisdom comes from life. After all, everything in the book is dead.

1, the six parents view method Jiangnan Yilin first said one of the most common early-stage views: "Six parents view method."

In eight-character fortune telling, there is also the concept of six relatives. The so-called six relatives refer to father, mother, brother, brother, wife and son. You comprehensively evaluate a person through his attitude towards his parents, brothers, wife, children and friends. The key point is how he gets along with his six relatives and whether his words and deeds are consistent. However, this method also has disadvantages. For example, a local ruffian, a traitor, a dutiful son and a loving father. A good comrade who is praised by everyone at work may be a tyrant at home.

In this regard, Jiangnan Yilin was once confused. Later, when studying the theory of western novels, Yilin in the south of the Yangtze River suddenly realized through the methods of creating characters in classic works and put them into practice. This method is of great benefit to you whether reading novels, watching TV, making friends in real life or portraying characters in novels. Now Jiangnan Yilin will share this truth, hoping to attract more attention. If there are similarities, it is purely coincidental. Jiangnan Yilin believes that there may be people who understand this writing theory, but I am afraid that there are very few people who consciously apply it to the art of reading people. At least Jiangnan Yilin has never seen any modern people say so.

2. In order to call this principle conveniently, the stereoscopic observer may be called "stereoscopic observer". What are the three dimensions? The so-called three dimensions are actually three levels.

The first dimension: at the social level, see how this person gets along with leaders, colleagues, partners or competitors, and see how he says and does, and whether his words and deeds are consistent.

The second dimension: the family level, in fact, is the person with the concept of six parents. Focus on how he treats his parents, brothers, wives, children and friends, and see how he says and does, and whether his words and deeds are consistent.

The third dimension: the private level, in fact, is to see what he likes and does when he is alone. Because no matter what kind of person, when he faces himself alone, he is often completely exposed and undisguised. Of course, the kind of person who lies in his secret diary or pretends to be a person is definitely an anomaly.

Of course, the points mentioned above are only an outline or three standards. As for the specific details, I won't discuss them much because of the limited space. It is important to remain objective and not be confused by superficial phenomena and personal feelings.

In fact, all of us may often feel this way. For your friend, you can often sum up his personality in one sentence or a few words, but the people you are most familiar with, such as parents or spouses, are often unclear and difficult to sum up in one sentence or a few words. This may be because we know them too well, know them too well, know too many details, but are vague.

If you are a writer, if you can express a person from the above three aspects, then Jiangnan Yilin thinks this person should be relatively plump and three-dimensional. If you are watching TV or movies, the same is true. You can look at a person in three dimensions. Because on TV, we can even hear the protagonist talking to himself. In real life, it is relatively difficult to know the privacy of others. But he often inadvertently reveals this information in his words and deeds, or if you have a chance to see each other's dormitory or dormitory, everything will be exposed.

Of course, learning how to look at people well, just like horoscope and astrological fortune telling, requires talent, especially related to learners' personality. Many things can only be understood but not expressed. Some people don't know how to treat people, some people may get along with another person for several years, and they can't tell what kind of person the other person is. This is a lack of observation and generalization.

Try it according to the method of Jiangnan Yilin. Make friends, fall in love with officials, and look at people!