Better to rely on yourself than to go to others for help.

Better to rely on yourself than to go to others for help.

Please believe in yourself. Better to rely on yourself than to go to others for help. Success is not far from us.

Chapter 1: It is better to ask others than yourself.

Someone went to visit Shao Kangjie, a diviner of the Song Dynasty, and asked about his fate?

The visitor asked, is there fate in this world?

? Of course there is! ? The master said flatly?

? Since there is destiny takes a hand, what's the use of struggle?

Shao Kangjie just laughed and grabbed the visitor's left hand, saying that he had a lifeline in his hand? Career line and other fortune tellers, and then let him raise his left hand and make a fist?

After the fist clenched, Shao Kangjie asked. Where are those fate line?

? In my hand?

When Shao Kangjie asked this question again, the visitor suddenly realized that his fate was in his own hands?

However, as modern people, most of us prefer to trust others and ask for help, but never trust ourselves and ask for help for the following reasons-

One? We were brought up to rely on our parents, not ourselves? Depend on your parents at home and your friends when you go out? Deep-rooted ideas?

Two? We live in an era of so-called experts. Experts tell us that they know everything and we know nothing?

Three? We believe that what most people are doing is not wrong for themselves?

Four? We like to leave great achievements to others, go home and follow all the life pointed out in TV advertisements, and get a satisfying experience from them?

We are addicted to the illusion above, never wake up, and never have time to think about such a question: parents and brothers? Are TV advertisements really that reliable?

Dependent on parents and brothers? On the wisdom of his father, no one can match Yao, but his son was exiled; No one can match the wisdom of his brother, Duke Zhou, but his two younger brothers Guan and Cai were beheaded.

Depend on the boss? Men and friends? On the wisdom of Zhuge Liang, the boss, Ma Su lost his street pavilion; Intellectually, no one can compare with Cheng Tang and King Wu, but Xia Jie and Zhou Wang were defeated by them?

Not to mention the advertisements made by those mercenary businesses. They are just like vendors selling tofu. Who do they only use? Do you want one or two? Misleading us without asking? Do we really think we want to eat tofu, or do we doubt that we really need to make up tofu?

The so-called mouth is better than walking, and asking for help is better than asking for help? Parents and brothers. The boss's friends or TV, they can help us, but we can never rely on them to decide the way of life!

But then comes the second question: Can you rely on yourself?

To answer this question, let's first quote a secret discovered by western scientists in experiments: although people's energy (including physical strength and intelligence) plays only a small part in general, it is possible to play to the extreme if they have motivation?

A young couple was traveling by car. When they passed a detour, their car turned into a ditch?

The wife climbed out of the car and found her husband's leg unfortunately crushed under the car? She ran to the highway for help, but there was no one around? The wife ran back to the car, and the husband's groan got weaker and weaker?

In desperation, the wife leaned over to lift the corner of the car and pulled her husband out at once?

The husband was saved, but the wife kept thinking for days: where did I get the strength to lift the car?

This is a huge energy that people burst out in an emergency, and when we use life intelligence, its potential will not be rock-breaking, but its role in our destiny is thousands of times greater than the power to pull the car up?

There is such an old musician, in? Cultural Revolution? Was sent to the countryside to mow cattle for seven years 3? When he came back from his recovery, people were surprised to find that he was not as haggard and senile as people imagined, and his humorous language and creative talents kept flowing?

In the face of people's surprise, he smiled and explained: how can I be old and haggard? When mowing the grass every day, I always press the hay cutter with a 4/4 beat.

The musician is not famous, but he knows how to save himself by himself. Although there is a gray life with no future in sight, music has been echoing in his heart? He finally saved his artistic life?

Chapter 2: It is better to ask others than yourself.

In the big market of life, we should cherish and explore our own value. Since a person can exist in this world, it means that existence is valuable. Life is like a big market. How valuable you think you are, others will think you are. Keep your true colors, because true colors are the most beautiful. There is no absolute beauty better than ugliness in this world. Beauty and ugliness can usually be transferred to each other, but one thing is certain, that is, the most beautiful things often come from their true colors and nature. So, don't care about other people's critical eyes, keep your true colors, and you are the most beautiful. Just look at what you have, not what you have. If you want to succeed, you must accept and affirm yourself. In this world, everyone has different defects, unless you are the most unfortunate. Don't complain about fate, don't look at what you don't have, but look at what you have, and you will get and affirm yourself.

Better to rely on yourself than to go to others for help. Only you can save ourselves. It can be easier to ask others to help you solve the problem, but this is not a long-term solution, because others may help you for a while, but they can't help you for a lifetime. Besides, it is not easy to ask for help. Therefore, when encountering difficulties, don't ask for help easily. You know, it's better to ask for help than yourself, and you can save yourself. Only by truly knowing yourself can we save ourselves. Many times, many people don't know what kind of person they are, which is not only a common misunderstanding, but also an insurmountable human weakness. Solving this problem is actually very simple. Look in the mirror, and you may find your confidence and your true self. As long as people live in this world, they will have a lot of troubles, but pain and happiness depend on your heart. No matter how heavy the burden is, laughing and crying is also a choice. No matter how bad life is, if you live with a smile, it is victory. Smile more, and your life will be better. Be sure to smile like a flower. Only by treating life with an indifferent attitude can any difficulty and misfortune be tempered into a ladder to peace.

If you look at yourself in the right way, everything will change. If you always look at yourself and appreciate yourself, the result is that you can't walk into others' hearts, and others can't walk into yours. As long as you look at yourself correctly, your life will be relaxed and happy, your career will be smooth and everything will change. Habits are all formed by ourselves, and we have the ability to change them. We often do something, it will become a habit, and once the habit is formed, it will control us. But each of us also has a lot of buffering ability. Since we have the ability to form habits, we certainly have the ability to get rid of habits that we think are bad. To change your destiny, the most important thing is to change yourself. Under the same circumstances, different people will have different fates. A person's fate is not decided by heaven, nor by others, but by himself. If a person wants to change his destiny, the most important thing is to change himself, his mentality and his environment, so his destiny will also change. To change your destiny, you must first change your heart. It is certainly a good thing to change your destiny, but you can't just pursue superficial changes. You must first change your heart.