How to treat a strong and domineering mother-in-law to drive away two daughter-in-law one after another?

Everyone is born equal, and the most important thing for everyone is mutual respect and trust. No matter what kind of relationship you belong to, there should be a corresponding model, and all departments should perform their duties, support each other and appreciate each other. This is a stable and healthy relationship.

In a family, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is always a controversial topic. The relationship between the two is not mother and daughter, nor is it an enemy. It takes a lot of thought to get along. But once this relationship is not handled well, it will do great harm to the family. In these contradictions, no matter who wins, there is no winner. People caught in the middle often lose the most. ...

There is a real example around me, and every time I think of this example, I feel very emotional. Han Peng, 30, has been married twice and divorced twice. He looks like a man in his forties and fifties. ..

His first wife, Xiang Tong, was his colleague. He was only 26 years old that year, tall and handsome, and the sun was free and easy. Xiang Tong fell in love with him at first sight, and they soon got together.

Han Peng's mother is not satisfied with Xiangtong, especially because she is a mainlander. Besides, she has always been used to being strong at home. She was worried that her son married his daughter-in-law and forgot his mother. She is more worried that her son will listen to her daughter-in-law. Daughter-in-law hasn't entered the door yet, and she has made up her mind that she must not shake her position.

So from the first day of their marriage, Han Peng's mother will interfere in many things. She has made up her mind about the decoration of the house, the arrangement of furniture, and the couple's salary should be kept by her.

Xiang Tong disagreed at first, but Han Peng's mother said, "You young people like to spend money recklessly. If you save it for me, I can help you manage your finances! " When your child goes to primary school, all the money will be returned to you. I don't want money. Maybe you don't trust me? "

Speaking of which, he is a man with no opinion, and Xiang can't say anything, so he has to hand over his salary card helplessly.

Usually the housework at home is done by the daughter-in-law. After work, Xiang Tong either lies down and says she is not feeling well, or goes out to chat with other old ladies. She turned to Han Peng and said, "Don't spoil your wife. Since she has just arrived, we must let her develop a good habit of doing housework. "

Although Xiang Tong has been working hard for a long time, Han Peng's mother still looks at Xiang Tong and thinks that this daughter-in-law is incompetent, earns less money than her son, and her attitude is gradually critical.

After about half a year, Xiangtong became pregnant and felt extremely unwell, so Han Peng's mother reluctantly took on some housework. At this time, the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law increased, and sometimes they quarreled.

In addition, Han Peng's mother is particularly patriarchal. Growing up, I never treated Han Peng's sister as a daughter, and she was badly treated. Therefore, after her daughter-in-law became pregnant, she often said intentionally or unintentionally, "If only I had a grandson, what's the use of having a girl?" Sooner or later, I will marry someone else ... "

Two months before giving birth, they quarreled over a trivial matter again. Han Peng's mother pointed to Xiangtong's nose and said, "Listen carefully. If you have a son, I won't dispute anything with you. If you have a daughter, I don't care about your confinement. "

Xiang Tong was very unhappy, but there was nothing he could do. After more than a year of getting along, she knows very well that her mother-in-law has the final say at home. My father-in-law has no problem, and my husband listens to her mother-in-law. No matter how wronged, he can only knock out his teeth and swallow them in his stomach.

When Xiangtong gave birth to the baby, Han Peng was on a business trip and couldn't come back for half a month. Our mother just went back to visit her uncle. He accompanied Tong's friend to the hospital to give birth.

After learning that she gave birth to a daughter, Xiang Tong was worried that her mother-in-law really wouldn't take care of herself, so she lied to her mother-in-law on the phone that she had a son.

Han Peng's mother stewed chicken soup and came to the hospital in high spirits. Knowing the truth, she was very angry. She spilled the chicken soup on the ground and went straight home.

Water under the bridge. Xiang Tong has completely lost confidence, and she has to call her mother in other provinces to take care of her.

After confinement, Xiangtong asked her mother-in-law for a deposit and said that she would move out, but her mother-in-law refused. Xiang Tong asked Han Peng's attitude, but Han Peng also left. Finally, I asked Tong for a divorce.

Han Peng's mother even refused to stay, because she asked the fortune teller to forget it, saying that after Han Peng's divorce, many people could choose. Han Peng didn't dare to go against her mother's wishes. After two months of struggle, she finally agreed to divorce.

However, on the issue of child custody, our mother said that the fortune teller said that the child was king and insisted on keeping the child. There is only a compromise between the items.

In the second year after the divorce, Han Peng met his second wife under the introduction of relatives. Han Peng's mother is very satisfied with this daughter-in-law, and her attitude is much better. She will not be as tough as her first daughter-in-law.

But in the blink of an eye for four years, this daughter-in-law has no movement in her stomach. Han Peng's mother was very anxious. She looked for medicine for them everywhere, but it didn't work at all.

Finally, the two went to a big hospital in Guangzhou for examination on the recommendation of a friend, and found that both of them were fine. They can have children with others, but they cannot have children with each other.

Han Peng's mother was badly hurt. Seeing that her son is over 30, other people's grandchildren can go to kindergarten, and her family is still deserted with a little granddaughter, and her attitude towards this daughter-in-law is slowly getting worse.

This daughter-in-law is also a disdainful person. Two months later, Han Peng and his second wife also divorced.

When Han Peng's mother planned to marry a third daughter-in-law with great expectation, Han Peng's father was suddenly diagnosed with cancer. The whole family suddenly fell into a panic, and the expensive medical expenses quickly consumed the savings at home. Life has become difficult.

The conditions and economic situation at home are extremely pessimistic, and fewer people introduce Han Peng to others.

Two years later, Han Peng is still alone. Han Peng's mother asked for introductions everywhere. In fact, everyone with discerning eyes can see that a man with average ability has a daughter and a father with cancer at home, and his money has basically been squandered. Mom is not easy to get along with. Who will introduce them to someone?

Not only is Han Peng getting old fast, but Han Peng's mother is also different and looks sad. If I know today, why should I know? If the departure of the second daughter-in-law is accidental and unavoidable, then the departure of the first daughter-in-law is caused by her alone.

If Han Peng's mother had been more lenient with her first daughter-in-law, it wouldn't have led to their divorce. Things would not be so tortuous later. If a woman gets enough respect at home, even if she dies at home, there are still people who support her.

Don't think that the good is always behind, and no one knows what will happen later. It is most important to cherish the talents in front of you.

Today's topic: What kind of wonderful mother-in-law are there around you?