Only when parents are "inaction" can children be more "promising"

I often see many parents make various arrangements for their children, such as school, work and marriage partner ... I hope their children can live a stable life according to their own arrangements.

I often hear many parents complain about their children: I obviously do it for his own good, but why doesn't he listen to me?

It is undeniable that these parents love their children, but this kind of love often makes them feel a kind of interference and control.

These "arrangements" of parents are often rooted in their past life experience and are the best choice among all kinds of trial and error.

Many parents pursue stability because they have a fear of the outside world, change and uncertainty, which is related to their childhood experience and the background of the times at that time.

They not only pursue stability by themselves, but also hope that their children will be stable and their lives will be guaranteed.

But what is absolutely stable? The rapid development of this era is different from the past, and the speed of development is beyond your imagination. In this era, the only certainty is uncertainty.

Your old knowledge is constantly being impacted and broken every minute. I used to watch other people do programs on TV, but now everyone can make their own small videos on the video number; We used to read articles from newspapers and magazines, but now we output our own content as creators of online writing platforms. I used to sell products to customers in stores, but now I recommend products to audiences all over the country in the live broadcast room, and I have done it in all commercial communities.

Times are different. In this changeable vuca era, the only thing you can do to make yourself feel safe is to keep up with the pace of the times, constantly grow yourself, constantly break your cognitive boundaries and behavioral boundaries, and adapt yourself to any possible changes.

I once met a 60-year-old elder sister in an online learning community. She follows the pace of young people, studies hard and keeps punching in every day. Now that I have my own official WeChat account, I have also started my own short video live broadcast, with countless fans, and a live broadcast has achieved tens of thousands. This is the dividend given to us by the times.

Going back to the question just now, if children really obey their parents' arrangements and live a "stable" life, it also means missing many opportunities given to them by the times, which means bidding farewell to innovation and autonomy.

If everyone is like this, then there will be no Taobao, 5G, bicycles, WeChat and smart phones in this era ... This is a loss for the country and society.

Personally, I think that children have given up the initiative in life and re-live their lives for their parents. So where is their life?

Therefore, for many children, only when their parents "don't act" can they be more promising, more adaptable to the development of the times and become an emerging force needed by the country and society.

All parents need to do is give their children spiritual support, give them a safe haven when they encounter setbacks outside, and let them get back on their feet and get on the road again. That's enough.