What do you mean, two people are not rich together and their children are shallow?

What if two people don't get rich together?

Xue Zhaofeng, an economist, described his understanding of love and marriage in Chipa Theory. The probability of love is accidental.

If two people are destined to be each other's soul mates, then among the 7 billion people in the world, they basically have no chance to meet. The so-called marriage is nothing more than two people running a business in partnership and signing a contract. "

It is not love that keeps a marriage together, but the value of two people. Marriage is a kind of cooperation. You should always think about how to make yourself valuable at any time and how to meet each other's core needs.

In marriage, we really can't be lazy. If you want to preserve the value of marriage, the most important thing is to preserve your own value and make yourself valuable, so that you can get more things you want and deal with the marriage crisis more calmly.

Foer said that marriage is essentially a loss. Marriage will not turn a dollar in your pocket into two dollars, but it will probably empty your last dollar. When should I get married? A better answer is: when you can afford it. Whether it is love or marriage, please remember that this is a kind, don't just want to get it, and don't indulge yourself blindly.

It sounds cold-blooded and cruel, but marriages that often take a long time are down-to-earth. I deeply understand the "cooperative relationship" of this interest. With material support, love is a withered rose, which has long lost its sweet fragrance and charming color.

Said: "The road to true love is not smooth." If you want to fall in love, you must go through countless twists and turns. This sentence by Shakespeare not only highlights the rarity of love, but also shows that love cannot be separated from the wisdom of getting along.

Although the world respects and pursues love, there are not many people who know how to manage love, and even fewer people can understand the cognitive traps in love relationships. This can explain why so many excellent people "leave" today, not because we are not good enough, but because we have all kinds of wrong understandings of love relationships.

It can be seen that to have a good love relationship, the first thing to do is to establish a correct love cognition. What is "love cognition"? The so-called "love cognition" refers to the psychological process of knowledge and experience gained by people through love relationships. In the eyes of many people, love has no reason, but in fact, love has its own set of underlying logic.

At the beginning of a relationship, hormones can solve all contradictions. In other words, whether two people are suitable or not depends not on the sweetest period, but on the state of getting along with each other during this period and entering the daily life. At this time, you will find that a long-term relationship needs not hormones, but equal benefits. It is not romantic to say that feelings are just a branch of interest.

People in love will say that love is the most important thing in a person's life, and everything will be meaningless without love. Of course, I understand these people. Hormones can make a person enter a period of extreme emotion, when reason will be despised. What I want to say is that the most important thing in life is not love, but life. Everyone lives most of his life, instead of enjoying the package of love all the time.

What is life? Life is all the scenery we have traveled on the track of pursuing our own interests. When hormones disperse and reason returns to the dominant position, most people still live around interests. It can be said that feelings are just a branch of it. Who can talk about love all day without thinking about daily necessities? It doesn't exist, because people have to eat and work, and they have to live and die.

This is the normal state of life. We say that romantic life should have no love. This is true, just don't mistake our life for love and freedom. It's more trivial things in life. Don't mistakenly think that love is everywhere, and it is more garlic skin and daily necessities. Whether in love or marriage, don't think that the initial sweet period is of any use, it just satisfies your own desires.

It's time to see if this relationship should last until it expires. It depends on whether both sides have their place. Some people thought they didn't care at first because of the difference in economic base, but later they separated for this reason. Some people don't care about other people's opinions at first because of the age gap, but they are separated in the eyes of others at last. This is what feelings look like later.

After the sweet period, most people consider the interests, and who is more suitable for them is the most important, not the sweet period at the beginning. For essential reasons, most of us are still pursuers of interests, and mutual equal interests will make both sides feel safe. For example, men bring home the bacon and women do housework, so if they want to live in peace, do they want equal interests?

If a woman is beautiful and virtuous. Then what she wants is that men can earn more money. If a man can't reach it, he can't satisfy himself, and marriage is easy to break up. Similarly, if a man can earn a lot of money, but a woman is not so beautiful, he will feel that he deserves to be more beautiful. This is the true face of reality. Who is wrong from their respective perspectives? No one is wrong, but there is no such thing as feelings here.

In real life, it seems that few people will say that this person is romantic or not, and that this person is free or not. It's all about interests, so feelings are essentially just a branch of interests. I know it doesn't seem romantic, but for most people, it's just.

Peter Pickett, chief financial officer of Google, once said, "Life is beautiful, but you have to make a choice. We always spend a lot of time maintaining relationships, but forget that parents and children are the people we need most.

A person's achievement is not measured by monetary benefits, but by how many people remember and love us in their lives;

The real success is not what you have achieved, but being able to accompany your parents and reunite with your family all the time. As I can see: time is value, and where a person's time is, his value is there. "

It is an adult's consciousness to know how to allocate time reasonably and balance the value of different roles. We might as well spend more time with our parents and relatives, because they are the most important relationship in our life.

Feelings are reserved for those who love you. In life, we often get the wrong relationship, leaving the better temper to others and the worst mood to our family;

Leave more time to others and your own busyness to your family. We always appreciate the benefits given by others, but turn a blind eye to the kindness of our loved ones.

In this world, 90% of relationships come from interests, and only 10% of relationships are that blood is thicker than water and will never rot.

I hope everyone can spend more time with their relatives and give them enough care and care. This is the most important thing we should do in our life.

As the saying goes, don't neglect your concern for your parents because you are busy, and don't have conflicts with your brothers and sisters because of your own affairs. "

One day, you will find that only your home is your own dependence and a harbor where you can stay. Only your relatives will never leave you.

Dale said in "The Weakness of Human Nature": "Happiness does not depend on external factors, but on the internal state."

In the eyes of most people, happiness means having a lot of money, happiness means being able to wear brand-name clothes, and happiness means eating whatever you want.

As it says, happiness actually does not depend on external factors, but mainly depends on our internal mentality. As long as we have a good attitude, we can live well no matter what we are doing or under what circumstances.

Xingyun once said: "We are blinded by our persistent things and often hurt by our persistent people, so we should learn to let go."

Many people live in pain and unhappiness because they have a bad mentality. He is always entangled in many things, always clinging to people who should not be persistent, and always unable to let go of some things that should have been given up.

In fact, people give themselves more pain. Only by putting a good attitude and not obsessing about some things can people enjoy life and not bring themselves pain.

You know, there are many things in this world that people can't decide. Instead of obsessing about these things, let nature take its course and let it be.

If a person doesn't have a good attitude and is always obsessed with something, then he will be troubled by these things every day and naturally he will be unhappy every day. How can he talk about happiness without a good mood?

Old people often say: "When people are alive, they must control their greed. So we often ignore our true feelings and forget our real needs. It seems that the affirmation of others can let us find a sense of existence. "

As the saying goes, "people die than people." There are always many people in this world who want to compare themselves, and always want to find a sense of superiority and their sense of existence through comparison, but what is the significance of such superiority and sense of existence?

He will make you lose a good attitude and keep you in the pain of comparing with others. You should know that there are people outside the mountain. There are always people in this world who are better off than you, and there are always people who are happier than you.

Therefore, if you want to live a happy life, you must first have a good attitude, don't compare with others, and live your own life.

Sometimes comparison is the beginning of a person's pain. Once a person begins to keep up with the joneses, he will never be able to live a good life and face up to his own needs.

Wang Xiyan: "A happy person must first have the cultivation of contentment, which is what the old saying says. With the progress of science and technology, people nowadays have enough to eat and wear warm clothes, and they begin to pursue all kinds of strange things, and they are always unable to satisfy themselves.

But once a person has greed, it is impossible to have a good attitude. He will never be satisfied, and he will always pursue things that should not belong to him.

Just like earning money, some people are satisfied and begin to enjoy life. Some people always feel that they don't earn enough money, so they earn money day and night. Even if they earn more, they don't have good physical enjoyment.

So people should calm down, know how to be content, and understand what kind of life is happy and what they want.

There is a good saying: "Life must do something sometimes, and there is no need to force it." People who live a happy life often have a good attitude of contentment, because they know that some things are almost enough, rather than pushing their luck to want more.

There are too many uncertainties in this world, and joys and sorrows are staged almost all the time. This is actually what we call life.

However, not everyone's life is perfect. After all, few people are born with golden keys. Almost 85% people need a life that they want more or less by their own efforts.

This is almost every stage that must be experienced, and no one's life is a straight line. God gave us the opportunity to be human, that is, to straighten out the curve of life, do what we should do, and do what we should do.

In fact, isn't a person's life a self? In my vast land, there is never a shortage of cattle. Their purpose is to understand the eternal mystery between heaven and earth.

We regard it as an enlightened person, an enlightened person, an enlightened person, an empty door and an enlightened person. They have a state of mind that ordinary people don't have. They are underground, and their hearts are in the sky. Their mission should also be accomplished for themselves and others.

Their hearts are carefree, undisturbed by the secular world, clean as spring water, and have self-control ability unimaginable to ordinary people. The heart is empty and the body is clean, and the dust is not dyed. Anyone or anything is tolerant of them. This is also the case.

An enlightened person, how does he know if he is really enlightened? Of course, there are two kinds of people, one is to avoid the world, and the other is to behave; On the other hand, the other is based on sex. More of a doer.

No matter who, even if his heart is civilized, it is impossible to be completely immune to it in the vat. Because you will encounter difficulties and challenges all the time.

It is these difficulties and challenges that are a better way to test a person. If you are a person who works hard. When you meet something or someone that makes you extremely disgusted, how do you choose to face it?

If you lose your mind for a long time because of this matter, you will fail. How will you face some problems?

There are two things in life, nothing but wealth and sex. But who can really do it and can't stand the temptation when facing these two things?

Explain from your heart that you are there, and then you will put it into action. But once put into action, it will be created. For people, this is called karma. Once karma is generated, it must be returned. However, the realm has stagnated.

It is impossible to offset the merits and demerits, mistakes will be punished and merits will be rewarded. This is the fundamental reason why many good people are not rewarded. It is because the merits and demerits can't offset each other. It's your career, so you must pay it off, otherwise you can only stagnate and have a vicious circle.

So back to the theme, an enlightened person should learn to borrow things and people to practice his mind. People, only when facing people or things, can truly test whether they have passed the customs.

For a person, it can never be controlled by emotions. Always keep a clear head. Only in this way can we meet all kinds of challenges in a constant way. The constant is the heart, the ever-changing thing is the thing, but the thing is always the same.

All along, our ignorance of fate is just like our ignorance of God. However, is fate really as invisible as God, and it depends entirely on the brain?

Does man have a destiny? Of course there is. Then what is fate? You may have heard someone say, "I'm unlucky and I keep meeting people." But actually, her life is not bad. She was born in a well-off family with complete parents and loved her grandparents very much. When she said "unlucky", it was not "fate" but "luck". Life is born, and luck is acquired. Life cannot be changed, and luck can be changed to a great extent.

Now you know what is "fate", what is "luck" and what is "fate"? Life is what kind of family you were born in and what kind of primitive interpersonal relationship you have, which is the starting point for you to come into this world. Luck is all the people, things and things you have experienced in the process of growing up, and it is all your opportunities in this world. Together, the two are fate.

Most of us confuse fate with luck, which is why you can't find the crux of the problem. What you think is meant to be, in fact, can be changed by yourself. And what you are trying to change may never be possible.

Life cannot be changed, so no matter what kind of family you are born in, don't complain and accept it. Because complaining and not accepting will not change anything, but will make your mood worse and your attitude worse, which will lead to the deterioration of interpersonal relationships around you, thus affecting what is more important to you-luck.

In your life, you will meet all kinds of people, and many people may have a great influence on your life, your choice and your life. These people are your luck. "Luck" is constantly changing. What kind of people and things you meet, what kind of life you will have. When luck changes, so will your life.

Fortunately, luck is optional. When you have the ability, you can choose who you are influenced by, who you are close to and who you are alienated from. Many people will choose to be close to their nobles, but more people let them slip away. You are close to what kind of person you want to live. This is the truth of "luck".

People say that when they get older, they will believe it more and more. In this life, how much hardship you pay and how much you get have long been doomed, and no one's life is smooth sailing. Since I have my own family, I have found more and more that the meeting of a family seems to have been doomed.

Only by being kind to your family can you be kind to others, and it is inevitable to pay hardships. From the day you learned to be responsible, we never stopped. I have never expected how much I can get in return for my efforts, because everything is arranged by God and we can't force it.

As the old saying goes, "You can spit thistles or roses. Only by controlling your mouth, not speaking ill of others behind their backs and damaging their image, and not poking people in front of them, can people feel comfortable in getting along. Making others comfortable is also accumulating wealth and popularity for yourself.

As the saying goes, learn to talk at the age of three, and learn to shut up all your life. Don't say something you shouldn't say. In the face of lovers, it is better to be silent.

Everyone has a mouth and can say whatever he wants. However, we must pay attention to what kind of occasions, what kind of people, what kind of words to say.

There is a saying that is good, simple and profound, and the gentleman is forbidden. It is dangerous and wrong to tell the truth with people you don't know well.

In fact, it takes a lot of things and a lot of time to test and temper from strangers to friends to everything. At this point, you may be cheated, not to mention a stranger you are not familiar with.

If you are not familiar with it to a certain extent and the feelings you get along with are not in place, you can't say much. You may hurt others unintentionally, or you may be used by others to hurt yourself.

For example, two blind date people, in fact, both of them have excellent conditions, but chatting is very uncomfortable.

The man, in particular, tells the woman everything, whether it is appropriate or not. You know, this is a meeting. Girls will be scared away when they meet such people.

The man thinks he is sincere and wants to be close to each other, but the girl feels unfamiliar, so it is really uncomfortable to talk like this. I think the other party is too abrupt! Even if it is a blind date, there must be a process!

This example is a bit special, but it illustrates this truth. It's not that you tell each other everything in your heart, and they think you are sincere and friendly.

If you don't know each other, saying affectionate words is not the way to establish a good relationship, and it may also hurt each other. If you are too enthusiastic, the other party will suspect that your purpose is not simple.

Enthusiasm does not necessarily bring sincerity. In short, this kind of communication is out of line and should be abandoned.

From strangers to familiar people, there is a process. At first, I must have taken care of myself, like a thin and cold person. If we still have a chance to get along, we will get familiar with each other as time goes by. Instead of being too enthusiastic from the beginning.

People who can handle their emotions well are mostly people with a sense of security. Because it is too much to be swayed by considerations of gain and loss, it is a surprise; I lost what I had because of the ups and downs. Don't talk big, yourself; Don't tell others what to do, don't judge others' lives easily, and don't be easily influenced. People who get along well with themselves can also give others a sense of stability.

"said:". That is to say, people with great wisdom often appear ignorant. Why?

Because the more wise people are, the more deeply they understand that "intelligence" is a sword, which can serve themselves and may also hurt themselves. Therefore, they use their "cleverness" carefully and don't show it easily.

Clumsy, low-key can last. The ancients said: "The wood in the forest is beautiful, and the wind will destroy it; If you pile up on the shore, the current will surge. If a person is too prominent in the group, it is easy to attract attacks from others.

Because of his prominence, inadvertently, it set off the "mediocrity" of others. There are people who unconsciously have a feeling, and even some people have a kind of "inferiority complex".

Obviously, no one will like this feeling. So some people will achieve psychological balance by attacking "excellent people".

Originally, a person was too prominent, and he was already at the forefront. If he is still showing off his talents at this time, it will only create more contradictions and conflicts.

A really smart person knows how to live in harmony with light. They soften their light, confuse it with dirt, and don't show off much. In this way, they seem to be "no different" from others.

In the end, they abandoned the "false name" and avoided the "real disaster". He said: "It is heaven to retire after success. Throughout the ages, we will find that those who are truly powerful, after making great contributions, are either more modest and low-key than before, or simply "retire" and retire to the countryside.

Finally, they spent the rest of their lives in peace. And some people, once they make achievements, get carried away and even "commit crimes" without fear. In the end, it often ends badly. Being clumsy is not cowardice, but knowing awe. Only those who know how to fear can go further.

Only by being clumsy and waiting for the "east wind" can we "make a blockbuster". Wang Bo said, "Only by acting according to circumstances can a gentleman master life. The really powerful people are those who are good at observing the situation and can follow the trend.

No matter how capable a person is, if what he does goes against the overall situation, it will be difficult for him to succeed;

On the other hand, even if a person's ability is not outstanding enough, if he is good at grasping opportunities, then he can magnify his efforts ten times and one hundred times.

Seize the opportunity and wait and see, the effect will be more significant than blind efforts. A truly wise man is good at seizing opportunities. At the wrong time, they tend to put away their "cleverness" and act like fools.

"Ning Wuzi" said: "If the state has a way, it will know, and if the state has no way, it will be stupid. Its knowledge is available, and its stupidity is also. In other words: "Ning Wuzi, when he is clear, shows great wisdom;

It's stupid when it's dark. His wisdom may be equal, but his is unparalleled. "

A truly powerful person would rather show ignorance or even be laughed at than stand up when the time is wrong.

They know that if they show their cleverness at the wrong time, it will not only be difficult to achieve results, but even lead them into an irreparable situation. At that time, they will seize the opportunity decisively and turn the tables against the wind.

In the face of a strong enemy, a better way is to be "clumsy" and show weakness to the other side. Only in this way can we save ourselves and silently accumulate our own strength. At that time, you can "hit it with one blow." Only by enduring for a while and being brave in "clumsiness" and "weakness" can we win the final victory.

Really smart people will not always be smart, nor will they always be "stupid", but will move randomly. If he is smart, he will be smart. If he is stupid, he will not be embarrassed and will not be eager for success. In this way, we can be calm in difficulties and indifferent in prosperity.

Encourage each other!

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The above is how to calculate the related content with two people, which is about the sharing of love. I saw what it means to have a shallow relationship with children. I hope this will help everyone!