I want a paper on marriage customs in Henan.

Henan is a big place, so there will inevitably be differences.

1 love: when it comes to this matter, there must be a matchmaker, that is, the person who pulls the red line. He or she will say hello to you two first, and then meet you.

Small meetings-large meetings

Small meeting: just leave you two alone in a room, and your relatives are waiting outside. Let you two have a heart-to-heart talk and feel it, huh?

Big meeting: it is successful to hold a small meeting before the big meeting. When both sides think it's ok, they will hold a meeting. Which means it's over. This man wants to give this woman some money as a gift. In other words, it's settled.

Engagement: Generally, the man proposes to the woman through the media, and the two sides are similar according to their family circumstances. In the old days, with the consent of both parents, they exchanged birthdays with Geng Tie, and the fortune teller predicted good or bad luck by "combining eight characters". If the horoscope matches, you can get engaged. Formal engagement is "too red book", also called "too book". The man talks to the media about the bride price, and after the woman puts forward the amount of the bride price, the man prepares the bride price according to the agreed standard. The amount and quality of bride price depends on the family situation of both parties, and there is no exact regulation. The man's family chooses an auspicious day to "pass the red book". Give the woman's parents ten books first, then invite the matchmaker to Cambodia. On that day, lanterns were hung in the man's house, incense was burned and candles were lit, the deacon wrote down "keepsake", and the matchmaker sent it to the woman's house with a red post and a dowry of "Please make a promise". The lady immediately replied to the green post of "Mu Yu Yun Qing". After "writing a book", you can choose to get married, and the man will invite the woman to drink a "kiss wine" through the media. The two sides will decide the wedding date and prepare for the wedding separately.

Marriage: When men get older, so do women. In the old society, men and women usually got married at the age of 18 or above. Choose two dates for the wedding for good luck. After the wedding date is set, the woman buys a dowry, which is called "dowry"; Gifts from relatives and friends are called "adding boxes". The man built a new house, made furniture, made a new bed and held a party. On the morning of the wedding, the sedan chair was issued, and a rooster was placed on the pole of the sedan chair, which was a four-color gift. When she came back, the woman named a hen "Chicken with a sedan chair", which showed that both of them were right. When she comes back, she won't go the same way and set off firecrackers all the way. It is usually the bride's uncle, brother and uncle who see her off. Those who see her off are called "guests" and "big guests". The western suburbs returned to the man's house, and the bride and groom were supported by guests. Both of them worshipped the ancestors of heaven and earth first, then their parents, and finally the bride and groom. After the worship, the family sent sacks to the ground for the last time, which was called "Dai", paving the way for the bride to enter the bridal chamber. In addition, the cashier picked up the laundry basket containing grains, dates and copper coins, sang the song of cashier's check, and sprinkled the contents of the basket on the heads of the bride and groom until they entered the bridal chamber. Then lift the bride's veil with weighed peaches to show her satisfaction. After the ceremony, the bride stood on the edge of the bed and "dressed up", and then the trouble began. Sing noisy songs when you are noisy. The lyrics are "Look at the bride and He Xinlang, as soon as they enter the bridal chamber, the son is born with his left foot and the phoenix is born with his right foot"; "Light a candle, see the bride's dowry, high cabinets and low boxes, ivory beds that are neither high nor short, and mandarin ducks, mandarin ducks in pairs, and phoenixes in pairs." The new house is full of joy and humor. There is also the custom of "listening to the room" at night. On the first day after marriage, the bride and groom greet their elders in turn and pay homage to their ancestors. In three days, both husband and wife went back to their parents' homes and came back the same day. Six days, the bride's family came to visit her, and twelve days later, the bride was taken back. This is called "returning to the door".