Is the behavior of the man's family a moral kidnapping?

My boyfriend and I are college classmates and met at a club activity. He is one year younger than me. In the first two years, I had a good relationship. At the beginning of the third year, he broke up because he called his friends, friends and friends and some small things accumulated. A month later, because of my retention and his inability to let go, we got back together. He said we got back together this time to marry me.

What he told me was that he would get engaged to me and get a license these two years. If he is admitted to graduate school, he will do it after the wedding. I also reluctantly accepted that the wedding would be a little late, and I didn't know if he would be admitted at that time. He graduated from full-time postgraduate entrance examination and I fully support him. Now I have successfully passed the exam and have not started school yet.

My mother wanted to solve our problems before, because she was afraid it would affect his review. Now she wants to meet her parents when she is admitted. As a result, his family delayed in every way and then met.

The man's family went to fortune-telling to set a date, saying that he got married at the age of 28, and I was 29 years old. I graduated from graduate school three times, which was really lucky. They asked my family to calculate their lives, and we can calculate it in August next year. Parents hope to get a license next year, but the man's parents insist that they must be 28 years old to get a license. I said I was going to be 29, too old, and his mother replied, "The female neighbor next door didn't get married until she was 33." Nobody will give in to this matter, and his parents will be engaged next year at the latest.

In the meantime, another thing happened. We want to buy a house together and need 600,000 frozen funds. Our family is willing to pay 500 thousand to let their family pay 6.5438+10 thousand. My mother went to their house to discuss this matter, and they agreed verbally. When I finally wanted to get the money, my boyfriend still felt that the pressure of repaying the loan was too great and did not take it out.

You don't have to buy that house. I just can't figure out where they get their confidence and how they can be so car-scrapping without money. My mother is worried that my boyfriend dumped me during graduate school. I am too old to find a new home, but I'm sure he won't change his mind. But I can't accept that their family doesn't consider me, only their son; And my boyfriend's previous promises can't be fulfilled, and now he helps his parents persuade me.