A book a week 1 1 wisdom of life

Maybe the contemporary poisoned chicken soup is too much to drink. The name sounds like a chicken soup book, but it doesn't look so chicken soup. I feel like giving a political lesson to the director.

A person lives in his own skin first, not in other people's opinions.

Shang Fuer said: Happiness is not an easy thing! It can't be produced spontaneously, and it's hard to get it from others.

There are three reasons why people's fate is different.

The happiness of life depends largely on who we are and on our personality; Wealth or destiny usually just means what we have or what others think we have. Unhappy just because you "feel unhappy".

Happiness and misfortune in life depend not so much on what we encounter, but on the way we encounter them, that is, on the type and degree of our vulnerability. What kind of person a person is, what is inherent in him, that is, his personality, directly affects his happiness and wealth.

If you smile often, then you are happy; If you often go to Lacrimosa, you are unlucky.

The two enemies of human happiness are pain and boredom. When we are lucky enough to escape from one end, we are close to the other, that is, we avoid pain, but avoid boredom, and vice versa.

In fact, life is like a pendulum, swinging back and forth at these two ends, either violently or gently-or painfully or bored. Anyway, there is always one thing that cannot escape. Investigate its root cause, pain and boredom are two opposites, one is external or objective, the other is internal or subjective. Lack of environment and poverty can lead to pain; And if a person has enough to eat and drink, then he will feel bored.

Ordinary people just want to spend their time, and people with a little talent will think about how to make good use of their time. Mediocre people are more likely to get bored because their intelligence is only driven by will; Once there is no external stimulus, they will have a rest and their intelligence will have a holiday-because intelligence, like will, needs some external things to promote its function and will not take the initiative to move, so people's strength will stagnate, which is boring.

In order to solve the boring painful feeling, people turn to trivial things that can bring a moment of happiness, so as to awaken willpower to act and activate sleeping intelligence.

People should not expect too much from others or the outside world. One person is not that important to another-after all, one can only rely on oneself. Self is the best and richest resource that a person can become or get. The more fun a person finds in himself, the happier he will be.

Aristotle believes that happiness lies in being able to display one's talents; Stobeu said that happiness means doing what you are good at with energy and getting the expected results. He specifically stated that "being good at" means using our strengths and abilities to master everything that needs to be done.

Most people regard things outside their bodies as the source of happiness in life, hoping to get happiness from property, social status, wife, children, friends or society, so when he loses these things or finds them disappointing, the foundation of his happiness collapses.

The only real happiness of a mediocre person is the happiness of the senses. He thinks that sensual pleasure can make up for other losses. For him, oysters and champagne are the highest realms of life. His goal in life is to get everything that can bring comfort. If these things keep him busy, he will feel extremely happy!

Measuring a person's happiness only depends on what he has, not what he wants, which is like calculating a score with only a numerator and no denominator, which is invalid. If a person never wants something, he won't feel lost, and he will be equally happy whether there is such a thing or not; And not getting what you want will make people feel painful. Everyone expects more, but the pattern limits our vision, and vision limits our income. If there is something in front of us and it seems within reach, we will be very happy; But if we encounter many difficulties on the way, we will feel distressed. But what is invisible has no effect on us.

The stupidity of human nature gave birth to three other new buds: ambition, vanity and pride. The difference between vanity and pride lies in: pride is to firmly believe that you have supreme value in a certain aspect; Vanity is the hope that others believe that they have some value, usually accompanied by a hidden hope that by arousing others' conviction, they can finally make themselves equally convinced. Pride comes from the heart and is a direct appreciation of self. Vanity is the desire to obtain this kind of self-appreciation indirectly from the outside world.

Not everyone can be a proud person, ordinary people will only show off, and will soon give up playing pride and return to their true colors. Only by firmly believing that you have unparalleled value and special importance can you make a person feel as proud as a king.

When modesty becomes a "virtue", fools gain the most-if modesty is also a virtue, don't everyone have to call themselves fools? Modesty actually leveled the gap between people, as if there were only fools in this world. The cheapest pride is national pride, the so-called "national pride"-if a person claims to be proud of his country or nation, it only shows that he has nothing to be proud of, otherwise he will not be proud of what millions of people share.

What people can really understand and appreciate is only what echoes their own nature. Bored people will like boring things, mediocre people will only appreciate stereotypes, people with complicated ideas will be interested in confusion and vagueness, and brainless people will be attracted to stupid things. Everyone will like to attract his own works, because it is a truth that his personality characteristics are fully reflected in his works.

The highest achievement of human thought is usually not readily accepted at the beginning, until it gets the attention of outstanding people, gains a certain status through the influence of those people, and then maintains its status by virtue of the strength given to the work itself by the author, that is, gets rid of obscurity.

Jesus said, "Telling a story to a fool is like talking to a person who is dozing off." After the story was finished, he came over and asked,' What are you talking about?' "

But all excellent things will be attacked by a large number of mediocre people as soon as they appear; They will unite to resist "Excellence" and even try their best to suppress it. Their slogan is "Down with Excellence". Moreover, those who have made some achievements and thus enjoyed a certain reputation are often unwilling to see a rising star rise to fame, because the success of others will cover up his own glory.