How to arrange things for a wedding in Wenling?

1. What is the wedding custom in Chenjiazhai Village, Wenqiao Town, Wenling City, Zhejiang Province?

Marriage custom is a series of etiquette and procedures from matchmaking to marriage to "looking forward to three days" in the past.

In the past, marriages between men and women were arranged by matchmakers. The matchmaker gave the woman's birthday to the man, and after the man accepted it, he put the woman's birthday in the stove mountain niche for seven days. If there is no rip-off (such as bowl, quarrel, injury, etc.). Within seven days, both men's and women's birthdays will be called fortune tellers in succession.

If there is a match, both parents will take their children on a blind date (commonly known as stepping on relatives). At that time, blind date didn't talk face to face. After blind date, people asked each other to understand each other's family profile and personality.

After the two sides agreed, the man chose a day to send Xiaoding (commonly known as Dingtou), a small amount of money and some wool, clothes and other things. Generally, when Xiaoding is sent, there is no banquet. Both sides prepare some snacks slightly better than usual, mostly cooking two bowls of noodles for two matchmakers to eat.

At this point, the marriage between the two sides was initially implemented. Then choose an auspicious day, and the man will post the delivery date (commonly known as the delivery date).

That is, the man writes the wedding date selected by the fortune teller on red paper to inform the other party, and at the same time gives the woman a considerable "Japanese silver" and "clothes money". Previously, the man had to ask the matchmaker about the preparation of the woman's dowry and determine the number of "Japanese banks" according to the amount of dowry.

That is, the dowry is rich, and the more money there is, the less it will be. Of course, this is not completely equal, and it is related to the economic strength and generosity of the man's family.

As for the daily list, that is, two posts, the cover is written with the word "Quanfu" and the post is written with the word "Zheng". Then go straight and write: "Dare to give my heart, my fair lady, Fu Wei promises to be handsome."

Or "I sincerely offer the words' Wild Goose Coin, Love Like Oxygen, Fu Qi Jin Nuo, A Match Made in Heaven'". Prepare two empty stickers, two brushes and two pieces of ink, and write a reply to each other.

Everything is ready. After breakfast, the two matchmakers sent jujube slips, jujube silver, clothes and fabrics, gold and silver jewelry, as well as red eggs, oranges, five-color fruits, evergreen and cypress branches to the woman's house. On the day of Chinese food, the woman's family delivered wine and invited relatives and friends to come.

After the banquet, the woman replied yes. On the other two empty posts sent by the man, she wrote, "The fate is fixed, the husband and wife are harmonious, and the geese are plucked." Or "Pay tribute to the wild goose coin, get married, wait for the week, South America" to show acceptance and commitment (posting in various forms, not seeking unity). When the woman is ready, she replies and entrusts the matchmaker to bring gifts back to the man, and the man invites four relatives and six relatives to send wine to the banquet as soon as possible.

At this point, this marriage event is basically established, and both parents can address each other in the name of dear. Next, both men and women prepare for the wedding.

When the woman's family buys items (dowry), relatives and friends should give gifts (commonly known as bride price). Before, she usually gave raw eggs, clothes or clothes. The man's family prepares the wedding room and bed, and sends stickers to relatives and friends to eat wine.

On the third day of the first month, the man will slaughter the pig and send it to the woman's house (commonly known as the meat in front of the sedan chair) for the woman's banquet, and it is also the "wedding meat" that the woman gives to her relatives and friends. At the same time, there are two big carp, red eggs and oranges. This is called "combing leaves".

The night before the auspicious day of the ecliptic, men held a banquet, commonly known as "greenhouse". Traditionally, when you are a great uncle, you must sit on your head. When your uncle didn't arrive, all the guests didn't sit all the time. Only when your uncle is ready can you hold a banquet.

On greenhouse night, the man's good friends (commonly known as bridal chamber guests or hospitality guests) should decorate the bridal chamber (commonly known as bridal chamber protection). In the woman's house, accompanied by her sisters, the woman bowed to her elders one by one.

On auspicious days, it is called "Zhengchang" in the man's house. After breakfast, the bride will get married in a sedan chair, and the team to pick up the bride will start. The matchmaker will lead the way, and the trumpeter and bride (dowry) will be followed by hospitality. The amount depends on the dowry. In addition, because people who carried their wives in the past could not rest on the road, especially those who carried boxes and picked quilts, they should choose young and strong people.

Of course, there must be a pair of young "aunts" in the team. After the dowry comes back, the bride enters the door, and after meeting, the dinner is the most abundant banquet.

In the woman's house, it is another scene. The first thing that couples who are going to get married should do is to "open the quota". According to the time and direction of the "opening amount" written by the fortune teller when choosing the date (such as southeast, south, southwest, etc.). ), put a table in front of the room, straighten it according to the set direction, put a mirror on the table, and there is pollen. Minko (a kind of hair oil like a toothbrush) and his wife are sitting in a chair. In front of the mirror, an old and expert woman paints powder on the couple's faces and foreheads, ties it with a thin thread, spreads the thread from both ends with the thumb and forefinger of both hands, sticks it to the hair on their faces and foreheads, and then uses a bowl front.

Or just paint it on your forehead and wait for it to look like it. This is "opening the forehead". In the morning, it is called "being married" to give the woman a quota, and the man will send a table of "quota rice" and bring meat the day before sending the sedan chair.

Some people go to the man in the afternoon to set a quota, which is called "small marriage", and "setting a quota of rice" is exempted. After the wedding team arrived, the dowry was tied at the beginning of handling. After dowry adjustment, if it is a shortcut, it depends on whether the host family invites them to drink. If there is no wine, you can get up with a dowry.

If you have wine, you will get up a little earlier than the bride after eating wine and rice. After the banquet, before the couple get on the sedan chair and go out, the matchmaker picks a load of eggs and other things first. When they arrive at the man's house, they are always taken into the couple's room, with the front end on the bed and the back end on the high bucket (also called baby bucket) prepared by others.

On the man's side, he saw the matchmaker coming and knew that the sedan chair was coming. When it's time to go out, the newlyweds get up and go out. The newlyweds and their closest relatives, such as their mothers and sisters, will cry loudly and happily. It's like the saying goes, "Don't bark when you cut an ox, but laugh when you marry."

At this time, the brothers and sisters in the uncles' room helped the couple get into the sedan chair. This is called "Li Maola sedan chair without combing your head and wrapping your feet." It means that girls don't want to go out, and they will be dragged out.

Along the way, firecrackers led the way, drummers blew, sedan chairs were carried, and married children followed. It was very lively. The sedan chair comes in, accompanied by the husband and wife.

2. What are the wedding customs in Wenling?

The customs of Shaanxi and Zhejiang are somewhat different. I stayed in Shaanxi for nearly four years. As far as I know, son preference is very serious in Shaanxi, especially in rural areas. Women work hard and have to wait on men when they go home. But girls (as Shaanxi people call them) want to get married early and praise gifts for boys to marry their wives. Male chauvinism is still quite heavy.

Zhejiang is not exactly what you say. Feudal customs still exist in rural Zhejiang, especially in natural villages, but they are not as common as in Shaanxi. Now Zhejiang has begun to attach importance to girls, one is obedient, and the other is not to worry about the burden in the future. When a girl gets married, if it is not far away, her daughter will often take her husband and children back to her parents' home, and of course she will keep her room. Especially now, boys in Wenling generally don't live with their parents. Unless the family really can't afford a house, there will be two old people living in the old house, and the old people will always prepare a room for each child, regardless of gender. My family kept an empty room for them to come back. Of course, most of the property still belongs to boys. After all, feudal thought is still like this.

There is nothing special about the marriage custom in Wenling. Before that, it was decided that the woman would send red eggs and other things, and the man would return the gift money. Then, he will choose a date to register for marriage and set out wine. The woman will also give a dowry. There is no habit of visiting or going to church here.

3. What kind of things should be put on the bed in the new house?

Candles in bridal chamber-warmth In today's bridal chamber decoration, candles are the most popular choice, and various styles of bridal chamber candles can cater to various styles of bridal chamber decoration.

Rose-shaped goblet candles are warm and magnificent, which are best placed in front of the bed, adding a mysterious and beautiful warmth to the wedding night. All kinds of fruit candles are tangible and colored, warm and cordial, or cool and pleasant.

Do you still want to have a candlelight dinner from time to time? Then, besides beautiful tableware, there must be beautiful candles. Happy wedding photos-in a warm new house, what can best reflect the personality color and highlight the hobby and aesthetic taste of the home owner is your own wedding photos.

In addition to carefully taken wedding photos, you can also choose some photos of your daily life. Sticking a substrate on the photo can enrich the environment of the new house. White substrate is more active, suitable for playful and lively wedding photos.

In addition, you can also choose gold and silver substrates to match the elegant atmosphere of the new house. After the photo is finished, you can wear a string on your back and hang it on the wall. Lobby, corridor, corridor, bedroom and dining room can all do this.

Let everyone congratulate your friends and feel your happiness and sweetness, and let them envy your skills of publicizing your personality! Yes man-The traditional red silk pillow will add a lot of China traditional wedding flavor to the home, and the bright red, auspicious and exquisite pattern of Yuanyang or rich peony will give people a lively and festive feeling. The colorful silk pillows on the beds and sofas in the new house can not only provide a comfortable support for the friends in the bridal chamber after the tiring wedding, but also let the joy in the room flow freely. Moreover, when people are separated, two people sleep on pillows together, and even form a tacit understanding of sharing responsibilities.

So harmonious, how can it not be infected? More than auspicious and festive-the word "red happiness" on the door of tolerance is a symbol of the new house, which is naturally essential. The huge and handsome happy characters are decorated with auspicious magpie patterns.

All kinds of happy words jump between doors and windows, like countless magpies, twittering to convey good news and bless new people. Scattered red not only plays the role of embellishment, but also does not give people a sense of irritability because of its large area.

Can accurately convey the atmosphere and generosity of the East, so that the layout of new houses is rich in oriental characteristics. A hundred years of harmony-from love to marriage commitment, the contribution of flowers can not be underestimated.

Show love with roses, and show determination with forget-me-not. Lily is born with beauty. Besides elegant colors and flowers, the most important thing is that her name gives people an auspicious blessing.

In terms of decoration, whether the whole bundle or a single branch is placed in a flowerpot at will, no matter where it appears in the new house, it shows a kind of peaceful happiness. Generally speaking, the color contrast between Bai Baihe and indoor furniture and furnishings is great, which makes it easier to create an overall indoor aesthetic effect.

The application of single Bai Baihe can especially express the delicate feelings of new people. Having a baby early-I hope all kinds of lovely newlyweds, some with funny expressions and some warm and romantic, will bring a rare lively atmosphere to the new house.

Childishness can break the dullness of married life. The smiling face of the doll contains the hope that the newlyweds will become parents as soon as possible, and the childishness and liveliness of the doll inject vitality into the decoration of the new house. In such warmth and hope, the new house is more like a home.