Marriage custom in Wudi Mountain

The Marriage Customs of Emperor Wu before the Founding of the People's Republic of China (201-1-03 09: 36: 23) The humanities of Emperor Wu.

There is no cloud or rain in the sky, and there is no marriage on the ground. Before the founding of the People's Republic of China, men and women were "giving and receiving, not relatives or friends". Only by "parents' orders and matchmakers' words" and paying attention to "matching families" could men and women "tie the knot" and "live in harmony". In Wudi, the normal marriage customs of the Han nationality generally go through the procedures of media, engagement, invitation, congratulations, wedding reception and residence.

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In feudal society, when a man was 15, 16 or even 13 years old, his parents sought relatives through the media. In some villages in Wudi County, there are also children who are engaged at the age of 18, commonly known as "small marriages". If a woman hires a matchmaker to ask her husband for help, it is called "asking for help". In the process of winning the lottery, men and women don't meet. They just rely on the matchmaker's clever words to fix their marriage, and then ask the fortune teller to fix their horoscope. There is no prescription for engagement. The age of marriage between men and women is much more expensive than that of women. As the saying goes, "Girls wear gold clothes when they are freshmen", "Girls take gold bricks when they are juniors" and "Girls compete for mothers when they are seniors".

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After the media, it is engagement. Both men and women agree to write an invitation, indicating three generations, place of origin, number of trips, age, etc. The bride price is prepared by the man's family and sent to the woman's family together with the invitation. The woman's reply card is the basis of engagement, commonly known as "changing number" and "giving gifts" After the exchange in Cambodia, relatives and friends sent gifts and money to congratulate, and the man prepared a banquet to thank the matchmaker and relatives and friends.

Send wedding invitations

After the engagement, the man chooses an auspicious day to inform the woman. If the woman agrees, the man can choose another auspicious day to formally send a wedding invitation to her, indicating the wedding date, the direction of getting on and off the sedan chair and the taboos. According to their own economic conditions, the woman's family buys bedding, clothes, jewelry, furniture, etc. to prepare for marriage.

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After sending out the invitations, both men and women make preparations for the wedding. The woman buys a dowry, and the woman to be married stays at home, which is called "hidden show". Two days before the wedding, the man prepares the bride price and sends it to the woman in a box by a special person, which is called "urging gift". At the same time, the native people in the village where the man lived gathered together to help and elected one person as the "president" under the common name of "serving tea" to hold a happy event. The night before the wedding, the newlywed husband went to the temple to pay homage to his elders, and a drummer played music, commonly known as "performance ceremony." The next day, the man lifted the sedan chair and got married at the time agreed by the woman.

Pick up the bride (in a sedan chair) for the wedding.

The wedding banquet is the highlight of the wedding, commonly known as "holding a happy event", which can be divided into "big wedding" and "small wedding". Marry two sedan chairs, an official sedan chair and a sedan chair. The groom with big red flowers on his chest, a robe and jacket, and a melon hat takes the official sedan chair first, and the sedan chair is reserved for the bride. When going to a wedding reception, a young child sat in a sedan chair, commonly known as "pressing the sedan chair". When returning, the child who pressed the sedan chair and the child who pressed the glamorous RV returned in the same car; The "big marriage" is only used by a few young people, and the "small marriage" is mostly used by ordinary people, that is, the man prepares a sedan chair to carry his newly married wife.

The woman to be married should drink less and eat less two days before marriage, get up early on the wedding day, dress up, fold her braids into a bun, sit in a red sedan chair and wait for the sedan chair to arrive. The man welcomes relatives to the woman's house. After tea and dinner, he can get off the bus. A married woman, with a red cloth on her head, is carried in a sedan chair by her uncle or uncle, and then brought with her a fruit box, snacks and a fire, which is called "sending a small meal".

When the sedan chair arrives at the man's door, you should get off in the specified direction and firecrackers should ring at the same time. The sedan chair is equipped with a saddle, hanging stones and a red carpet. Two new bricks with double happiness are wrapped in red paper and placed around the saddle. Two female guests who received the man's daughter-in-law opened the curtain of the sedan chair, and the other girl carried a plate with a rice cake on it, so that the new daughter-in-law could grasp the tip of the rice cake in the middle, which meant "getting taller every year" and would get better one day. The bride got off the sedan chair, stepped on the saddle, stepped on the stone, stepped on the red carpet, walked into the yard, and worshipped heaven and earth, the high hall and husband and wife before the god of heaven and earth. After the ceremony, the bride entered the bridal chamber. In some places, when entering the bridal chamber, male elders scatter red dates, chestnuts and peanuts in the yard or sew them in the corner of the quilt or stuff them into pillows, which means "your son is born early, and men and women will spend a lifetime together".

The new house is full of flowers and candles, and the newly married husband takes off the red scarf on his newly married wife's head with a balance beam. The new wife is sitting on the kang, and the female guest dresses her and changes the bun into a pan head, which is called "head". Later, newlyweds ate "comfort noodles", drank "wedding wine" and filled pillows as usual. The bride begins to "sit on the bed", also called "sit on the bed", mostly for one day. On this day, people, big or small, were making a scene in the bridal chamber until late at night. After the newlyweds sleep, there is an old custom of "listening to the room" under the window of young men and women. At the same time, the man entertained the woman with dining tables and sent her to get married. , and in turn hosted new friends and friends who came to congratulate her. In the evening, the husband and wife bring rice to their in-laws and have dinner with the bride, which is called "sending a big meal".

If you marry "Huitouer" (remarry a woman), you don't need to take a sedan chair. The man has to get up early to meet a group of relatives, which is called "robbing relatives". Because of the old marriage system, married women must be loyal to their husbands and cannot remarry halfway. If you want to remarry, the man who needs to be remarried needs to get married by "robbing relatives", which is called "robbing".

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On the third day after marriage, the bride goes to the ancestral grave to pay homage to her aunt, sister and clan, which is called "Worship on Wednesday". Every two days, the bride's father takes the bride back to her family; Send the bride to her husband's house every other day; It is also a double festival, when newlyweds go to the bride's house together and call it "Huimen". At this point, the old-fashioned wedding ceremony is over.