What is the Buddhist concept of love between men and women?

It's hard to get out of the reincarnation of all beings. This is upside down and wrong. This is from the realm of buddhas and bodhisattvas, who pity us. Those who really practice Buddhism will inevitably break this upside-down ordinary feeling and turn it into great sorrow. Only when the outside world goes out and your heart is like a wall can you enter the Tao, and the roots of love are hard to break. So most people can avoid this problem. They can slowly practice the concept of bones, recite Buddha and hold spells to increase their concentration and slowly transform. They should ask themselves clearly whether they can really let go of this passion. If they can't let go, it's all the same to practice there. If they can't let go, then honestly recite the Buddha and hold a spell to slowly draw and transform, and plant the reason for his becoming a Buddha. In secular feelings, they just follow fate. Don't force it. When it comes to love, it is a human matter, which has little to do with Buddhism. Buddhism is the result of nirvana from three realms. If you want nirvana, you must stop this desire. The secular world often borrows Buddhist terms to explain the concept of love, what is three generations of cause and effect, and what is the frontier of the past. This is fate. Wait a minute. Originally, I wanted all beings not to be persistent, and I didn't want them to get deeper and deeper. Secular love, in my opinion, is to chase after what you like. If there is fate, we will be together and try our best to fight for it. Everything is positive. If you really don't have a chance to let go, let go now and don't let the pain follow you. I hope it will be helpful for you to post the Buddhist love view of Master Xingyun to you. Buddhists should remember that Buddhists and Bodhisattvas will never abandon every sentient being, most of them are self-harming and unwilling to be rescued by Buddhists and Bodhisattvas, just to know that even if all sentient beings in hell still have Ksitigarbha Bodhisattva to rescue them! Master Xing Yun talks about Buddhism's view of love. Most people are always curious about this. Because everyone thinks that only love between men and women is called "love". In fact, not only the love between men and women or between men and women is called love, but also the affection between father and son, mother and daughter, the friendship between friends and the brotherhood between compatriots.

The world of love is vast. We not only love human society, such as our parents, our friends and our country. We also love plants, such as Tao Yuanming loves chrysanthemums and Zhou Dunyi loves lotus flowers. Others like animals, keeping cats, dogs and racing pigeons; Some people even like minerals and take collecting all kinds of strange stones and foreign bodies as a pleasure; Some people collect stamps and matchboxes. Of course, loving sentient beings is a kind of love, and loving heartless vegetation is also a kind of love.

People often hear the question: "Where did humans come from?" Buddhist scriptures tell us: "People come from love!" The scripture says: "Love is not important, you can't have concubines", and we humans are "sentient beings", so we know that people are affectionate and loving lives. Love is the root of life.

Some love belongs to "defiled" love, some love belongs to "pure" love, some love is "possessed" love, and some love is "dedicated" love. What is "love"? On the bad side, love, like a rope, will bind us and make our body and mind not free; Love is like a chain, which will bind us and make us restless for a moment; Love is sometimes like a blind person, trapped in the dark and not knowing it; Love is like syrup on a knife. In order to taste that little sweetness, you may be in danger of losing your tongue. Love is more like a sea of suffering. "thousands of feet waves in love, waves in the sea of suffering" can make us capsize in the sea of suffering.

On the positive side, love is sacrifice and dedication, and love is encouragement and sympathy. For the public, they always want to be loved and like to get other people's feelings. But there are also some people who like to show their love and love for the public in society. However, love, sometimes it is easy to go wrong, because "love" and "hate" are all for the sake that he is my brother, and they are almost inseparable. If you don't love well, it will turn into hate, because the love that ordinary people talk about in society is often limited to the love between men and women, and you can't further expand love into people's love and sublimate love into compassion that cares for all sentient beings. Today, I want to tell you about human love from four levels. 1. The love of ordinary people in the world

The so-called ordinary people's love is often narrow and limited, and ordinary people's love is possessive and phase. Ordinary people's love sometimes leads to many problems. To sum up the reasons, there are probably the following points.

(A) the object of love is wrong

It is human nature to see the person you like, but when the object of admiration is inappropriate, it will not only increase happiness, but also increase trouble. For example, the other party has become a husband and wife, and the famous flowers are taken, and they are still struggling to pursue them, which can only cause tragedy. Besides, feelings are two-sided, and you can't force them just because you are interested. The degree of affection should also be shallow, shallow and deep. If you drown too much, it will inevitably lead to bottomless results.

(B) the concept of love is wrong

Some people think that wealth can buy others' love, while others think that they can't communicate because of the mismatch between status and portal. These are all wrong ideas. Take the love between men and women for example: just like marriage in the past, how much money must be used as a matchmaker to talk about marriage; Or when falling in love, always consider each other's identity, family background, appearance, education and occupation, and list many conditions. Conditional love like this becomes a kind of material love, not real love, because real love is unconditional and completely paid.

(C) the wrong way of love

Some people think that they can have three wives and four concubines and enjoy the happiness of others. This is private love enjoyed by individuals. Some people don't correct the mistakes of the people they love, but the people they hate are picky in every way, and their eyes seem to be covered with a haze, and they can't see each other's true colors clearly. Therefore, some people say that love is blind. Only by understanding that "love knows its evil and evil knows its good" can love really play its role.

There used to be a police story: a rich man loved his only son very much, and he was reluctant to let his child suffer. Clothes are worn by waiters, and rice is fed by spoonfuls. He was spoiled until he was 30. The child has everything he wants. He doesn't work or do anything. One day, the rich man celebrated his 50th birthday and specially invited an astrologer to tell his fortune. After such calculation, he realized that the rich man was eighty years old, and his son could only live to be sixty-two. That's terrible. Before the rich man could grieve for his son, his son was already crying: Dad! You can only live to be 80 years old, when I was only 60 years old, and there are still several years to live; At that time, you were already sleeping in the coffin. Who will feed me? How should I dress for dinner? '

Parents' wrong doting has actually hurt their children's life; The love encouraged by parents can give children great strength and let them make correct life choices. Twenty years ago, when Master Cizhuang, now the abbot of Xilai Temple, decided to become a monk, her parents watched her shave her beard with tears and a smile. Why are her parents sad and happy, crying and laughing? After the crystal tears, what kind of feelings is that? In today's Buddhist world, there are many college students who are willing to become monks, and it is not uncommon for young intellectuals to join Buddhism. But more than 20 years ago, when the Buddhist atmosphere in Taiwan Province Province was relatively closed, it was really difficult for an educated young man to devote himself to Buddhism. Her parents have feelings for him, hoping that their children will always enjoy it on their knees, but more affectionate. Parents, between smiles and tears, have profound meanings.

In fact, Buddhism does not oppose the just love between men and women, nor does it oppose the love between husband and wife. However, some young men and women in society are in love now, and they have become casual love-from precious love between men and women to disorderly love that causes trouble. This phenomenon is very bad.

Some people say that love is a comedy in France, a tragedy in Britain and an opera in Italy. If it is in America, love now has become a farce. And if love is in China and I watch it, it's a farce.

Why is love in our modern society an ugly drama? You can see many shocking reports from the newspaper. The result of love is either disfigurement or injury, which has created many shocking and ugly events. Seeing so many ugly things happen, I can't help sighing. All beings really don't understand love.

The so-called love, we don't have to talk about sacrifice and dedication, but at least we can't hurt each other in love. Le Yi said in the Warring States Policy: "When a gentleman breaks up, there is no evil voice; The loyal minister went to the country without leaving a name. " Gentleman, if you break up with others, don't speak ill of them; Loyal ministers leave the country without giving your name. Similarly, it is good to have a lover to get married, but if not, be like a gentleman and don't turn against each other. Once the relationship breaks down and we leave each other amicably, how can we have the heart to vilify, hurt or even destroy this person we once loved so much? Why bother?

Some people say that young people talk about love, and love is just talk; Middle-aged people talk about love, love is in the body and in the hand; When the elderly talk about love, love is in their hearts and unforgettable. Therefore, the experience of love is becoming more and more mature with age. Generally speaking, ordinary people's love is from beauty to white hair, from flowers to flowers, and they are more greedy for the love between men and women. If love can be improved with the improvement of our personality and become more and more pure with the improvement of morality, then the love of ordinary people will be more and more sublimated, from loving themselves, even parents and family, to loving human beings in the world.