Today, I am a sophomore. First love. After chatting for a few days, I found that she didn't take the initiative at all. She talked about it once before, and I feel that she doesn't like me at all?

From a girl's point of view, I know more about girls' psychology. Most girls don't take the initiative to pursue the boys they like, unless they really like them too much or are the kind of girls who are very brave and brave. So, if you like a girl very much and think she is a little interested in you, take the initiative and don't engage in a tug-of-war with her, you will feel uncomfortable. Maybe the person you like will also suffer.

Methods/steps

When girls are being chased, their psychology is very complicated. She may be happy, but she is a little scared. She has ambivalence towards the boy who intruded into her quiet life. She didn't mean to. Don't think she is testing you, but she is actually fighting herself. She is afraid of getting hurt. Don't be afraid that your initiative will bring her disgust. If you don't take the initiative, she won't take the initiative, and it will fade slowly. It's normal if your initial confession is rejected by her. Don't be discouraged, who knows what this girl is thinking? Maybe if you confess twice, she will be moved by you. A good girl with a kind heart is easily moved. If you encounter setbacks, leave immediately, never reply to this girl again, protect yourself tightly and lick the wound silently. And when you are in pain, as everyone knows, that girl may be regretting, regretting! Maybe she will secretly cry and regret rejecting you, and then she will be sad to see your indifferent eyes, but she won't tell you, and she will never let you come back to chase her. Your excessive self-esteem may hurt a girl's sensitive heart. She will think that you don't really like him, otherwise how could you just give her up? Some people say that it is really difficult for boys and it is not easy to chase girls. But my feeling is that this phenomenon is inseparable from the social role orientation of men and women. From a physiological and social point of view, women are always passive. If, on the other hand, men are ashamed and women are brave, the world will be in a mess! Women's shyness is always beautiful ~ I always hear that a brave man overcame many difficulties and finally won the heart of a beautiful woman. There are few examples to the contrary. Some boys are afraid that others will say that they are dead and pester them to fight, leaving a bad reputation. But I think boys pursue the girl they like and continue to be nice to this girl after encountering some setbacks, which shows that people really like it and are sincere. If it doesn't work, there's nothing to regret. It's nothing. Who makes people like it? I hate people blindly following me, and I hate boys who have no opinions and care too much about what others think of them. They deserve not to find a girlfriend. If you are a man, be brave. Girls are emotional and easily immersed in love. Although you work hard, once your heart touches her, you will get more and more love. Such examples abound around us. Girls are gentle and considerate to their boyfriends. What was the sweetness of the original hard work? And most good girls are devoted and single-minded.

Matters needing attention

I suggest that some boys be brave and pursue the girls they like, and don't be so timid. First, people feel that you are not manly, and second, people feel uncomfortable. But, most importantly, you get nothing in the end. Happiness is always earned by yourself, don't expect others to give it to you!

Girls like it. Instantly.

One: Girls are most easily tempted when they are in contact with boys alone. Boys should seize this opportunity and show their initiative; If there is a third party present, they usually flatly refuse boys to hide their true feelings.

Second, girls stay in closed spaces (such as elevators and small rooms) for a long time, and their hearts are unbalanced, which is easy to produce psychological abnormalities and breed feelings of love; Boys can use this psychological feature to strengthen their courtship offensive.

Three: When girls hear what boys say, they tend to have a good impression. Boys are more sensitive to visual stimuli and girls are more sensitive to auditory stimuli. Boys' kind and gentle words on the phone can impress girls more. Boys should fully arouse the charm of their own language.

Four: Girls who have just finished dating boys are extremely unstable physically and mentally, and will remain intoxicated and looking forward to dating for a long time. Boys can make more use of this time at the end of the date to further impress each other.

Five: Girls are easy to get emotional in a clean and comfortable environment. This environment does not interfere with her disgust and anxiety, and it is easy for her to relax and become active.

Six: it is easy for girls to be tempted when they hear continuous praise. Even if they know that boys are deliberately flattering her, after a long time, she will be confused and think that boys are really infatuated with her. They are more likely to accept old and clumsy "courtship signals" such as flattery, flattery, etc. Emotionally, perhaps this is an animal instinct reaction.

Seven: A girl's emotions are easily out of control in a strange environment. Boys often change the time, place and way of dating to make her feel fresh and have new fun.

Eight: the emotional rhythm of girls is slower than that of boys. Only under the long-term stimulation and induction of boys, all kinds of interference from the external environment will be eliminated, and they will be fully emotional.

Nine: A boy who is trying to pursue girls suddenly gives up attacking. At this time, it is most likely to arouse the curiosity and desire of girls, but it will make her tempted.

Humans, like animals, have the instinct to choose the strong and seek the weak. The instinct of girls is to yearn for the strong, so when women realize that the other party is really strong, there will be love.

Eleven: The true love of boys is the most effective weapon to impress girls. When a girl is sure that the other person really loves her, it is easy to fall in love with this boy.

Twelve: Girls are more likely to accept boys' favor when they are tired.

Thirteen: When a girl's body is inadvertently touched, she will get emotional excitement, but deliberate touching will cause disgust.

Fourteen: Sitting for a long time will make girls emotional.

Fifteen: Sometimes a boy loses his temper with a lady and even slaps her in the face. At this time, the girl reacted to realize the charm of the other party and felt awakened and excited. I reserve my opinion on this point. —— Will

Sixteen: After strenuous exercise, girls will lose control of their feelings.

Seventeen: Girls playing outside are prone to strong feelings. At this time, girls get rid of the shackles of people, things and atmosphere in a familiar environment, and it is easy to relax themselves and have the idea of having fun.

Eighteen: After drinking and hearing sweet words, girls' cerebral cortex is in a state of mild anesthesia, their rationality is suppressed and their feelings become active.

Heart-to-heart between men and women can make girls' feelings soar, and then sprout love.

Twenty: Only when boys hang out with women often can women pay their feelings and be afraid of "love for a long time". A girl's husband is often away, which easily leads her to be emotional about the boys she often contacts.

Twenty-one: when girls have a sense of dependence on boys, they are easy to get emotional. If a boy takes her to a place that she is not familiar with or convenient to go to, she is uncomfortable with the environment and panics, which will inevitably lead to a sense of trust and dependence on the boy she knows and feelings for him.

Pursuing five compulsory measures for girls

The first trick: know yourself and know yourself. Know yourself first: What is my personality? What are my interests? What is my outlook on life? What about values? Then recognize the object: what personality is the object of pursuit? What are her interests? What is her outlook on life? What about values? Recognise the enemy: Who is her suitor? Which one stands out? What are his characteristics? On the whole, after several thoughts, find out your own strengths, carry forward them, find out his weaknesses, be careful not to make mistakes, know yourself and know yourself, and win every battle.

The second trick: nothing ventured, nothing gained, courage and care. After recognizing the enemy and me clearly, you should be confident and bold, actively launch an offensive, and take the first step bravely if you love her. Rose perfume, phone card: a phone call every day, a rose, don't forget to send a small gift on your birthday, such as a fragrance and a small card, which is a hundred times warmer.

The third measure: a father loves his brother and loves his brother. A girl can be said to be a combination of weakness and greatness. She sometimes looks like a little girl and needs to be taken care of; Sometimes like a little mother, she is good at taking care of others. Taking advantage of this trait, the boy constantly plays the kind father to care for her, and occasionally plays the little baby to let her play the maternal glory; Sometimes playing the role of mentor and friend, and sometimes playing the role of big brother, the road to love must be smooth and unparalleled.

The fourth measure: combine hard and soft, be kind and gentle, be obedient to girls from beginning to end, not necessarily good. The cleverest way is to combine rigidity with softness. Sometimes gentle, sometimes a little overbearing; Sometimes spoil her, and sometimes establish a small authority image, the flexible use of the two will surely win every battle.

The fifth measure: tight encirclement. Although the object of your pursuit is her, please remember that the decision is up to her and the influence is in her family! So you must go to her house often, from grandparents, parents, uncles and aunts, to brothers and sisters, and even her domestic dogs and pets, you must show your versatility and go through customs clearance. As the saying goes, "the population is soft and the manpower is short", I will put in a good word for you in front of her, making her feel that losing you will be a lifelong regret.

First, what kind of first impression should I leave on MM (time: I just started to contact MM)

1, I think the most important thing is to let MM see your self-motivated.

The greatest charm of a man lies in his successful career. Young people can't be "successful" if they don't work long hours. At this time, you should make MM feel that you are a self-motivated person.

Others can talk nonsense, but this question cannot be vague. You must tell MM that you are full of confidence in the future, that you are not satisfied with the status quo, and that you have a long-term plan. In a word, your future is not a dream.

2. Be confident and responsible.

Don't be a child. Girls are lazy and want to find someone to rely on. You should show your confidence and sense of responsibility.

It's better to have a wrong choice than no choice at all.

Not too formal, but not too casual.

Be serious where you should be serious, and ridicule when you should be ridiculed.

Girls like men who are a little cynical, so it seems that they don't care about anything, which is too dull.

Step 4 look mature

A leisurely man has fatal attraction to mm.

Second, how to further contact MM (time: the stage of starting to chase)

1, the most important thing at this stage is not to worry, not to make things so clear that people can see at a glance that you are chasing others.

Think about it. Most people don't like you at first sight, but they don't hate you at first sight. They are all children of ordinary people (unless you look like Chow Yun Fat, Andy Lau or kevin costner). Good feelings need to be realized through constant understanding, so the key to the problem is the opportunity for further development you want.

Think about it from the girl's point of view: if you rush directly to have sex, the girl must be under psychological pressure. If I find that I don't like you after a while, it won't be a lie, will it? So if you come out resolutely from the beginning, you will basically be bored back immediately.

Step 2 start with a low profile

First of all, we should position the relationship as a "friend", which is originally an "ordinary friend". You want to be a "good friend". Those with taste can also ask the other party to be a "confidante" or something. In short, don't say "chasing you".

Think about it, if you don't mention "chasing" at all, then there is less chance for a girl to "refuse" you-how can you refuse if you don't chase her? !

This can relieve the psychological pressure of girls and let you have a smooth relationship. Don't fantasize about agreeing to marry you after three days. You should communicate fully and understand that feelings don't come out of thin air.

Don't be too impatient in the process of communication.

Relax and don't pester others all day. Anyone who does this to you will get tired of it. A good friend of mine told me that the key to chasing girls is eight words-"hot and cold, playing hard to get" (this is the crystallization of my classmates' efforts for many years).

Staying with people all day, naturally you won't think you are good. If you are indifferent for a day or two, girls will remember the benefits of your existence.

Also, don't show the ambition of "you don't want to marry". It is not good for the price to drop too low. Sometimes you can play a little trick.

4. Create opportunities appropriately.

I said before, don't turn things into "you are chasing others" right away, you need to get close to girls. At this time, it depends on your creativity.

You can collect information and find ways to turn waiting for rabbits into encounters; You can also pretend to be casual and find the best reason to invite someone to do something with you.

In short, this is the most technical place. If it is really not feasible, you can consult your predecessors.

5. Never: It is impolite to give gifts to others casually.

Some people are eager to chase girls and like to buy things for others often, but they don't know that chasing girls is the most taboo.

As the saying goes, "something for nothing". You are putting pressure on others by giving them something like this. People will feel indebted to you, so they will try to repay you. If there is no way to pay you back, they will try to stay away from you so as not to owe you a favor all the time.

If you want to show your sincerity, please invite girls to spend money together, such as finding a good restaurant to eat or an expensive place to play together. Girls can naturally see that you spent a lot of money, but after all, the money was spent by two people, not taken home.

Third, what is a "girlfriend"?

1, "girlfriend" is a fact, not a promise.

You start dating girls, from "ordinary friends" to "good friends" to "very, very good friends who talk about everything". On a sunny afternoon, you "accidentally" held her hand; In "Willow Shoot on the Moon", you suddenly attack and kiss her. At this time, she is already your girlfriend. Whether she admits it or not, she already thinks you are her boyfriend.

I know the best. I didn't ask "Would you like to be my girlfriend" until I went to bed. Finally, the girl was anxious: "Why don't you ask me to be your girlfriend!" "

So, don't rush to pierce enough paper, the more hazy the situation, the better for you.

2. What is "confession"?

As I said before, confession is actually just a form, and the correct order should be: in fact, you have become your girlfriend, and you can confess to others. Many people don't understand this problem. They always feel that people promise to be their girlfriends first, and then what? I can only say that they are very, very "simple" and very, very "stupid".

3. Have you ever had to confess?

Yes, for example, there is a third party, or your relationship with a girl is immature, but two people may be separated for a while.

At this time, confession is an immature confession, which is very risky. It is similar to the grim situation when playing Go. The backward side was forced to release the "winning hand". If you win, you win. If you lose, you can only say that you are born with bad luck.

4. Don't export the word "love" easily.

I often see a "bold confession" in the forum. To be honest, I really think this is a very immature performance. "Love" is a sacred word, which means pursuit, commitment and even a responsibility.

A man who casually says "love" is irresponsible.

Fourth, civilized love cannot be forced.

1, not every MM can catch up.

There will always be many people chasing good girls, and it is impossible to satisfy everyone's wishes. There will always be losers. For example, even if you study hard and master the principle of chasing MM, you can't catch up with either twin.

Look at the problem from another angle. Even if a rural nanny who has never graduated from primary school is kind to you, earning 600 yuan a month and buying you 700 yuan as a gift (overdraft), and willing to be a cow and a horse for you, you will not fall in love with her. If she cries and pesters you every day, you must feel bored.

So love needs a material foundation, at least a balance.

2. Chasing MM is a serious social activity.

Don't bother others, leave yourself a way out. Why don't men have wives? Some MMS are snobs (few). If you are not convinced, you can prove with facts that "she was blind at that time". Never mistake others for yourself.

Finally, don't be cynical in front of MM, cynicism sometimes means "you are a loser".

"Would you like to be my girlfriend?" But she refused: deserved it! ! Such a big decision in life (choose a boyfriend! ) I want a little MM to do it. Little MM is so scared and ashamed. 99.9999% refused, and the other one was too affectionate for you, but just didn't deny it. I have repeatedly stressed that girls should not be allowed to think, choose and make decisions, especially major decisions, such as being her boy, holding her hand and hugging, XX. Because girls are naturally afraid of taking responsibility, shy, too formal, too clear and too important decisions, they will generally be rejected and the effect is not good. They just say, "marry me?" Yes, it seems that she is being given a choice. In fact, everything has been done. If she doesn't agree, she can't do it. Nowadays, girls don't like too much pressure, so the relationship of "above friends and below lovers" is girls' favorite, so don't confess directly at the beginning of chasing MM, so that if you want to reject your MM, you won't be prepared and avoided, and some clever tricks of chasing MM will be effective.

Remember to create more opportunities to get close. Big bosses who send flowers once a week and GG and MM who are escorted home every day are always more likely to fall in love with GG. Because there are more opportunities for contact with each other, it is often heard that excellent men who are not often at home have a fire in their backyard, and the igniter is often an ordinary person who is often in contact with his wife.

There are many criteria for being a lover: sending roses, holding hands, dating, hugging ..., taking the initiative, sending flowers, holding hands ..., you decide whether she is your girlfriend or not.

I'll teach you a trick. Take her to a fortune teller. Girls are born believing in God, so most of them are religious women, and they have no opinions. Let God persuade her to be your girlfriend (this God is at your disposal), so don't draw lots, because the variables are too big, find a fortune teller (who is a little famous), and lip service is their food capital. MM Who can say believe her? past lives will be yours in the next life. Don't worry about his nonsense.

It's up to you whether there is hope or not. You decide her fate. Listen: the eight-character mantra: thick skin and black heart, stalking and beating.

Telephone-> Dating-> Holding hands-> Kissing-> Hugging-> Target. .

Every step should be completed actively, without giving the woman time to consider, otherwise it will fail.

Don't worry, do all the links at once. That's a pervert. Do each link several times before doing the next one. Don't be afraid, as long as she does it once, she won't mind the second time. MM calls it pushing your luck. In the meantime, don't give her gifts, snacks and phone calls, at least once a day.

Call her immediately after sending her home, because when she gets home, she will think of the scene just now and may regret it or tell her close friends. Never give her time to think and discuss.

The first few links, it is best not to let her relatives and friends know, and don't let people who know you and her know. This is the key, otherwise at least the goal will not be achieved. If her relatives and friends know, they will teach her how to protect herself, and don't say anything about you, which is clear from the investigation of your ancestors for eight generations. The solution is simple. "My sister has a friend who is very stupid. How can she tell others about herself? How will it be miserable in the future?" She will not be consulted or considered, so she will listen to you.

Many people fail by hugging first and then kissing. Because girls will think when they hug, and when they turn around, they will slap. Kissing is different. At this time, her mind was blank, it was a fact that you got your first kiss, and she was excited (kissing is also called Asian sex). )。

1, give free, treat her sincerely and cherish her.

2. Support her when she is in trouble and encourage her when she fails.

3. When she is happy, we are happy together, and comfort her when she is sad.

4. Respect her own independent time and space.

5. Help and support each other in the short space of getting along.

6. Learn to listen, get information about what the other person likes from listening, and then start a topic according to her hobbies.

7. Learn to praise. Every girl has her own uniqueness. You should be good at discovering and praising.

8. Ask the girls' hobbies directly, what leisure ways they usually have, and find a topic according to the situation.

In fact, the skill of love is very simple, that is, to know what a girl needs with your heart, and you will succeed more than half.