You think you are * * *, but your circle is weak, your platform is low, and your opponent is frustrated!

A Gao Fushuai told me that there are many beautiful spare tires around him recently, and some of them are even married, and they always ask her out to eat, drink and even something else. He finds himself very attractive. I asked curiously, "Are you the tallest, richest and most handsome one in these beauty circles?" He said, "Yes, of course I'm not." I asked again, "Are all the good women who ask you out?"

He said, "No, it's all easy virtue." I said, "The problem is clear. It's not that you are attractive, but that you are worthless. " He's confused. I added, "A girl with a good family ignores you and a pile of green tea contacts you. You think you are popular, but you are just worthless. Everyone will choose people who they think are worthless and play with them at will. Don't be complacent, but reflect on why there are so many * * * around you and why * * * dares to tease you. " He was indifferent and hacked several people.

A younger sister told me that she felt that no one around her could compare with her. Now she has no motivation to move forward and feels that she doesn't need to work hard. I said, "How awesome are you now?" She said that I am now the first in my class, the student union minister, and my IELTS score is 6.5. I feel that there is nothing to work hard for. I said helplessly, "son, you said your school is average, so being a chicken head deserves your pride?"

What kind of official is the student union minister? Is there a discount for eating in the canteen? As for IELTS 6.5, I am embarrassed to tell others with such a low score. You use it to show off! "She refused:" Brother, I am already the best in our class, okay? "I replied," well, it's a pity that your classmates are not the only ones in society. "She kept silent and went to Cambridge to take the IELTS test.

When I was in England, I knew a friend who worked as an illegal worker in China. Every time I see him, he will tell me that he bought Armani jeans at a discount and so on. I feel very successful now, telling me that people in my hometown are not as good as him. I asked, what do you usually do? Have you learned to read? He said no, there is no need to learn, he has already done it.

I said, "Brother, what did you do? Who are you comparing with? A bunch of cooks working in the black market make you high? " He said no, it's better than home. I patched the knife: "If you must position your life as a chef or a farmer, we have nothing to talk about. The reason why you are invincible in the world now is because your world is just a slap in the face. " He thought for a moment and said, "Brother, you are right." Now his small business is thriving.

If one day we find that I am the best in our circle, on the one hand, it may be that we have really made efforts, on the other hand, it may be that our circle is too weak, our environment is full of weak people and our opponents are very depressed. When we are called white, we are not really white, but real white does not take us to play.

Because we are too weak in their eyes, even in the eyes of many weaker people, we are already a cow. The most terrible thing is that we often become self-righteous and complacent because of the praise and applause of a few weaker people. Micro-signal: Li Jian doesn't mean that we are a generation of superstars with the seal of Pioneer Officer. Zhao Yun has Zhao Yun's circle, and Liao Hua has Liao Hua's circle.

A long time ago, I felt how powerful I was. Later, I gradually found that many times when we feel arrogant, it is very likely that we are weak, because it is not our cattle, but our competitors who are weak. And why are our competitors so weak?

It is because we are weak that we fall on a weak platform, so the competitors on this platform are also weak. Micro-signal: Li Jian, just because you dominate the Super League doesn't mean how high your football level is, because there are no La Liga Serie A players here to grab the ball and tackle with you; Winning the CBA All-Star scoring champion is not worthy of your admiration. Carter, who is almost forty years old this year, still won't look at you. Even if you knock down the King of Muay Thai WCG, you may be killed in a few minutes.

In a school, there are three academic giants, but in a famous school, they may be dwarfed; Holding a high salary in an investment bank, everyone will disappear into the hedge fund circle; Local tyrants in small cities have little sense of existence in Beijing and Shanghai.

So whenever we feel "invincible in the world", why not reflect: maybe, it's not that I have many skills, but that I don't have enough skills. I am not skilled enough, because I am complacent and incompetent because I am the king of slapping in a small circle. In Degang Guo's words: "It's not how powerful I am, but mainly the foil of my peers."

The more awesome you are, the easier it is to realize your smallness. Human vision is a spiral. The bigger your vision, the bigger your spiral, the bigger your awareness of the periphery, and the more aware of your own shortcomings. After graduating from high school, I feel that I can "make contributions", after graduating from undergraduate course, after graduating from master's degree, I feel that I can "get married", and after graduating from doctor's degree, I feel that I rarely graduate. Mr. Chen Daisun, the founder of China Economics, said: "I have only done one thing in my life, that is, teaching." Chen has never repeatedly stressed that he is an "ordinary player". A few days ago, I chatted with a great god who has been studying for a doctorate in a top American university, such as the Tsinghua Special Scholarship. He has been recognized as an academic god among our classmates, but he feels worse and worse. When we called him a "master", he only replied, "Take your time and hope to make progress."

The higher the platform, the easier it is to realize your own shortcomings. When we are in a cloud of experts, there is always a circle of strong people who compare our weaknesses to the fullest. Even if you want to be complacent, you should be honest, humble and restrained under the light of the great god. On the contrary, it is a small barren hill where there is no tiger in the mountain, which makes it easy for unreasonable monkeys to chop and change.

I can always see some local tyrants in small counties and their children driving BMWs into people, claiming hegemony; On the contrary, real entrepreneurs and second-generation Lamborghini drivers in Beijing honestly abide by traffic laws. After all, a pilgrim who has never seen the real Buddha will be respectful to the fortune teller, not to mention being a fairy and not domineering compared with the more vulgar people around him.

The stronger your opponent is, the easier it is to realize your danger. Wulin experts never bow their heads, but always point their fists at themselves, because they all understand that "there are days outside, and there are people outside." In the jungle of life-and-death competition, those who survive are experts who know how to look down on glitz and do things with an open mind, because those who don't know how to look down on glitz and do things with an open mind are all dead.

It is not God who doomed the Jews to be wise, but a wandering nation imprisoned by Babylon for thousands of years. If they don't manage their wisdom, they will be destroyed. A bad student is not terrible, but the person who competes with him is even worse, which shows that he is a bully and will end up hanged; It's not terrible for a small boss to eat, drink, gamble and gamble. He is afraid that the boss who competes with him will eat, drink, gamble and gamble even more, which shows that he is a conscientious entrepreneur and will have a tragic ending.

When we find that everyone around us is better than us, we can make progress; When we find that everyone around us is similar to us, we are likely to stand still; When we find that people around us are not as good as us, we are likely to regress.

When we find that I am invincible in this circle, it means that your circle can no longer support your further development. If you are still in this circle, it can only show that your strength ends here. Instead of being satisfied with the courtesy in the eyes of low-level people, it is better to join the high-level circle and feel cynicism. After all, your courtesy today is also the cynicism of that year.

Whenever we feel happy because of some of our achievements, big or small, we might as well remind ourselves that perhaps such achievements are despised by countless people who are better than us. We are proud of this achievement, not because it is great, but because we are not qualified for higher achievements. The reason why we seem to be "unique in the world" in a certain aspect for a certain period of time is not because of our absolute strength, but because the real cattle people are busy at a higher level, or the real cattle people gather on a platform that we still need to work hard for a long time to reach. Micro-signal: Li Jian, for example, doesn't mean I got a hundred points in calculus, but I am a math cow. That's because students of mathematical science gods can't learn the same math as me; Not that my bonus is the highest in the department, but that my business ability as a trader is the best. This is because industry experts have started to run their own hedge funds as bosses.

Of course, it is necessary to be happy when there is a result, no matter how big or small the result is. It's not good if we pursue progress once and for all, but hold our dreams smugly. The people we destroyed yesterday may destroy us tomorrow. When we stay on the self-righteous credit book, people who are better than us are thriving; People like us are working hard; People worse than us are coming. We'd better have an alarm clock ticking on our stop-motion achievement gold medal. Whenever we fall asleep in the credit book, that alarm clock will remind us deafening: "It's not how fierce you are, but the platform is cold;" It's not how rich you are, but your opponent is weak. "

In addition, everyone has a life attitude and a way of life. If you pursue calmness, it goes without saying that you can be open-minded and tolerant. The world doesn't need everyone to go all out, and society shouldn't be tireless. As Zhuangzi said, "My life is limited, but my knowledge is limited.

With restrictions, there is no restriction, and it is almost there! "So it is also a good choice to live a leisurely life happily in some small places. However, for those who are determined to achieve something, it is not good to be complacent and content with the status quo. Because we may take our "achievements" seriously, but our role models and opponents will not.

If you want to be better, have more resources and make more social contributions, you don't need to stare at being recognized and how many people applaud, but you need to look at those who want to identify with themselves and applaud us in the process of struggle.

Because it is easy to be recognized, the key is who is recognized; It doesn't matter how many people applaud us, what matters is who applauds us. It is not a skill to let people who are weaker, younger and lower than you boast. It is a hero to let people who are stronger, longer and taller than you boast. Excellence within one's own inherent scope is not outstanding, and real Excellence is often beyond one's own inherent scope and level.

In short, there is no need to be carried away by high achievements. On the one hand, we may not work hard on a high enough platform, on the other hand, real masters may disdain to be our opponents. What we need to do is not to be complacent, but to climb the peak again with a smile. Next time, next time, when we reach another peak, we can tell ourselves: "I am excellent, but I can totally match higher achievements."

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