How to chase a girl without intersection, how to chase a girl without any intersection

In Qing bar, I accosted a sister and saw her drinking a depth charge. I went over and said:

"This wine is so shaky that you probably can't hold it."

She looked at me and said, "Not necessarily. You have to try. "

I smiled indifferently and said, "Sure enough, girls are curious cats. I'm in the seat behind you. If you are drunk, come to me to accompany you. "

After that, I left without looking back. In less than five minutes, she was sitting next to me with two bottles of cocktails.

She didn't talk much. She clinked glasses and gulped them down. She gave me a lip corner as a polite smile. After a big fight, we added WeChat to each other when we left.

two

People often ask me how to talk to girls.

I have been reluctant to answer this question.

Because, when you accost countless times, words are not important, what matters is image, attitude and gas field.

Just like how comfortable it is for me to talk to this girl, just like an old friend who has been reunited for a long time. Once you are natural and graceful, she will naturally relax.

Especially in bars and nightclubs, such girls have been accosted by more than a dozen fingers. It's better to come straight to the point and be more sincere than to shrink back and make them look down.

However, my story with her is not so smooth.

three

I have to say that in this era of licking dogs, girls have long been goddesses because of the spoil of spare tires.

This girl is also like this, all kinds of high and cold, can't talk at all on the APP.

For example, almost all the messages I sent her that night were filtered, and she replied with either a few words or an expression pack, or even no reply at all.

After trying a few jokes, the other party was still cold and brief, so I began to change my strategy, cut off the conversation actively, and quietly waited for the next opportunity.

Remember, any chat should be based on "girls respond well, or at least are willing to respond to you at present", otherwise, no matter how you make jokes, in the eyes of the other party, it will only be a clown talking to himself.

There are many boys, obviously girls don't want to talk to him. Only out of the most basic social courtesy, they barely greeted him, and he still talked nervously. In this way, girls who kill patiently will be blacklisted sooner or later.

In addition, many boys will have a problem, that is, chatting with girls as an exam from the beginning.

They thought to themselves, what if I can't say it well? Did I answer that sentence wrong? How to find her favorite topic, etc ... The more I think so, the more confused I am.

There is a saying that if you are serious, you lose.

Gentlemen who boast of their integrity scoff at this sentence and think it is poisoned chicken soup, but only those who spend their time in Qian Fan in love can understand how wise this sentence is.

Therefore, for the girl you like, all you have to do is "not so serious", so as to control your sense of demand.

In the chat, if the other person's reaction is poor, then you should hibernate first, patiently capture the appearance of her next window, and then call.

four

The turning point of the story happened half a month later.

She sent a message to a group of friends who came back from a trip, "I'm back. Have you made an appointment for good wine?"

My evaluation: so greedy, drunk.

She commented back to me: Hahaha, don't worry if you are drunk.

This sentence made me feel a weak window, but opened a private chat. I came up with a sentence: "What about a good date?"

She: "Huh?"

Me: "I mean, you can make an appointment to have a drink together."

She said that she had just come back and had to clean up. She can choose a place when she is free at night. I said yes, the date was officially finalized.

In fact, some people may be shocked and feel that there is nothing to say and nothing to pave the way. Why did you ask out?

Let me start by saying that the reason why I say "good date" is because there are two knowledge points here:

1. I met her in a chat and had a drink together. It's not the first time we met, but I dare to invite her directly when I'm half-baked. If we are friends of social software and haven't met, of course, we have to chat before we can make an appointment.

2. Girls who can go in and out of bars and bars are not too conservative. They are bold and cunning. You can ask out easily, there is no need to hide anything. Otherwise, they will look down on you and think you are heartless. But it should be noted here that if they don't like you, even if you ask them out, you will never take advantage.

Finally, my sentence: What about a good date?

This sentence, feeling a bit meaningless and mindless, but carefully tasted, did not give girls any rejection.

It's the same for many boys to ask girls out-can I invite you to the movies?

So, the answer you get is nothing more than yes or no.

Even a girl who has a good impression on you is likely to reject you for reserved reasons.

Do you think you are wronged?

In this sentence, the girl will answer a question because you have never asked her out. Next, no matter what she answers, you can say "Let's make an appointment now" and "Haha, is it too late to make an appointment now?" Wait a minute.

This kind of invitation is more like a friendly and playful invitation than some diaosi, as if begging for good luck.

five

It is worth mentioning that I am a little thirsty near the appointed place, and I can't find a canteen here.

I sent her a message: bring me a bottle of water.

Many boys always feel like gentlemen, so they are like knights when dating, but you should know that at the end of every fairy tale, the princess chooses the prince.

Why?

Because the prince will ride a horse, drag the princess behind him by hand, and let her walk forward with her arms around her waist-their status is equal.

The knight is the guardian, they will only let the princess sit on the saddle, while they hold the horse rope below-their status is unequal.

Therefore, in dating, don't take all the responsibilities, such as dating money, all the work is done by yourself, so that girls can enjoy and score points, so your posture is too low, which is not conducive to the healthy development of a relationship.

You should also make girls pay properly. For example, after dinner, you can directly ask, say, invite me to the movies. After all, dating is a matter for two people. Why should you pay the bill alone?

Fuck the knight, remember, you have to be a prince who can hold and pull!

I also asked her to bring me a bottle of water.

Just a bottle of water.

Nothing, but it conveys another message-I am different from those diaosi who call themselves "knights" and only flatter you.

Don't think that girls will think you are picky. In fact, these girls are purely for use. As long as it is in front of valuable boys, there will be no such unreasonable femininity.

For example, Daniel Wu promised to date them, and Daniel Wu said, I have no money. I believe these girls will have to scramble to pay for their bags.

We are not Daniel Wu, but we should at least have the confidence and drive like Daniel Wu.

six

It's time for a date

When I met her again, I probably looked her up and down. Her long dark yellow hair hangs over her shoulders, her face is oval, and her eye makeup reveals five points of charm and five points of coldness.

Especially the tall man who is 1.7 meters tall added an unattainable touch to her.

I said, "Why are you here in slippers?"

She broke the work in one second, and the original high-cold gas field disappeared. She said she was close to home and in a hurry, so she didn't change her high heels. She said, handing me the water I wanted.

In fact, how to break the ice on a date is to find a topic from the other person, either praise or ridicule, just like a friend I haven't seen for a long time.

seven

Me: I know a pub nearby, which is quite quiet.

She: Why did you suddenly ask me for a drink?

Me (laughs): It's a mass tweet.

She: It's so real.

Me: They are all men except you (La).

She: Then why don't you go to your friend?

Me: Because I came to you (creating an ambiguous atmosphere).

In the above passage, I played a trick on her with push-pull skills, and then suddenly I said "because I came to you" seriously, and the atmosphere was instantly pushed to ambiguity by me. You know, what kind of boys do girls usually like?

It's the kind that is a little rude in seriousness, but it doesn't affect his seriousness if he is not serious.

And pushing and pulling reflects my improper side.

The last sentence controlled the ambiguous atmosphere,

It's my serious side

eight

The first impression this girl gave me was the old nightclub gun.

Actually, I was wrong.

She is introverted and doesn't talk much. When she opens her mouth, she has a deep voice like Zhou Xun's, which is quite story-telling.

Girls with stories are often particularly attractive.

To be honest, I don't know much about her past. Later, I learned that she was only twenty years old, but her cold temperament was seriously inconsistent with her present age.

The eyebrows are mixed with unspeakable past and memories, quietly wrapping their emotions, not crying or making trouble. The more such a girl is, the more distressing it is.

When I arrived at the bar, as a regular customer, the boss smiled at me.

This is called social authentication.

In fact, in the eyes of girls, popularity is also a value to attract them, because it means that you are very popular.

Who doesn't like popular people?

Especially this popular person, who still likes himself, is happy when he thinks about it.

So, why do I sometimes suggest dating in a familiar place, that is, I will exchange a few words with you when I meet an acquaintance, which will give you a lot of extra points.

And the boss looked at me, looked at her and said with a smile, "girlfriend?"

Before she took over, I said, "We are just friends."

Then he raised his eyebrows at her. "Yes."

She smiled, don't overdo it, and said nothing, but obviously she couldn't help laughing.

Knock on the blackboard, here is a knowledge point.

When outsiders ask, "Are you lovers?" As long as the relationship is not formally determined, even if it is ambiguous, intimate or even snapped, as long as the birthright is not clear, stick to it: friends.

I have suffered losses before, for example, once I ate chicken with a girl, and my teammates asked if you were lovers. I said "yes" happily, but the girl didn't admit it. I was immediately embarrassed on the spot.

After all, girls should be reserved and can play in private. In front of outsiders, they are very concerned about the social evaluation and opinions, so it is taboo for you to say that she is your girlfriend without her consent.

When you say that you are just friends, it will make the girl think that she has not conquered you. If she really likes you, it will only arouse her desire to further challenge and attract you.

Again, in the process of chasing girls, we should not only attack, but also learn to retreat appropriately.

nine

We sat down in the bar, ordered a glass of wine and a plate of snacks, and started chatting. Because there is not much interaction on WeChat, this time it is mainly to exchange information and deepen understanding.

Some birthday and work topics can't be pressed for the time being. In fact, chatting is to show yourself in the exchange of information. For example, in communication, I revealed that I was studying psychology.

She suddenly became interested and said, look, what am I thinking now?

I said no problem, let's play a game, she said no problem, I said, put the phone on the table.

After she did it, I sent her a WeChat and said, I already know what you are thinking.

She looked at me defiantly: Then tell me.

I said: Do you know what I gave you?

She said: I don't know.

I smiled and said, look at your mobile phone.

She picked up her mobile phone and saw the WeChat I sent her. Suddenly, she smiled and said, "I don't know." I said you are shameless. I said, what do you think? Isn't it amazing? Do you want to learn from the teacher?

There are many such games on the Internet. You can find them in Baidu, which can enliven the atmosphere of your dating with girls.

I said: Actually, to tell you the truth, besides fortune telling, I can also read my palm.

She said: Really?

I said, if you don't believe me, let me see.

Actually, palm reading is my usual excuse to hold girls' hands, but this time it's not for this reason. I held her hand in mine, and the old god was whispering, "Girl, you missed me."

She laughed, withdrew her hand and proudly called me a liar!

At this point, the atmosphere between us is completely open, and there is no need to waste time here. I suggested going to the movies together, and she said no problem.

Me: I feel that you are a John tonight.

She: John?

Me: I was whored.

She: poof.

Me: boss, remember to give five-star praise.

A role-playing successfully unveiled the veil of ambiguity between us. I stared at her and could easily detect the confusion in her eyes. She said, what are you looking at?

I fixed the back of her head with my right hand and kissed it gently.

After a slight resistance, everything went crazy with love. ...

ten

We confirmed our relationship that day, but we went back to our respective homes for the simple reason that she felt a little fast.

Seeing her again was in the evening a few days later, and ambiguity hung over us. After all, there was only a rolled sheet between us.

Me: You are beautiful again.

She: Yes, it's true.

Me: Monks don't talk nonsense.

She: Oh, the monk asked me out.

Me: I'm fascinated by you, and I don't care about any rules.

She: Oh, come here (gesturing to kiss).

Me: patroness, please respect yourself.

Then it goes without saying, powder boxing, laughter.

That night, we had sex In fact, every woman is emotional, what matters is the process, while men are rational, and what matters is the result.

This is like getting married. Men care about a legally binding marriage certificate, while women expect a ceremony-filled wedding.

Therefore, only by giving the process to women first can men get the desired results.

Even if it's only an hour in a bar, at least it doesn't look like a deal.

eleven

Some people say that this era is too unromantic. Everyone pays attention to fast food and love.

Affectionate people are treated as licking dogs, but they always win thin lovers.

After all, who wants to be quiet with a plain person at a passionate age?

Therefore, when some people see love rat and love rat and find that they are cruel, fickle and heartless to others, they fantasize that if they subdue him/her, they will domesticate their fate, and as long as they get each other's unique tenderness, they will get long-lost love.

So, just like the question in Zhihu: Why don't boys chase girls now?

Because every boy has accumulated too much disappointment.

In this way, under the fermentation of disappointment, an era of fast food love opened.

I don't know your preferences, let alone delve into your personality. Just look at the photos and listen to a voice saying a good night or two. I like it.

A hasty start is bound to end in a hurry.

No one has enough time to get to know someone, let alone enough patience to wait for someone, because whenever you treat others sincerely, that person will always tell you in a hundred ways: how stupid you are!

So for a long time, I'd rather live a miserable life than toss and turn all night and be a painful lover.

After all, liking someone does not mean anything. People will change, just as you like pineapples today, you may like something else tomorrow.

It doesn't make much sense. Pineapple is right, and so are you. What is wrong is that those self-righteous people are determined.

Everything is just the fog of love, where there is so much life.

There is a lot of helplessness in this society, and the world is full of impermanence and unpredictability. Many people promise that they will always be by your side to protect you. But when your dream may come, how many vows are still fragmented in front of time.

How much love, seemingly beautiful, has actually rotted in your carelessness.

I'm just like her.

I think I love her, at least at that time, but as I said, my love for her is desperate, but not holding hands.

twelve

There are several reasons for the beginning and the end.

We've only been together for a month, but we parted ways. Don't ask the ending of the story. I asked about "love". Some people will scold me and think that I am just a love rat who takes part in accidental amusement.

In fact, in my eyes, taking part in accidental amusement is not a derogatory term. It can represent free and easy, unruly, promiscuous and even numb.

It's just what people in the bureau think.

For me, I feel like a backpacker traveling abroad. When I saw a mountain, I couldn't wait to know what was behind it.

But turn to the back of the mountain, and you will always find nothing special.

In retrospect, I may think this place is better.

But in any case, I will choose to go all the way west, just like how much time has passed, I always think of the first sentence she said to me:

"That's not necessarily. You have to try. "

As a very important method of collecting heterosexual resources, chatting up is a compulsory course for many brothers to grow up on the road of love.

Recently, I have always received many questions from my brothers, that is, it is difficult to find an effective way to start a dialogue with girls after everyone chats up. Many times, a few simple words will end the embarrassment.