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Is fortune telling reliable? Psychological suggestion that can not be ignored

Lili is divorced. She doesn't know whether to settle accounts with the fortune teller or tell her: you are so accurate! Your prediction has come true. One day in the summer of six years ago, she walked on the street in Shanghai, looking a little confused-because she was about to graduate from college, her job had not yet settled, and her relationship with her boyfriend was shaky. A street woman fortune teller stopped her. The female fortune teller looked at her face, accurately told her emotional state, looked at her handprint and told her that you and your boyfriend had eaten forbidden fruit. Li Li was surprised: how did she see it? Has it been written in the handprint? Looking at her frightened expression, the female fortune teller positively predicted: Girl, you will get married twice in the future. Except for a little surprise, Li Li is not prepared to believe this vulgar fortune teller-at least she has a materialistic education. In Lili's own life, didn't she firmly grasp the direction of life again and again? When to find a job, quit her job, or even emigrate to a special zone city is not her own will? She thinks the fortune teller is talking nonsense. At that time, getting married was still one thing for her. Before getting married, she almost forgot the fortune teller's words, but after getting married, the fortune teller's words became more and more enlarged and clearer like a vicious spell waiting to be confirmed. Who has no contradiction in husband and wife life? People say that the young couple quarrel at the head of the bed and kiss at the end of the bed, but Li Li is not like this. Whenever there is a conflict with her husband, the female fortune teller says, "You will get married twice in the future", which is what she says in her heart. Therefore, she didn't communicate, didn't make up for it, and didn't manage her marriage with all her heart. Gradually, she and her husband became strangers and stopped fighting. Fate came true: after three years of marriage, the husband did not hesitate to ask for a divorce. "What a fate!" Li Li said. She wants to know, how did the fortune teller see her future? Psychological suggestion that can't be ignored In the eyes of psychologists, the sound that keeps ringing in Lili's heart shows that Lili has been psychologically hinted. Psychological suggestion, as far as psychological mechanism is concerned, is a hypothesis affirmed by subjective will. This hypothesis may not be justified, but it is psychologically inclined to it because it has been subjectively affirmed. "The success of psychological suggestion requires a necessary condition, that is, the implied person has inferiority complex and is not confident. Li Li's self-personality may not be very strong, which provides psychological hints for the words of the female fortune teller. " Han Xiaoyan, a sociology professor and psychological counselor at East China Normal University, said. Psychotherapists in the Sixth Hospital of Peking University said that whether the fortune teller's words have an impact depends not on the fortune teller but on the fortune teller. "Fortune teller is to make money, both good and bad. The so-called speaker has no intention, but the listener has a heart. What the fortune teller said was just the fortune teller's own inner thoughts. Because the fortune teller listens selectively, these words are like seeds, which are planted in his/her heart. In fact, he/she also has such a potential idea in mind. The fortune teller agrees with this idea in his mind and expresses it for him/her. This idea is perceived and rises from the subconscious to the conscious level. " In fact, it is people's judgments and ideas about themselves that are affecting their present and future: "People are unconsciously influenced by psychology, and its influence on fate is far greater than the decisiveness of matter." "I divorced because the fortune teller was accurate?" Li Li began to reflect on herself. She realized that she was actually shouldering a huge responsibility. "If I, like other wives, try to manage this marriage and actively communicate when there are contradictions, I may be happy and even grow old together. His family background is very good, and his parents are both university professors, which is also very kind to me. Everyone who knows me says: You are lucky to marry him! " However, this blessing is now someone else's turn. Li Li said that she was brought up by her parents when she was a child. When she returned to her parents' home, she was always criticized and accused by her parents, which made her feel inferior. In her heart, she felt unlovable and unworthy of happiness. "After marriage, sometimes I will take the initiative to stir up trouble. I think, since I must get a divorce, I'll wait for it to die. It is this terrible idea that has made our marriage develop out of control. " Li Li regretted it, which is why she wanted to settle accounts with a female fortune teller-"It was her words that killed my marriage!" Why did she say such things to me? Why? At that time, I had not graduated from college! "In real life, many people, like Li Li, think that they are not influenced by fortune tellers, but psychologists warn that when you have a fortune teller, it is likely to affect you. Usually psychological cues occur in the subconscious, and you often don't know it. " We need to make ourselves more confident, stronger and less influenced by bad psychological hints. "Han Xiaoyan said. This may be a self-fulfilling prophecy. The old monk said: You will be a great person, you will be an influential person, you will be rich, money will make you more influential, and influence will make you richer. Jiang Ran sighed with emotion: How can there be such an excellent fortune teller? What the old monk said made Jiang Ran laugh in his dream. In just four years, by running a real estate strategy company, Jiang Ran made the old monk's words come true: money and influence. He is very grateful to the old monk. He has paid almost 654.38 million yuan to the old monk and his temple. Jiang Ran said that although he has the idea of starting a business, he always feels that the right time and place are not enough. Without the old monk's affirmation, he certainly wouldn't dare to resign as the boss so soon. Just as Li Li divorced under the negative influence of psychological suggestion, psychological suggestion also has its positive side, which helps us to be more sure of ourselves and develop in a better direction. "Han Xiaoyan said. Psychologists believe that "believing in what you say well and not believing in what you say badly" may be an adaptive choice, which may lead you to a better direction, but it will also bring certain dangers. Jiang Ran is now a businessman who especially believes in fate. He visits fortune tellers regularly. Many important things, including business negotiation and contract signing, are decided by fortune tellers. "When people think that there is an external force called fate that makes decisions in secret, instead of relying on their own efforts, you may be too dependent on it to take your destiny into your own hands. "Han Xiaoyan pointed out.