How to resolve the emotional robbery in Buddhism

When it comes to the topic of love, many people's first impressions are beautiful, romantic and happy, but some people's love is not necessarily smooth sailing, as if destined to encounter some "love robbery" and experience twists and turns.

For example, in many social news, people are emotional because they don't want to break up, and they use violent means to save or hurt each other, which leads to tragedy.

I know a monk. When I talked to him about this topic, he thought for a long time, and then smiled and said, "This is emotional robbery. If you can't extricate yourself, you just need to meditate on these three sentences, and you can resolve it with your fate. " I feel deeply after listening to it, so I want to share a thing or two with you.

0 1 Know impermanence, and you won't be hurt by feelings.

The monk said: "Many people are trapped by love and can't get through. This is the truth they don't understand." What is impermanence?

The monk explained to me, "impermanence means that everything is constantly changing." Don't expect anything to last forever. In other words, change is eternal. "

Feelings are also impermanent, and as the time between two people increases, feelings are constantly changing. At first, we may love each other and never see each other for a day, such as Sanqiu. Gradually, our passion faded and our feelings faded. Perhaps because of some changes, our feelings disappeared and one of us moved on. These are all emotional impermanence.

Of course, there are beautiful and romantic love stories in many TV dramas and fairy tales, but those deep feelings only exist in literary works, life is not a fairy tale, and there are very few feelings that have not changed from beginning to end.

Feelings will change with getting along, some will become companionship, some will become family ties, and some will disappear and never be seen again. This is the essence of feelings.

If you can understand this truth, you won't be at a loss when your relationship breaks down, and you won't be obsessed with saving your lost feelings and hurting others and yourself in extreme ways, thus causing deeper ill feelings and more losses than gains.

If you can understand that things are impermanent and don't cling to the so-called perfect feelings, you won't suffer from falling into a "love robbery" because of changes in feelings.

Emotional persistence must come from the hatred of past lives.

The monk also said, "There is a saying that we were destined to cross this ship together, but we never met.". The entanglement of this life is often due to the debts owed in the previous life. "

The encounter between people is not random, but the arrangement of past lives. Looking back 500 times in my last life is just a passing sight in my life. The reasons are deep and shallow, but also depends on how much debt you owe.