? There is only a wall between fortune telling and psychological counseling?

Consultation focus 1: How reliable are fortune-telling and geomantic omen? Mao Wenjun: Personally, I don't like fortune telling and geomantic omen. Although many people think it is a traditional culture, it still needs to be treated differently with the passage of time. For example, when people buy commercial housing, the first thing they look at is traffic and the environment. According to the popular geomantic omen in the past, do you want to buy a house outside the Third Ring Road? Now it is said that all the dead people are buried in the cemetery. Where did you get the theory of Feng Shui?

Chen Qiyan: Being is reasonable. The so-called fate is actually some laws that can be mastered. To some extent, the so-called "calculation" is not a prediction but an explanation, just like the western DNA chain. The profound traditional culture still has its unique advantages. Paying attention to yin and yang and five elements reveals the course of life and is also a discipline. Ge Sang Zeren: Geomantic omen mainly comes from the interpretation of the natural laws produced by the living environment on people's body and mind, while fortune-telling is based on the exploration of the uncertain life laws in the future. Only by mastering the scientific part of feng shui fortune telling can we make better use of the law. Some people take advantage of people's needs, regard fortune-telling and geomantic omen as an industry, and deliberately magnify subjective things for the purpose of business, resulting in less and less objective things and more and more metaphysical things, leading to wrong spiritual orientation. Therefore, it is a scientific attitude to extract laws from them and remove pseudo-scientific elements. Consultation focus 2: Why do people prefer to trust fortune tellers rather than go to psychological counseling? Mao Wenjun: In the face of external uncertainty, over-reliance on others is actually a sign of self-distrust. Such a scene is gradually enlarged, and mental illness will occur. Whether rich or poor, believing in superstition but not science is a kind of ignorance. Chen Qiyan: Psychological counselors are demonized to a great extent, either demanding too much or having no experience at all. A truly high-level fortune teller will not give you negative news, and also has professional ethics. On the contrary, they can't get the expected answer from the psychological counselor. Ge Sang Zeren: Psychological counseling is to solve the psychological confusion of normal people, while psychotherapy is to treat the psychological diseases of abnormal people. Some people misread psychological counseling for fear of being regarded as mentally ill. In fact, fortune tellers also use scientific methods similar to psychological counselors: observation-they are good at reading people's psychology; Hint-Give hints as needed. Psychological counselors are active and effective instructors, while fortune tellers have hints of business purposes; Probability-use neutral words and let the other person interpret them, so that you can do both. Consultation focus 3: How can we keep ourselves healthy in the face of pressure? Mao Wenjun: People only seek outside help when they are helpless. Fortune tellers either make you blindly optimistic or make you suffer for no reason. When you are struggling, you might as well find a blank sheet of paper and write your own advantages and disadvantages clearly, and the final result will be clearly displayed.

Chen Qiyan: Even if you want to ask a fortune teller for help, you should find a very wise fortune teller, get rid of the bad influence he has brought you, chat with him as much as possible, and don't care too much about the effect. Personally, I suggest you find a qualified psychological counselor and ask him to help you put down your burden.

Ge Sang Zeren: All problems are related to growth. Normal people will face confusion when they grow up, but most people will take the initiative to face it. Entrepreneurs face many new things and have more uncertainty about the future. In fact, most people will encounter as many stress events. People have only one choice in this life, and that is to pursue happiness and avoid pain. The theory of enlightenment initiated by me is a very practical way to release stress. It enables people to learn life planning, so that life is always planned and controlled by themselves. New voice: cold reading for ten seconds, everyone is his own fortune teller. There is a very famous theory in psychology-Barnum effect. After giving a group of people a personality test, a psychologist took out two results and asked the participants to decide which one was their own. In fact, one of the two results is the participant's own result, and the other is the average result obtained by psychologists according to most people's answers. Surprisingly, 80% people think that the average results more accurately express their personality characteristics.

This theory can reasonably explain why you should trust fortune tellers. But that's not all.

If I tell you that there is an art called cold reading, it can make you build others' trust in you instantly, and the master of cold reading can make you believe in him for almost half a minute, of course you will say-impossible, I am a thoughtful person. In fact, cold reading is not metaphysics, and fortune tellers are all experts in cold reading. They skillfully use questions to set traps for the conversation. After all, it is the art of language. People who choose to believe are of course powerful in life, and they have the ability to adjust their mentality. Those who participate with charity and appreciation are really wise. They have a strong heart to control their own destiny.

Indeed, when you spend money on happiness, it doesn't matter who says what. What is important is that in this society that lacks sincere praise, the encouragement that strangers can infer can also bring great surprises.