Get out of depression: depression is not terrible, but losing the light in your eyes.

With the progress of society, the risk of mental illness is getting higher and higher.

? 20 18 in the last few months, Weibo's hot search for the word depression became more and more frequent. From Korean artist Shirley's suicide to writer Jiangnan's claim that she had depression, depression almost never stopped.

? So what is depression?

? Wang Yu wrote a book "Out of Depression: A Successful Self-help of a Depressed Patient". The introduction of depression in the book is like this:

? The core symptom of depression is: lack of happiness. More precisely, I lost the ability to experience happiness. What used to make us happy can no longer stimulate our interest. The longer you get rid of this state, the deeper you get into it.

Depression is mainly not understood. Even Wang Yu, who wrote this book, was not understood by others when he was treating depression.

? Many people say that depression is making a mountain out of a molehill, melodramatic and blx. Actually, it's not like this. It's like falling into a puddle Don't fall into puddles, always laugh at those who fall into puddles. But have you ever thought that if it was you who fell into the puddle, maybe you were worse than him.

? Our words can save a person or hurt a person.

? Finally, I understand many people who stand on the roof but hesitate. They are not looking for attention or fear, but waiting. Waiting for the last ray of sunshine in this world.

? If the people downstairs are all people who eat melons and send photos to Weibo, they will not hesitate to jump.

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? If your friend is a depressive, please don't leave him. You must be his light and hope.

? If they choose to commit suicide or even post suicide notes on some platforms, what you have to do is not to laugh at them, but to help them.

? Fear of death is human instinct, even for people with depression. In fact, they are really brave, but they are defending our dream of getting used to life.

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? So how do people with depression save themselves?

Only by finding out the causes of depression can we find a solution.

? Some people are depressed because of heredity. Mainly the secretion of some chemicals in the brain changes, such as dopamine, norepinephrine, serotonin, commonly known as "monoamines." Generally speaking, in depression, the secretion level of these chemicals in the brain will decrease, which is why taking monoamine drugs can alleviate the symptoms of depression.

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? Drugs do help some patients, but it must be remembered that drugs can only alleviate the disease, but can't solve the root cause.

? We must never choose to ignore depression directly because of the help of drugs.

? Only by finding the crux of depression can we really get rid of depression and effectively prevent recurrence.

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? Wang Yu said this method in his book.

? Human behavior and thinking are interrelated, and human thinking and emotion are also inseparable. Although we can't find out the real reason of our depression accurately at first, we can influence our thinking through the change of behavior; Improve your mood by changing your mind.

? For example, when you are depressed, your brain tells you no and suggests you give up, but our actions may not necessarily follow this command. If we follow this command, we will sink deeper into the abyss of depression and make this "I can't" thought more deeply rooted.

? If you want to make friends, no matter how your brain says no to you and advises you to give up, you should do what you want bravely in action. Only in this way can you slowly discover the mistake of this kind of thinking.

? Of course, we can also change this distorted way of thinking by discovering the irrationality of this thinking.

? For example, when we fail, it is easy to judge that we are an incompetent person. Under the influence of this kind of thinking, we lost the courage to make further efforts. At this time, our thinking has actually made the mistake of "excessive generalization". After all, just because you fail once or several times doesn't mean you are a loser.

? When the mood becomes more positive because of the change of behavior and thinking, rather than lifeless, we will have the energy and motivation to further analyze the deep-seated reasons that make us fall into depression, so as to better understand and improve ourselves and prevent the recurrence of depression.

Studies have shown that the impulse duration of impulsive suicide is 13 seconds. If they survive this 13 second, most of them will give up the idea of suicide.

? The boy who committed suicide by jumping off the bridge because of his mother's abuse did not survive this short 13 second, which led to a tragedy. In the air, he will regret it. I regret that I was too impulsive and gave up my life.

? There is a question on the Zhihu: Do people who commit suicide by jumping off a building regret it in the air?

? I think so, too. Just a few seconds in the air seems to have gone through centuries. They were oppressed by despair, freed from the air, and therefore calmed down. Everyone who died because of jumping off a building must be tall. After calming down, there is only one emotion in their hearts-regret. I chose to die on impulse, but obviously I can survive.

? If you want to commit suicide, please try to think of something beautiful in 13 seconds. A beautiful memory, an unexpected flower, can actually make people continue to live.

? The snow in winter is really heavy, adding a layer of dirt to the world. But under the snow layer, there may be a snow lotus hidden.

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? Running can relieve depressive symptoms. Studies have proved that when people run, the brain will secrete a lot of endorphins, also known as happy hormones or young hormones. It can make people feel happy, happy and satisfied, and can help people relieve stress and depression.

? In addition, running can keep fit.

In fact, depression is a common disease, so we don't need to treat it differently. In fact, all patients with depression should be treated gently. It is their business to choose suicide. We cannot influence their choices, but we must stop them.

? Because you don't know whether you will regret it in the air when you jump off a building. You don't even know that if you regret it, you don't even have the right to choose again.

? What we can do is to help them as much as we can before it is too late.

? Death is indeed a relief, but it is an irreversible choice. You are relieved, but maybe the person you love needs to suffer more. There is no smooth road in this world. Everyone is carrying a heavy burden for you, even your parents, you have to live.

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? If you read this article, I hope you understand that depression is not painful, what is painful is the loss of light in your eyes.

? Say you can't before it blooms. Maybe this flower is enough to change the whole world.

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