Don't dwell on right and wrong, how can we learn to think from another angle?

Don't dwell on right and wrong, how can we learn to empathize?

As far as everyone is concerned, whether in family or society, if they encounter inevitable contradictions and frictions. You are always wrong, and I am right. I am taller than you. You lose and I win. It is the lack of self-restraint, kindness and gratitude that a person should have.

To overcome the troubles entangled in right and wrong and learn to empathize, the most fundamental thing is to do three things well:

To learn empathy, first of all, let yourself become kind and grateful.

The process of life is actually walking along with a grateful heart. Gratitude is a kind of realm and mind of people, and it is a sentiment that is good at discovering beautiful things. We all have life experience. If a person thinks from morning till night, "It's all his fault, who's sorry for me …", you will feel pain. If I change my mind and think, "Who do I owe, who should I be grateful to …", I will try to cash it, and I will feel happy and happy in the process of trying to cash it. Because you repay him with gratitude, you are happy.

Only those who know how to be grateful will have a kind heart and put themselves in others' shoes when doing things in life.

Don't dwell on the right and wrong in life, learn to empathize, provided that you have a grateful and kind heart. With a grateful attitude, you can get along well with your family and colleagues around your work. There will be no or few contradictions and frictions. Since there are, we should know how to tolerate and tolerate. There will never be a dispute between right and wrong.

Learn to empathize and learn to be tolerant.

The bearing of life is the bearing of being a man, the artistic conception and the cultivation. It is human nature and the art of treating people with things. Tolerance can contain the joys and sorrows of the world. Being kind to others is essentially being kind to yourself. To haggle over every ounce and argue with others is to have a hard time with yourself.

A long time ago, I saw a story about tolerance told by Goethe, a great German writer. On a warm spring afternoon, Goethe walked alone on the path of a park called Weimar. The path was so narrow that he happened to meet a critic who was hostile to him. They all stopped to look at each other. The critic first said, "I will never make way for fools." Goethe replied, "I am just the opposite of you, please." Say that finish, Goethe retreated aside.

This story tells us how profound Goethe's tolerance has reached. Goethe not only didn't feel unhappy, but felt calm and happy inside. If two people argue about right and wrong, the final result is that each has its own troubles and pains. Therefore, to learn empathy requires not only a kind and grateful heart, but also a generous and tolerant heart to cooperate.

We should also learn to empathize with personal self-restraint.

Where does self-restraint come from! Self-cultivation comes from reading and learning. Reading thousands of books can not only make you familiar with astronomy and geography, but also learn how to behave. It can also make you understand the ups and downs of life and let you look at the cold world calmly.

In short, if you want to get out of the tangle of right and wrong in life, you must learn to put yourself in others' shoes. We must strive for three things.

(1), first of all, let yourself be kind and grateful;

2. Know how to be tolerant;

3, through reading and learning to have a certain degree of self-restraint.

Those who struggle with right and wrong are self-righteous.

Insist on showing it to those who have seen it, not to others. This often leads to disputes.

Constantly, if you can't fight the war of words, you will start. Manufacturing problem

Out of control!

So we should learn to put ourselves in others' shoes.

Think about it. Put yourself in other people's shoes.

Only in this way can we solve the problem.

The key to thinking lies in independent thinking, correct scientific methodology and one's own behavior principles.

Independent thinking

At present, many people say that wind is rain, and they believe it without thinking. Or as a fan, it is unwise to step on other love beans.

Independent thinking needs to stay away from the crowd and not be disturbed by other people's ideas.

I have written articles and books about independent thinking before:

Efficient work is not completion but improvement: to be the best, you must think independently.

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If you want to think independently and live clearly, you must read the book Anti-Common Sense and Anti-Routine.

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scientific methodology

The scientific methodology lies in falsifiability. For example, the ancients believed in geocentric theory, but once we have telescopes and data, we can overthrow geocentric theory. For example, Galileo's "two balls landing at the same time", an experiment can overturn his teacher's theory.

But there is no "falsifiability" in many theories. For example, if you believe in God and say that God does not exist, Christians can refute you in a hundred ways. The theory of "God exists" does not have falsifiability for Christians. Although God does not exist, Christians have a hundred reasons to believe that he exists and cannot be overthrown.

Another example is fortune telling and astrology. Do you think it's right? -If the calculation is accurate, it is right. If the calculation is wrong, the fortune teller has 100 ways to convince you that it is not that he has made a mistake, but that you have misunderstood it.

-This isn't falsifiability.

Behavior principle

We are easily influenced by others and abandon our own thinking logic and principles, such as going astray in an argument, but that's all.

I won't go into details here, but attach two posts: thinking mode and behavior principle.

Key points of six independent thinking courses in Harvard

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With these principles, people who do great things will accomplish anything efficiently.

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Don't dwell on right and wrong, learn to put yourself in others' shoes. I think this question is right or wrong. Right and wrong and transposition are at the same level. Although contradictions can be resolved, it will never be zero. How can they come out? Just compromise or give in. To get out of the tangle of right and wrong, we must stand tall, look far, be detached from things, turn spring breeze into rain, and moisten our hearts. And ordinary people are always in right and wrong, right and wrong, contradiction, is the role of dualism, cognition is still limited. So it's best to just take a step back, be calm and polite, but this only belongs to the scope of small right and wrong, small right and small wrong, and big right and big wrong is impossible. In fact, I think of wise men who can be eliminated, not ordinary people. It's usually hard to do, just saying. I don't have enough personal experience. Tell me more, Han Hai. thank you

Some people say that one plus one equals two, while others say that one plus one equals three. Each has its own reasons. Sometimes there is no right or wrong answer to these questions, but everyone has a different angle. On the road of life, each has his own philosophy. As long as morality does not interfere with law and discipline, it is meaningless to entangle right and wrong.

Empathy, our ancestors also said that putting yourself in each other's shoes, people's behavior is mostly caused by the situation. Imagine how they will react when they are in each other's situation. This is called empathy. Empathy is a rational way, and many contradictions can be solved in this way, so our ancestors put it into the rules of life, which is the reason.