When life is low and upset, how to come out step by step?

The instinctive reaction of people in sudden adversity and depression is to escape, cut off contact with the outside world and put aside problems. A person hiding in a dark corner "protects" himself, as if to put on protective clothing and invisibility cloak, so that others can't find and touch themselves and give themselves a chance to breathe.

I think it is understandable that you can calm down as soon as possible through emergency avoidance and moderate buffering, because the instinct of seeking advantages and avoiding disadvantages for danger and pressure is a kind of stress reaction of people and a direct external embodiment of people's comprehensive quality.

But escaping can't solve the problem, and to some extent, it will delay the solution of the problem, worsen the seriousness of the problem, and thus cause greater crisis and harm. Therefore, the shorter the stress reaction time, the more conducive to the solution of the problem, and the faster to get rid of difficulties and injuries.

I want to explain how to better control and grasp the length of stress response from two aspects.

1. The influence of physical environment on people's mood

First of all, let's talk about the influence of space environment on people's emotions. Staying in a narrow and dark environment for a long time will destroy the balance of excitement and inhibition in human cerebral cortex, lead to neurological symptoms such as compulsion, anxiety and fear, and further aggravate the breeding of bad emotions.

Hiding in a room or a small corner with negative emotions when leaving the leaderboard will only make our psychological burden heavier, and the vicious circle of negative emotions will become more and more intense and difficult to extricate ourselves.

So get out of the house as soon as possible and approach the green that makes people fresh, natural and quiet, the blue that makes people calm and open, and let the vastness of physics dilute your psychological haze.

Two. The fundamental thing to solve the problem is to know and know yourself.

Knowing yourself is the first step to knowing yourself. Most of people's troubles come from lack of self-knowledge, not knowing what they want, what they should do and where they will go.

With regard to self-cognition, you can read some books on psychology to understand your personality type, the job you are suitable for, and the development direction of your personality after human intervention and guidance.

After understanding the root of one's inner thoughts and lifestyle, one should look at the world objectively with a realistic attitude, understand the causal relationship of things, understand the truth that what is gained must be lost, and balance and adjust the distance between ideal and reality.

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The trough of life is also the beginning of another rising period!

Life is not smooth sailing, and the transition from peak to trough is life.

So, when life is at a low point, what we can do is:

First of all, psychologically accept that all disappointments in this life are inevitable. Don't mourn, don't complain and don't get angry, which can reduce the influence of negative emotions.

Second, proper catharsis. You can chat with your friends. Proper conversation can help you sort things out and relieve stress. You can also attend friends' parties or outdoor activities to relax and divert your attention.

Third, go out and see the outside world. Give yourself a vacation, choose a place you want, and stop and have a look. The low point of life is also the beginning of another rising period. You can make a calm thinking and a new plan for the future during your trip.

Fourth, keep yourself busy. Fill your daily time with work content, so that you have no time to take care of those setbacks and disappointments.

Fifth, find your new interest. For example, reading, listening to music, writing, running, fitness and so on. , you can release your bad emotions.

In fact, all methods are external, and the key is that you can accept, identify and respond positively with confidence. After all, only we can save us.

Nine times out of ten, life will go wrong, so everyone will encounter a trough.

In life, nine times out of ten, you will encounter a trough in life sooner or later. When we are at the bottom of our lives, we often subconsciously think about how to get out of this state and get out of our inner depression, but the problem is that the more we want to get out of this state, the worse it will be! It's like when a fish is hooked, it struggles desperately to get rid of the pain, but the more it struggles, the harder it is to get rid of this situation and make the pain last longer.

The more you struggle in the trough, the more you escape from the pain, the more intense the pain will become.

The famous psychologist carl jung once discovered such a psychological phenomenon. When you fish, the fish will struggle wildly to get rid of the pain when biting the hook, but the more intense the struggle, the tighter the hook, so Jung called it the hook swallowing effect.

It is mentioned in consciousness therapy that pain becomes pain because it comes from conflict, confrontation and our struggle for pain. He will eventually show depression, anxiety and other forms of emotional disorders in your body. Pain becomes pain because we resist it, deny it and escape it, so pain will be wrapped in more energy and knock at the door when we dream back at midnight in a month.

In the trough, we should first give up our futile struggle and face up to our trough. You know, there are peaks and valleys in the mountains, gentle eddies in the water, and the road of life is the same, full of bumps. However, if the sky is going to fall on the Sri Lankan people, first of all, we must work hard, starve their bodies and confuse their actions, so we must be patient and benefit. If you give up resistance and take the trough as a necessary process of life experience, then pain will be transformed into your motivation.

To get out of the trough of life, we must first face the pain of our own trough.

At the trough, we have been dreaming of a distant place and a self-realization platform waiting for us somewhere. I remember when I was a child, I always imagined the other side of the mountain in my mind. What will it be like? Is it a mirage that I have always dreamed of, or is it another world full of flowers and dancing? It was not until I had the strength to climb the mountain when I was a child that I found there was another mountain behind me.

Stop the pace you've been chasing. Stop your constant desire to grab. Now calm down and save your strength. Otherwise, all your pursuits are in vain, and all your grabbing is blind. Even if you are lucky enough to get rid of the current trough with the help of external forces, you will fall into a bigger trough. In addition to submission, you must settle down. Zhi Zhi will be stable in the future, stable in the future, quiet in the future, safe in the future, safe in the future and safe in the future.

When you don't know where you are going, life will take you where you don't want to go.

It can be seen that what is disturbing is your anxious heart. People in the trough are anxious, worried, uneasy and restless. In this state, you can't settle down and deal with everything in your life, you just go with the flow. Bound by desires and emotions, in an unconscious state. In consciousness therapy, you mentioned that when you don't know what you want, life will give you what you don't want, and when you don't know where you want to go, life will take you where you don't want to go.

Then, this is the other extreme. I often meet such visitors. Most of them began to let themselves go when they made no progress because of their desperate struggle with pain. He will entrust his fate to a fortune teller and pray to God to worship Buddha. In this state, you have been eager to be saved, but in fact, each of us has this kind of psychology of being saved. We fantasize that we will achieve ourselves one day. In fact, this is a small probability event that will happen in the future. Some people will not happen to him until the moment of death. In doing so, you are actually giving up yourself in disguise and being irresponsible to yourself!

It is a crucial step to escape from the trough of life and get out of your own thinking.

So how can we slowly accumulate strength at the bottom and take the first step out of the bottom? It is mentioned in consciousness therapy that when we are at a low point, many of us will spontaneously become prisoners of our thoughts. The purpose of brain weaving stories is to make others responsible for you. Therefore, leaving your mind is a very critical step. We should stop the unconscious state of the mind, stop talking about it, and return to the current real world, even though this world bearing the source of your pain is the object of your resistance.

This is the unity of body and mind in consciousness therapy. Pull your consciousness back from the story in your mind and put it on your present body to perceive the connection between the world and the present world. This is a general direction, there is no other direction to speak of, how to get out of the mind is a matter of method.

At the same time, most people who are at the bottom will not realize what they are doing. They will let inertia dominate their body and mind, subconsciously make some mechanical and rigid behaviors of eating and sleeping, and make their body and mind unable to extricate themselves from inertia. When you live in a habit, it is persistent and has its own energy, so you will become an obedient servant. If you listen, habits will make you do something, and you are the victim. Buddhism calls it habit, and even if the Buddha is alive, it can't change karma. This is actually our solidified thinking mode.

People in the trough will sum up all kinds of strange symptoms, such as depression, anxiety, obsessive-compulsive disorder, bipolar disorder and social phobia, which plague our body and mind. Before they become emotional disorders, they are just descriptions of emotions. Therefore, awareness in consciousness therapy is to realize the thinking mode under emotions through every rise of emotions.

It is very important to be aware of the thinking mode under the mood every time the mood rises.

He is stubborn in all kinds of patterns and can't be changed overnight. Through the concept of body and mind integration, breathing and integration in the first stage, the smoothness and plasticity of thinking can be greatly shaped, which will give you a top-down spiritual coordination and make your previous thinking mode less stubborn. Let you change your perspective.

Similarly, he will bring you other additional qualities, such as concentration, such as your willpower, which will be strengthened and improved to varying degrees. What needs special mention here is that moving is the key. With one action, your consciousness will increase and your unconsciousness will decrease. All changes are contained in your actions, not in your thoughts. This view must be deeply embedded in your heart!

This is a process from quantitative change to qualitative change. Only by practicing consciousness therapy constantly will you find yourself more and more free, clearer and more relaxed. An unprecedented happy mood rises in my heart. It is not an emotional cycle of binary opposition, but a continuous and long-term state. By guiding your inner strength to fill the bottom, you will meet a better self in the moment and jump out of the trouble at the bottom. Don't miss the trough of life, because this is an opportunity to turn a cocoon into a butterfly, give you a chance to go deep into your heart, and let you be complacent, phoenix nirvana and reborn.

As the subject said: Nine times out of ten, life is unsatisfactory, and there will be times of depression and upset in ordinary life.

How to step out and return to normal has become an inevitable life problem for each of us. In this case, some scholars believe that we still have a lot to do:

First, make a list and make a plan.

List the reasons that may cause you to fall into a trough and upset situation in your life, and then analyze them one by one to find out the main reasons.

After all, this situation can't be without reason. If you want to go out, you must first analyze the reasons, and then you can formulate a targeted solution to the difficulties and get out of the predicament.

Planning time can be long or short, but it must be practical and persistent.

Second, a good attitude, a correct understanding of life trough, reduce unnecessary upset.

Life can't be at the peak all the time, and it's normal to fall into the trough. We don't have to be depressed and desperate for this, we should look at ourselves calmly and rationally.

Treat people around you calmly: be grateful for the encouragement of relatives, patiently explain the incomprehension of friends, and laugh at the ridicule of others.

In any case, the lower the trough, the less decadent and desperate.

Third, persist in studying and working, and constantly improve yourself.

You can teach yourself, improve your knowledge through reading and online classes, or take part in professional training, learn professional knowledge and improve your work skills.

Similarly, the more we are in the trough and upset period of life, the more we should do a good job at hand, because work can not only maintain basic survival needs, but also enrich our hearts.

When we constantly strive for a full job, when we are proud of our achievements in our work, we naturally have no time to worry about being upset.

Fourth, the change of environment means the change of mood.

You can take a short trip, get out of the closed small world, see the outside world, open your heart and relax in the brand-new mountains and rivers.

It can also be a long-term migration, go to a new place to work and live, change your mentality, forget your unhappiness and sadness, get out of the trough of life, get rid of upset and start over.

Fifth, learn to divert attention and cultivate a new hobby.

Exercise and fitness are generally advocated by everyone. You can run, yoga, play ball, etc. Let the body move and dispel the anxiety caused by fatigue and sweat.

You can also cultivate a new interest, such as painting, photography, pottery, and food. As long as you are interested, you can cultivate hard.

Get a new sense of satisfaction from small achievements ... don't waste time because you are upset in the trough, but use this time to make up for the shortcomings of life and learn to enjoy life.

Sixth, spend more time with family and friends and actively seek their help.

You can often go home to see your parents, eat and chat with them, or spend more time with your partner and children to experience the warmth and care of your family.

You can get together with three or five friends and get drunk. You can also talk about your troubles and current difficulties and take the initiative to seek their help.

Seventh, learn to help others.

You can take part in public welfare activities, volunteer, teach, help children from poor families ... try your best to help others.

Not to escape from reality, not to be powerless, but to take active actions, give full play to one's own light and heat, smile sincerely, be grateful to others, get inner satisfaction, and dispel the irritability in the trough.

Life can never be smooth sailing, and each of us may fall into a period of low life and upset.

At this time, don't be afraid, don't shrink back, treat it correctly and calmly, and get out of this difficult period step by step.

Life is low and I am upset. This is my present state. I am an entrepreneur.

As an entrepreneur, as long as you work hard and be serious, you will certainly encounter problems. Sometimes no one understands and confides in the problems encountered, so they can only face and think silently. My choice is silence. Be content with what you have, and let your heart sink first, so that you won't act rashly and think quietly. I feel calm and see the problem clearly. Even if I find a piece of paper to write it down, it is more meaningful to think seriously than fidgeting, being upset and acting rashly!

Many things will happen to everyone who works hard, lives seriously and takes life seriously. Maybe your ability is limited! Want to do things, do good things, do things well! Because there is a difference between doing well and doing well! My position now is to do or not to do, but to do it wholeheartedly and go all out. Even if no one understands and is full of misunderstandings, as long as the original intention is based on public interests and can serve more people, I am still willing to try and challenge! It is not easy to say that entrepreneurs are real. If many things are done just for the sake of doing things, they lack lofty goals and ideals. They just feel as if they are floating on the plain, tending to the plain, but they have not let the plain blossom and bear fruit.

I don't tend to eat everything hard and grind everything, but sometimes I wonder who can detect and understand the energy waves in my soul, but I don't have much hope. Because after joining the WTO, I gradually tend not to expect, not to fantasize, and I have not successfully accepted the result of failure. This is how people live. It might be better to say it! Do what you can and let nature take its course!

In life, there are always many gullies to cross; Years, there are always many regrets to make up; In life, there are always many puzzles to understand.

In our long life, there will always be some ups and downs, sometimes even going to despair. At this time, should we use our own strength to overcome it, or go to the edge of despair and let it break. I think, since we have reached the bottom, there will be no worse situation than now. No matter how you go, you are actually going up. Some people always complain that they can't walk out of the trough, because they have been squatting there crying since they started walking.

People often say that if you haven't grown up, then you must have never experienced a painful ordeal. Only when you reach the bottom of your life will you desperately want to climb up. In this process, you will constantly exercise yourself, save energy, and complete a phoenix nirvana. I believe many people have seen Chasing Happyness. At the bottom of his life, chris gardner experienced "his wife ran away", "living alone with his son", "saving 2 1 USD", "unpaid internship", "asking for help from a shelter or even selling blood" ... especially the scene with his son in the subway toilet was particularly touching, and he finally survived tenaciously.

Romain rolland once said: There is only one true heroism in the world, and that is to love life after recognizing the truth of life. Give yourself a strong reason and admit it when you lose. It is also necessary to go all out to climb to the bottom.

Life is impermanent and people's hearts are fickle. Why bother with those grievances? Looking down, there is no right or wrong; Let it go, there is no success or failure; Relax, there is no gain or loss, and life is just like this. There are three thousand things in the world, so smile indifferently. Facing all kinds of situations in life, it is an elegance of life to laugh it off. Nine times out of ten, learning not to be angry is another realm of life. Don't be too anxious to get out of the trough, too anxious will often make us lose our way. At this time, why not calm down, allow yourself to have such a low time and accept yourself?

In real life, each of us has to walk through a flat or curved road, and some people crawl in the wind and rain; Some people sigh in the wind and rain; Some people persist in moving forward, and the world is only for me and each other. In life, people often ask, "When we hit bottom, how can we rebound?" ? Is it very Thai? "Yes, not bad! It's all low. You bite the bullet and you are going uphill wherever you go. People always have to force themselves to grow up, either to be excellent or to be degraded by default. Xu Sanduo said: Never abandon, never give up. Now I am going through a trough, but I still hope that I can work hard with all my friends in the trough to overcome these difficulties, and maybe I can turn Gan Kun around in the near future.

Everyone has a terrible past, which seems hopeless and may continue to sink at any time. At this time, if you choose to give up, you begin the journey of self-deception.

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Treat thousands of things with a normal heart! Learn to let go, cultivate your mind first, and everything will change with your heart. In addition, outsiders can go out for a walk, get in touch with some positive energy or travel to embrace strange social nature, stretch and relax themselves, and make themselves happy or calm down!

I wish you happiness!

Well, I know I have no knowledge, no friends and no audience. It doesn't matter. I don't need you to stand up, and I don't need your pity and sympathy. The past is the past. I am enjoying it now. I didn't lie to myself. Now I just want to be myself, improve myself and improve myself. I don't want to be a better person. What should come will come sooner or later. The person I care about in my heart, you can be happy, and I will be happy. In recent years, I am really a little bit worse than death. Although it is very bitter, I have gained something to become a better, stronger and taller person, so that I don't dream. I work hard and diligently step by step. Now I know more about the beauty of human nature than ugliness, and I have been pursuing beauty to make myself more beautiful and better. The new year is coming. You should be happy in the next year. Don't be on the wrong side. Some people are very narrow-minded and will do you harm. This is what I don't want. I don't want to hurt you a little because of me. Plum blossom fragrance comes from bitter cold. I am like the faint fragrance of flowers pouring into your side in the wind, which makes you smell comfortable and comforts your heart bit by bit.

People will encounter this kind of situation in life, confused and distressed, and can't find a way out of life. Because of this, some people have not handled this problem well, and have never recovered from it, and they are at a loss about their lives.

There are two solutions to this situation, one is self-healing, the other is to face and think silently, let your heart calm down slowly and think quietly in that place. Only by calming down, can a person see the problem clearly, find the source of the problem, and then seriously think about how to solve this problem, in order to gradually get out of the predicament and meet the new challenges in life.

Second, people are often unable to heal themselves when they are upset in the trough. Friends and family play a key role. A friend who knows you will enlighten you when you are confused and desperate, and will generously help you tide over the difficulties when you are in trouble. Your family always cares about you, making you feel that you are not fighting alone, but that they are by your side, making you full of hope for life and gradually getting out of the confusion of life.

People's life has never been smooth sailing, stumbling is the normal state of life, and only experience can make life full of excitement.

When life is low and you are upset, you have to come out on your own. Many people will say, be optimistic, don't think about those things, just be happy, but in fact, how can you tell people to be optimistic and happy in that predicament? If you ask me, this matter is left to different people and needs different pharmacies.

It is said that personality determines fate, and fate often depends on how to spend it at important moments in life. For people with low self-esteem, when they are in a trough, their mood must be very low, and all they see is difficulty, almost depression. At this time, it is important to calm down and say to yourself that there is nothing worse. People with low self-esteem like to be bored, so they need to vent their pressure in these ways. After rational analysis, solve the problem step by step and come out.

What about grumpy people? If you encounter this kind of disappointment, you are likely to fly into a rage and hit the wall directly. Such people should make use of their explosive power, create opportunities for the Jedi to fight back, and vigorously fight back against the obstacles given by fate.