Don't "help" others casually

Everyone may have encountered this situation. My friend is in trouble and doesn't know how to make a decision or choose. Tell us.

And we often help her analyze the pros and cons and judge the gains and losses out of kindness.

But when the result is unpleasant, there will be shirking. Friends will be angry. If you hadn't said so, this wouldn't have happened. You are also very wronged, and I am also out of kindness. As a result, I am not alone inside and outside.

Sometimes, when mistakes appear, people always shirk their responsibilities and reduce their inner guilt, which is a weakness of human nature.

So how can we avoid getting ourselves into this situation?

Just don't help others casually, and don't make decisions for her if you have to. The advantages and disadvantages are put forward and listed. It's up to her to decide which one to use.

It not only gives the answer, but also avoids throwing the pot.