Most short-lived people have these four characteristics, one of which needs to be changed. Which four?

Fate is hard to say. Some personnel things go smoothly, and some people even take a sip of cold water. Some people say that this is a certain fate and cannot be changed. In fact, from a psychological point of view, these are just the results, and the reasons have long been presented, but the "fans of the authorities" have not found it.

In a word, there are two kinds of people in this world: happy people and unfortunate people. Happy people always seem to be lucky, while unfortunate people seem to experience stumbling every day. Are these two kinds of people born? No, those happy people are positive and sunny, while those unfortunate people love to complain.

Different mentality determines fate. A good attitude can make people feel happy, while a bad attitude is like a pair of invisible hands, constantly pulling people to the abyss of misfortune.

Whether a person is blessed or not can be seen from his personality. People who are calm and not arrogant have a lot of blessings, and unlucky people often have a bad attitude. Most of them have the following four characteristics, even if they only occupy one, they should be changed in time, and only need to make changes to restart the disk of fate.

Accustomed to please, always sacrifice yourself to please others.

Almost everyone knows the importance of walking in society and maintaining good relations with others. Good interpersonal relationship can really make life a lot easier, but the quality of interpersonal relationship does not depend on the wishes of both sides, it needs the recognition and efforts of both sides.

It takes two hands to make love, and double sacrifice and flattery will only make the other person look down on himself. Some people always think that they can get along as long as they make enough concessions, which is a very stupid idea.

Those who sacrifice their own interests in life just to get the satisfaction of the other party will not strive for respect, but more are unscrupulous insults.

We should know that people can live in harmony as long as they are in an equal position. It is better to take time to improve yourself than to lower your posture and please others in a humble way. When they become powerful one day, others will naturally sit up and take notice.

As the old saying goes, "losing money is a blessing", but losing money depends on where to eat. Active "losing money" means tolerance, while passive "losing money" means cowardice. Don't be timid. The more you please, the worse your life will be.

Sentimental, always think the worst when things happen.

Speaking of sentimentality, I think the first person who comes to mind is Lin Daiyu. As one of the heroines in Cao Xueqin's works, she stands out among many roles, and everyone is absorbed in her career. As long as she was completely in love, she died for love, but she didn't get it in the end. As a result, she died on the wedding day of her beloved NPC deputy.

Lin Daiyu's personality in A Dream of Red Mansions is particularly prominent. Her sentimental, sensitive personality and delicate body are not comparable to others, and only when she is so sad will she say such a thing as "burying flowers".

Don't think that Lin Daiyu is just a character in the novel. There are many people like Lin Daiyu in life, but their "symptoms" are not as obvious as Lin Daiyu. However, it is undeniable that these people are all talented people, who are sensitive because of talent and sentimental because of delicacy.

Sentimental people are always preoccupied and don't blindly think about the bad side when things happen. This kind of behavior can be described as thoughtful or negative.

Sentimental people are very talented, so it is inevitable that they will fall into the corner of emotions and feel the excitement of life, so they are fortunate to have a shallow life.

Jealousy and meanness can't hide that others are better than themselves.

There is a saying: "The heart is higher than the sky, and life is thinner than paper." Describe a person who is ambitious, but can't help it. Because his ambition could not be realized, his life was very depressed from beginning to end.

To put it bluntly, this is a typical situation where a person's talent can't support a lofty fantasy. Everyone should recognize their real situation, instead of rushing forward regardless of enthusiasm.

I once saw such a picture in a comic book. A kitten crouched in front of the mirror, but a big tiger was reflected in the mirror. This means that I can't clear my mind and recognize myself. Fantasy is a good thing. If this fantasy is seriously inconsistent with my ideal, it will become a disaster.

There is a kind of person in life who seems to like to say "why?" They always don't like other people's achievements, and think that their talents are far above others, and why others have better endings than themselves.

A stingy person is often very harsh, and he can't hide that others are better than himself. He is jealous when he sees other people's achievements, and he is unhappy because he is narrow-minded. Although he has been finding fault with others for a long time, he can't realize his own advantages and is unhappy, so everything goes wrong.

Bitter and stingy, if you don't take advantage of it, you may not believe it. There is a kind of taking advantage, called losing money. There is never a free lunch in this world, and a free lunch is always the most expensive, but many people don't understand the relationship between profit and loss.

As the old saying goes, "an inch of time is worth an inch of gold, but a thousand dollars can't buy an inch of time." It happened that some people used their precious time to get petty profits, and after they got it, they took advantage of it smugly.

If a person's eyes only focus on interests, then he will be cautious when interacting with others, and his calculations will gradually form a kind of petty spirit around him, which he can't get rid of.

People who love calculation will not blindly calculate no matter who they are with, even their biological parents, brothers and sisters will not let go. They are mean in speech and stingy in behavior. It is precisely because of this "feature" that they will gradually alienate the people around them.

Zeng Guofan said: "The poor will be harsh, and the harsh will benefit the thin." If you are too harsh and don't think about others at all, it will make me speechless and gradually unlucky. "Mencius" said, "Those who gain the Tao help more, while those who lose the Tao help less." It's also that the gains and losses depend on people's hearts, and good or bad depends on themselves.