How many "special" women will be happy when they marry anyone?

How many "special" women will be happy when they marry anyone? There are always some women who think that happiness in marriage depends on luck. If you are lucky, marry a good husband; if you are unlucky, marry a man who doesn't love you. But they forget that marriage is hardly a matter of one person, but the result of two people's joint efforts. In other words, a woman marries a good husband, but she doesn't know how to run a marriage, so this relationship will still wither.

There is a classic line in the funny sketch "Happiness Today" that says: "Happiness is not just about what you have, but what you have." The same is true of marriage. The happiness of marriage cannot be provided by boys. The key is that women have their own standards for a better life. Therefore, psychological research shows that women with these four "unique characteristics" will be very happy when they marry anyone.

First, have their own principles and bottom line. Xin Li in the TV series "Hidden Rules of Divorce" was a playboy before marriage, but at that time, Zhang Xiaofan liked him very much and thought he could be given a chance. Maybe Xin Li will mature when she gets married. So, Zhang Xiaofan took marriage as a bargaining chip, but he didn't expect that Li Xin was still unrepentant. Even though he had become someone else's husband, he still couldn't change his habit of hooking up with others outside. Even once, Zhang Xiaofan saw Xin Li and other women kissing me.

The marriage completely defeated Zhang Xiaofan. She thought that her tolerance would make the other party start all over again, but the other party was brazen again and again. In this world, people should be kind, but at the same time, they should understand that self-protection and indecision without boundaries and basic principles will only make each other greedy; Kindness without a bottom line will only make the other person unscrupulous. Women have their own red lines and standards. Only by keeping the bottom line and standards can they not humble themselves to the dust and get the attention of others.

Second, there is economic independence that does not depend on anyone. Some women and fathers regard marriage as their long-term meal ticket. They think that marrying a rich man can be done once and for all, and they can only undertake to be housewives. But is this really the case? This is the case with Mrs. Yu in the TV series "Die at Thirty with Nothing". She doesn't need to go out to work. She arranges flowers every day and talks with other rich women about the past and the present. But neither her husband nor her former children like her. Her husband thinks she doesn't even understand a child. Therefore, sometimes when she is in a bad mood, she will reduce her pocket money.

Every time she asks for living expenses, Mrs. Yu feels like a beggar, but what about shame? She has no job, so she has to humble herself again. Therefore, the days when her palms are up are not sad. These economically independent women don't need to be attached to anyone. They are full of confidence, choose the other half and choose the marriage they want, which is also the confidence brought to her by economic independence. Therefore, Teacher Li Yinhe put forward such a suggestion to modern women, that is, to encourage women to take part in work and have their own independent income, instead of taking marriage as a way to gain a foothold in the world like buying a long-term meal ticket.

Third, there is a sense of self that does not follow the crowd. Some women have actually passed away in their twenties and thirties. Because they have been following the rhythm of the people and hardly consider what they want. So after this age, such people have long been their own shadows, and they have only been imitating themselves all their lives.

Such people will pay special attention to other people's opinions. For example, if everyone around her is married, she will still be alone, so she will be at a loss and live in fear all day; For example, people around you are "older women" who don't want to get married, and they will feel uncomfortable all over, as if it is a sin not to get married at the age of marriage.

The result is a hasty marriage without considering the consequences, and it is found that every disappointment in daily life is given by this hasty marriage. Almost all these "withdrawn" women always know what they want. Therefore, in their view, the marriage that should not be held is only the marriage that should meet the right person. Therefore, they would rather have nothing than nothing, and will not treat marriage casually. Of course, marriage is not easy to treat them casually.

Fourth, don't lose your selfishness and cruelty to anyone. Ji Xianlin once said, "People will inevitably go downhill for some time in their lives. Not everyone is the lucky one of the creator. Only by taking a road can we understand the meaning of life. " Some women have been thinking of others, but they don't know how to love themselves. So most of their lives are spent observing others, but they just don't remember to observe themselves.

We should learn from these women with high emotional intelligence, learn to be "selfish and cruel" and learn to think for ourselves instead of being busy trying to please others. In the case that we are not easy to lose ourselves because of any one person, our happiness will follow, because loving ourselves is the beginning of a romantic life.