What is the custom of marrying a daughter in Leizhou?

In the old days, when a girl in Leizhou got married, the marriage was the fate of her parents and the words of a matchmaker, so the proverb "Marry her father and mother" was popular. Usually when I was six or seven years old, I got engaged to my in-laws, and some married my in-laws when I was two or three years old. For the in-laws process, the man first sends a gift box to the woman's house, which contains betel nut, fruit, brown sugar and so on. The rich use silver boxes, tin boxes or lacquer boxes, and the poor use colored cloth to wrap gifts. If the woman's family initially agrees, the elders in the family will open the box and take out a betel nut, commonly known as "eating other people's betel nuts." Next, men and women exchange "Geng Tie" (that is, write down the year, month, day and time of birth on red paper) and ask fortune tellers to "match their lives". If two people are "born with five elements, their life roots coincide", the man's family will send a gift. Gifts include silver dollars, pork legs, cakes, chickens (male and female chickens), and nobles also have valuables such as gold and silver jewelry, jewelry and jade. After that, when the woman reaches the age of 16, 7, usually no more than 18, the man writes the wedding date on a red sticker, commonly known as "Japanese book", and then prepares two gifts for her home. After the bride's family receives the "Japanese book", the bride will live in seclusion for more than ten days or a month before the wedding, stay in the boudoir, listen to the wedding ceremony of her aunt and sister-in-law, and "cry and marry" her lover and sister at night. The main purpose of crying marriage is to scold the matchmaker for his engagement and make him leave his hometown today; The second is to thank parents for their kindness in raising and teaching. Third, I told my brother and sister-in-law to be determined to be a man and honor my parents. On the wedding day, the man gave a red sedan chair, and the matchmaker also brought a seal and a door-to-door gift with the sedan chair, also called a "big gift". On this day, the bride is not allowed to eat rice at home (meaning that she is not allowed to take away her family's rice). She only eats some sugar water, gets up early, dresses up, twists her face with thread and ties a bun. On top of the bun, the lovely girl wears flowers and jade, and her head is full of splendor, while the poor village girl puts a rake (silver hairpin) cypress to show that she is married.

When the bride goes out, her feet can't touch the ground. With the help of her sisters, she spread the straw mat all the way to the door of the sedan chair (meaning not to take away her mother's dirty things). After the bride gets on the sedan chair, the sedan chair bearer closes the sedan chair door, and the elder of the bride puts a seal on the sedan chair door. At this time, the bride in the sedan chair has the custom of "kicking the sedan chair door". Generally, she kicked three times, crying to get married while kicking. The content of crying marriage is not far from the wedding night. Then, three bearers carried the sedan chair, and then two children aged 12 supported the sedan chair to see him off. There are also people who accompany their mothers, carry boxes, carry baskets, carry umbrellas and blow thugs. The sound of gongs and drums resounded through the sky and all the way was lively. When the children are sent to the village entrance, they exchange paper fans with the bride and then go home. So, the wedding team accompanied the bride to her husband's home. On the way, if you encounter any problems, the bearers should remind the bride to use money as river money. 5w(S9 p9 Y+k & amp； ~8 @' ` 1 w- k j

When the sedan chair comes to the door, the groom salutes the sedan chair door first, then opens the seal himself, and the aunt and sister-in-law help the bride get off the sedan chair and walk to the door. At this time, the groom stood on the high stool at the side of the gate and slapped the bride's head three times with a folded paper fan, commonly known as "patting the head". Legend has it that the meaning of fanning the head varies from place to place, and some say it's good luck: "one dozen children and grandchildren, two dozen filial piety halls, and three dozen prosperous six animals." Some people say that women should emphasize three obedience and four virtues. As a beginner, the bride should be given a "married husband" to avoid bullying her husband in the future.

After the hair was fanned, the bride entered the new house, and the village invited a so-called "lucky water" rich woman to comb her hair, singing, "From beginning to end, Qi Mei combed her hair twice, and her children and grandchildren combed it all over the floor three times ...". After dressing up, the bride and groom will hold a ceremony to worship the bride. The bride and groom will go to the decorated hall, give their parents three kneeling and nine knocking gifts, and pay homage to the couple. Then serve sweet tea in turn according to the size of the family. After receiving tea, relatives will give away the money of "rolling interest". After the ceremony, the bride went back to her room and sat quietly facing the "fire kang" (that is, a big barrel was set up in the new house, which contained grain, jewelry, money and other things, and a peanut oil lamp was lit in the middle). Soon, relatives and friends came into the house one after another to see the bride and dowry. The bride asked friends and relatives for their names and offered sweet tea.

On the wedding night, in some places, especially in Haikang area, there is a custom of "making mistresses". The ceremony is to put two or four square tables in the gate or yard, with cakes such as castrated chicken, braised pork and powdered birds, as well as tableware such as bowls, chopsticks, plates and spoons, and big candles are lit around them. In the joy of the hitter, accompany the mother to guide the bride out. The bride dressed up and covered her face with a paper fan. First, she accompanied her mother to make a demonstration. The bride followed suit, saluting the corner of the table to distinguish the size, and gently lifting bowls, plates, chopsticks and other things with dance movements, so that she circled the table three times. If it is a rich family, the escort will also sing a song with chopsticks to congratulate the newlyweds on having many children and grandchildren and growing old together. In this ceremony, it is often late at night before firing a gun to send the bride back to her room. ;