What kind of woman is a good wife and mother?

A good wife and a good mother was originally a commendatory term in ancient times, which is the unity of virtue, diligence, tolerance, kindness, consideration, consideration, meticulousness, reserve, modesty, gentleness and sacrifice. The standard of a good wife and mother is also advancing with the times, and this definition has been updated a lot today. In a magazine, I saw the definition of a good wife and a good mother in the new era: respecting the old and caring for the young, "virtuous" eternal female virtue, knowledgeable and polite, thoughtful and tasteful, with a stable income, like reading and music. ...

From ancient times to the present, no matter how to define a good wife and mother, a good wife and mother can be said to be the dream of all men to choose a spouse, and it is also the goal pursued by too many women. Although the word "wife and mother" seems to be out of date nowadays, it still has considerable appeal to people. As the saying goes, men are afraid of entering the wrong line, and women are afraid of marrying the wrong person. Aren't men afraid of marrying the wrong wife? Hong Yingming, who wrote "Caigen Tan", once said: "The fierce wife is really not deaf!" Strong demons don't last as long as weak ones, and so does marriage. The great writer Shakespeare wrote many wonderful plays in his life, but his view on marriage is not romantic. Because he clearly understands the difficulty of marriage, he deeply understands that life will consume love.

A good wife is also called "a good wife and a good mother" in modern terms. A good wife can mold her own man, because the essence of maternal love can be found in women. Even kindergarten girls can find the excellent essence of gentleness and kindness from their favorite things of putting dolls to sleep. In history, it is rare for a bachelor to become a great man. On the contrary, behind many great men stands one or more great women.

During the Spring and Autumn Period and the Warring States Period, the hermit of Chu "plowed for food" and pretended not to be an official. Jieyu's wife and husband lead a life of bereavement, ploughing, knitting sweaters and enjoying themselves. When the King of Chu "made the envoy hold the golden bell wheel" to hire Jieyu, he hoped that he could "govern Huainan". Jie Yu agreed, but his wife disagreed. She said: "an upright person is not modest, it is not easy to run for poverty, and it is not easy to change careers for meanness ... If he is valued, he is virtuous and eats well, what will he do!" If you are short-handed and soft-spoken, there is nothing you can do if others ask you to do indecent things. Why do you fall into the situation of disloyalty and injustice because of material enjoyment? Under her persuasion, Jieyu carried the cooker and his wife carried the weaving tools, so she left home and remained anonymous. Jieyu's wife knows the truth that "water flows downwards and all rivers flow downwards". She is really a rare wise man and a rare wife. Borrowing the past is not the present. Was the past different from the present?

Speaking of a good mother or a virtuous mother, many historical stories will come to mind. Mencius' mother godson, Xu Shu's mother's righteousness, Yue Fei's mother's tattoo, Kong Zi's mother's teaching, Ouyang Xiu's mother's painting, Tao Kan's mother's haircut and Xu Yi's mother's righteousness all set an example for women who are mothers today. It is an example that we will never learn and learn.

There are a few words in traditional drama that say, "A good wife and a good husband have few disasters, and a filial son is filial to his father." Come to think of it, this motto is very meaningful. My family has a neighbor. This wife always complains about her husband. She always feels that he is incompetent and can't earn too much money like some rich people, arguing with him all day for money. One day, after the husband and wife quarreled, the man walked out of the house silently and didn't come back when it was time to go home from work. The wife panicked. The next day, I found my husband's body by the Songhua River in our city. Since then, his two children have stopped talking to their mother. His daughter once told me, "I hate my mother for her father's death, and I will never forgive her." If this wife is virtuous and more considerate to her husband, will her husband throw himself into the river? Now the old man still lives alone. Seeing her pitiful, her children said, "My father is more pitiful than my mother!" " "

The biggest expectation of a married woman is to be a good wife and mother. Women all want to be good wives and mothers. But in real life, what we see is not the case. Now social material is the foundation. In this materialistic society, women support themselves by going out to work, as well as children and parents, in order to reduce the burden on their husbands. Therefore, there are often conflicts between work and family, and sometimes it is difficult to choose. As an ordinary woman, I find it difficult to be a good wife and mother.

Before getting married, my mother said to me, "If you get married, you must be a good wife and mother." Before I got married, I saw the artistic image of a good wife and mother in these four words in literary works, but I really didn't know what to do. Now, after 20 years of siege, I am still studying hard and being a good wife and mother. Therefore, every morning when I make breakfast for my wife and children, when I put foot washing water for my wife and children at night, when my wife and children are in trouble, when I discuss with them, when I have a heart-to-heart talk with my wife and children, when I play with my wife and children, I always ask myself: How far is it from my wife and mother?

A young colleague of the unit said: These days, people who want to be a good wife and mother are too stupid and ignorant. They can earn money to support themselves and be equal to men. Why does a wife have to tie herself to a man's belt? The pursuit of individuality and self-worth is what women in our time pursue. Calling for a "good wife and mother", where is the "good husband and father"? After listening to her words, I was thinking: I don't know if what she said is a complete female liberation, and I don't know if what she said is relief or sadness. Perhaps it is her pursuit of personality that makes this 33-year-old girl unmarried.

We all know Madame Curie. She is a successful person. As a scientist, she successfully discovered and extracted radium and made great contributions to mankind. But she has a successful career and has not neglected the care of her husband and children. She is a good wife and mother. Former British Prime Minister Margaret Thatcher, a political elite. Despite the busy state affairs, I still don't forget to make a breakfast for my husband in the morning. These virtuous examples make us admire like a raging river. As ordinary people, without the hard work of scientists and the busyness of politicians, being a good wife and mother should have more time than them. Therefore, I personally think that a good wife and a good mother should not be too far away from modern women.

In the long ancient history of China, women's status was low, and in most cases, they succumbed to the arrogance of male chauvinism. But sometimes it is respected, especially in the family. The quality of a housewife often has an important influence on this family. I remember General Zhang Xueliang once wrote: Heroes have been lustful since ancient times, but lewdness is not necessarily a hero. Although I am not a hero, only lust is like a hero. Napoleon also said that a man's career is on horseback and a woman's breasts. Our ancestors also said: A family has a good wife, but a man will not be a sudden misfortune. It is a vivid description of the dependence of men on women and heroes on beautiful women. The world can't live without men, and men can't live without women. Men conquered the world, and women conquered men.

Society belongs to everyone who is alive and has normal thinking. Since there are men and women in this world, since there is family and love, it means that they still need each other. Nowadays, a woman is a good wife and mother. She not only has to cook and take care of her children, but also needs normal housework. She should spend more time helping or assisting her husband mentally, reminding him in time, helping him solve his troubles, and making him feel dependent on you, both as a wife and a confidant. For children, mothers are more than just nannies. Communicate with children, be a mother and be friends. In addition to babysitters, husbands and children need wives and mothers who can give them spiritual support.

Being a good wife and mother is a state of mind and a deep sense of responsibility for family and society. Although we have new wives and mothers, we can't give up all the traditional ones. It can only be said that a good wife and a good mother are not housewives who only know how to educate their husbands and children, nor do they represent self-control, let alone sacrifice and tolerance. First of all, she should have a professional and economic foundation that matches the times, because this determines her world outlook, values and spiritual outlook. It is also a new balanced relationship, which has changed the state of men and women getting along in modern society.

Woman, wife and mother, be a spiritual wife and mother and conquer her husband and children with her own personality charm! Let the family be full of warmth and harmony because of their own existence!