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Does Anqing have the custom of marrying women?

Marriage is a great event in life. It takes a long time for a couple to talk about marriage and get married, and there are many activities. There were many superstitious factors and feudal religious consciousness before the founding of the People's Republic of China. 1. On marriage before marriage In the old society, according to the tradition of "parents' orders, the matchmaker's words", the man first asked the matchmaker to propose marriage to the woman's parents. The woman is forbidden to be the initiator of marriage proposal. Even if she is interested, she should ask someone to enlighten the man and let him take the initiative. Before or when talking about marriage, the man always wants to see the woman herself, and is often taken to the woman's house or other occasions by the matchmaker or other relatives and friends to peep at each other, which is called "blind date". The woman's parents are open-minded and generally ask her daughter for advice. If the two sides "agree" or reluctantly agree, they exchange "birthdays" and ask the fortune teller to calculate, which is called "eight characters". If there is no "punch card", you can decide to get engaged; Otherwise, it may fail. Before the founding of the People's Republic of China, ugly men were still in the minority. They were afraid that the woman would not love them, so they found someone to replace them. It is called "piling". Even if the stuffing is exposed when they get married, the uncooked rice is cooked. When you are engaged, you will be engaged on a certain day, commonly known as "Guo Geng". The man wrote his birthday on a big red post (called Geng post) and gave it to the woman along with clothes, wine, meat, candy cakes and rings. Most of the men went with him and called their new son-in-law. In addition to her birthday card, the woman should also attach shoes, socks, clothes, cakes, steamed stuffed buns, jiaozi and other foods for the man to take back as gifts to relatives and neighbors. Parents or brothers and sisters of both parties also have the custom of visiting at any time, hosting banquets and giving gifts, whether before or after marriage. After the engagement, the two sides became relatives. Since then, every three major festivals, namely Dragon Boat Festival, Mid-Autumn Festival and Spring Festival, the man has to send clothes, wine, meat and holiday food to the woman, which is called "sending new year's goods". 2. Before and after marriage, the man should give the woman rich gifts, including women's clothes, three days before marriage, so that the bride can wear them at the wedding; Fish, cigarettes, wine and some rice are sent to the wedding banquet for the woman; For cakes or glutinous rice cakes, large families also pay attention to "thousands of pigs" for the woman to distribute to relatives and friends, and the recipient must double the gift money or accompany it; It also includes incense sticks and firecrackers for the bride to sacrifice to her ancestors when she leaves home. This gift is called "farewell gift" or "incense burning gift". A few days before the wedding, the woman should choose an auspicious day to "open her face" (twist down the fluff on her face with a thread, indicating that the girl will become a young woman). On the eve of the wedding, the woman's family will hold a banquet to entertain the relatives concerned, persuade them to bid farewell, and arrange a "dowry". On the wedding day, a banquet will be held to entertain the wedding guests, relatives and friends of the man. After the bride washes and dresses in the room, she leaves her ancestors first, and then pays homage to her parents and other elders, who also give money and gifts. When the bride leaves home to get on the sedan chair, she should put a red carpet under her feet. According to the old custom, a woman's marriage will take away the dust at home and make the family poor. It is both an expression of feelings and good luck for the bride to cry when she gets on the sedan chair and the night before. As the saying goes, "The more you cry, the more you cry." Generally, Xi Niang (an elderly relative who is good at socializing to take care of the bride) and her brother accompany the bride to her in-laws' home. The wedding sedan chair is prepared by the man (small families use soft baskets instead). When the bride comes home, she should invite two middle-aged and elderly women who are "blessed" (that is, both have children and have a good family) to help her to hold a ceremony in class: worship heaven and earth, worship ancestors, worship in-laws and worship new people. After entering the new house (also called the bridal chamber), sit down and eat happy eggs and dates. The banquet held at home can only begin after the wedding, and the newlyweds in the bridal chamber should propose a toast. At night, relatives and friends will also "make trouble in the new house", giving new people problems and playing jokes on them. Occasionally, someone plays a prank and eavesdrops on the movement in the room after falling asleep, which is called "listening to the new house"; Some even stole the couple's clothes, calling it "stealing the new house" and threatening the couple to redeem it the next day. Some people paint the faces of their parents or other relatives with red pigment, which is called "the lucky stars are shining high and their faces are red". Even if it is a prank, because "three days after marriage, regardless of size", the host family is inconvenient to care. On the morning of the third day after marriage, the bride will go down to the kitchen to cook. The wedding date is in the middle of 1 month (honeymoon), and the old rules cannot be left blank. The bride usually can't return to her family until after the full moon. When the groom goes with him, he should bring gifts, pay homage to the woman's ancestors and meet his parents-in-law and other elders. The bride can spend the night and the groom usually comes back the same day. Even if he spends the night, he can't live with the bride. According to the custom of the county, the Yues can't live together. In special circumstances, they must also write a house lease. After the 1930s, there were also intellectuals who freely fell in love and held new-style weddings (commonly known as civilized marriages). The bride didn't sit in a sedan chair, and the couple didn't go to visit the bride. Also attending the wedding are officiating ceremony, witnesses, bridesmaids and so on. But the number is very small, which is not the mainstream of marriage customs before the founding of the People's Republic of China.