May every day you leave be a beautiful day.

Before the Qingming holiday, I called my mother and asked if I needed to go home to worship my ancestors. My mother said no, but my father and my brother will still be responsible.

In fact, considering these twenty years, I have hardly participated in any so-called human relations at home, such as Tomb-Sweeping Day's ancestor worship. For example, during the Mid-Autumn Festival and the Spring Festival, my mother will wrap the steamed boiled chicken, prepare noodles and white wine, and let my brother paddle the boat to his hometown across the river to worship his ancestors.

There is also an annual social day festival at home, which is held by different relatives from door to door. The host family is responsible for gathering neighbors, holding ceremonies to worship the country gods, slaughtering cattle and sheep to sacrifice wine, and then building sheds under the country trees to share the sacrificed wine and meat.

It is said that eating this kind of meat can strengthen the body and prevent diseases, so the metropolis has great worship and serious respect for this kind of dinner since childhood.

However, I have never been involved in these things. First, as a girl, the elders always think that you will be an outsider in the future and don't need to bear too much responsibility; Secondly, my mother always thinks that I am a scholar, so there is no need to know these red tape things, so there is no longer any requirement.

I grew up in a small town in the south. In my memory, almost everything, big and small, needs planning and thinking. The so-called "finger pinching" you saw on TV actually exists in my life.

For example, weddings, funerals, house relocation, and shop opening all need to be carefully planned and selected in advance. It should be the common sense of all China people, but for my mother, the date choice is not limited to these.

As long as I can remember, from childhood to adulthood, every semester started, and even when I chose to report to school today, my mother would have her own plans.

After I was admitted to the university, I left the city where I grew up for the first time to study abroad. My mother asked several elders next door in advance to help me choose a good day.

I clearly remember the day when I left home. I got up early, went out at 7: 15 and went downstairs at 7: 20. Then I will stare at the place where the sun rises for three to five seconds and bow a little, which is specially instructed by my predecessor, and then I can go on my way.

University has four years and eight semesters, so I'm used to it.

After graduating from college, I didn't go home in the last semester, but went directly to Shenzhen from the city where the university was located. Before buying the train ticket, I called my mother as usual and told her about it.

My mother called me early the next morning and asked, Did you buy the train ticket?

I said, I haven't bought it yet.

My mother said, I asked my seventh uncle to calculate the days, saying that Wednesday and Thursday this week are suitable days for going out for a long trip, so you can just buy train tickets for these two days.

So I did it.

By the way, when I came to Shenzhen, I often met various fortune-telling shops and stalls in many alleys when I was shopping. When I visited Wong Tai Sin, Hong Kong, I was even more surprised to see a row of blessing shops around me.

I have never been a superstitious person, but I am convinced of what my mother has done in these decades.

In the traditional culture of China, the auspicious day of the zodiac is a very important thing, and it will be indispensable in everyone's life events from south to north, but as far as my mother is concerned, she has carefully planned all these meticulous stages, every day and every hour among our family members.

Up to now, I have been working and living in Shenzhen, always telling my mother about finding a new house and moving. One is to ask her to help me plan a good day, and the other is to tell her that I am working hard and my life is getting better and better.

I remember when I chat with my elders, they always talk to me about the right time, the right place and the right people, and they will also nag me about my logic and mentality of conforming to destiny. My mother also nagged me: every time you go out for a long trip, although I may not be able to help you pick the best and most accurate day, at least I can help you avoid those bad travel conditions. For myself, I feel at ease and can sleep at night.

Gradually, I began to understand that the action of "choosing a day" carries a caring feeling, and the word "good day" carries a moving emotion. The day of parting, originally grand and exquisite, should not be sad, but people look forward to it.

I told this story to several of my good friends. They said that they had never experienced the matter of "choosing a day" since childhood, or at most they just read some general "avoid" tips on the calendar, which would not be as exaggerated as my mother.

For a long time, I defined this kind of thing as different customs in different places. For example, we southerners pay special attention to fortune telling, but later I found out that it is actually an expression of faith.

I believe that in everyone's heart, there will be something like a ceiling, which is sacred to you. When you make an important decision in life, you will think of it and it will guide you. I can't say what this ceiling is, maybe it is truth, goodness and beauty, maybe it is strong and independent, maybe people won't commit crimes against me, and I won't commit crimes.

Everyone's life will have their own set of principles, which have created their own state and the state of the people around them.

Like thousands of parents in Qian Qian, my mother is an ordinary woman, but I think every little thing she does is unusual. I never realized this before when I was a child, but now I am slowly realizing it.

I like fortune telling and choosing dates, and I won't dislike her. I think this is a sign that she cares about me; For example, she nagged me on the phone for an hour every week, and they all talked about the same topic for several years. I think this is an expression of her love for me.

It is often said that "parents don't travel far." I can't do it. Since traveling is to find something worth looking for, you should be blessed, so you can only try your best to "travel well".

For example, where I went this weekend, what kind of people I met, what kind of friends I made recently, what kind of colleagues I met in the workplace, what was the weather like in Shenzhen, and how many local products I ate from home ... I will report to my mother one by one.

Now I'm not married or a mother, but in these rambling memories, especially I decided to write something every day to record the past in my life. The people who understand these things best are my parents and family.

After listening to the song "The Most Important Decision" written by Christine, she said that "there is no shortcut to happiness, only management". In terms of love and affection, I think it is too late for me to understand at the moment, but I think it is not too late.

Now, I gradually begin to understand that "only by making myself better can people around me become better". I wasn't like this before. I have always been a person who worries about others. Later, I saw many examples. Those who sacrifice themselves to worry about their family and friends eventually become roles in the eyes of others. "Isn't that what you should do?"

I panicked. This is not the life I want.

I remember when I was in college, many times I didn't know some tasks assigned by the teacher in class, and no one told me. Over time, I was depressed. Later, my best friend Miss Wang reminded me that it is normal for others not to tell you, because they have no obligation, so if someone tells you, you should be grateful.

So for many years, I have kept this concept in my mind. For example, when I first entered the workplace, I was conscientious and responsible, and I never felt wronged because I was criticized for what I didn't understand and what I didn't do well, because I felt that I was wrong and others had no obligation to remind me.

With this feeling of letting go, I grew up. Later, when I took a few interns, I was never the kind of active tutor. When I meet a child who is more active and has a good personality, I will teach him very hard. As for those lukewarm children with personality, I will remind them if they think they have good personality, but if their attitude really doesn't suit me, I will keep silent.

So when I write some words every day today, I will tell myself that I am not in debt, because all my thoughts and feelings are deposited in my life, which is my understanding of life. As for the happiness of others, I don't care at all. I don't need to cater to everyone.

I am willing to share all the people who ask me for clothes, cosmetics, reading lists and cooking recipes, but that doesn't mean I have an obligation to do these things for you. I am willing because I am kind.

In this way, blx finally has a little strength in front of me, and this strength will make me have a rational attitude and communicate with my parents in a more rational way.

Up to now, every time our family makes a big or small decision, it is the family members who discuss it together. I used to be reluctant to take on these short-lived things from my parents, but now I'm slowly getting involved. First, I have begun to tell my elderly parents that I have the ability to support myself and run a family independently. Secondly, I will tell my retired parents what is popular now, such as what I am doing now.

Growing up in a small city, we came to a big city step by step through our own efforts, while my parents stayed in this small town all their lives. I communicate with them in this way. Gradually, they are no longer afraid of the outside world as before, but feel that the outside world is wonderful, so every day when I go home and leave home, they will feel more at ease than before.

Of course, my mother will still help me choose the date.

There is a song in Yamaguchi Momoe, the Chinese name is "Set out on a Sunny Day", which sings: I'm going to travel alone today, and I'm going to look for the sunset on a sunny day with the song I heard on my mother's back.

Who has no hometown in his heart? It's just a deep fog

May every parting day in your life be a beautiful day.