A first-time married woman should never find a second-time married man.

A first-time married woman should never find a second-time married man.

A first-time married woman should never find a second-time married man. Now the divorce rate is very high, and the psychological attitude of divorced people towards feelings and marriage has changed, so it is not suitable for men to find an unmarried person to marry here. The following women who share their first marriage should never find a second man.

First-time married women should never find second-time married men 1. It is inevitable that there will be hesitation. There are too many things that make us hesitate, but individuals really don't recommend first-time married women to marry second-time married men for three reasons:

First, the reason for his divorce, you will never hear the truth. Divorced men, whether helpless or hateful, or pretending to be contrite and sincere, will never tell the truth of their divorce. It takes two people to clap their hands, and when it comes to divorce, both of them are short.

Second, in his plan for the future, you will never be the first. For example, if you date this man, no matter what the conditions are, at least one child is around, then the child is the only one in his heart, and you don't want to be the first.

Third, your attitude towards marriage will never be consistent. Second-married men often remarry for practical reasons, such as finding someone to take care of themselves and their families, while first-married women often can't separate marriage from love and want love and romance.

Inconsistent attitudes towards marriage will definitely lead to contradictions in the future. Reading Yue's suggestion: 29 years old is not old. The second married man is not your only choice, and the choice that makes you hesitate must not be the most correct. First-time married women had better not choose second-time married men. After all, her mood is different. Blessing.

A first-time married woman should never find a second-time married man. 1. He didn't give me the love I wanted.

@ Miss Wang is 28 years old

I got married for the first time, and my husband got married for the second time without children. He is five years older than me. When I was in love, I really felt that he was particularly gentle and considerate, took good care of me and tolerated my small temper.

After marriage, he was still very kind to me and rarely lost his temper. But I gradually feel that his thoughtfulness, care and tolerance are more like a kind of responsibility and self-demand, rather than love.

I was angry and lost my temper. He never quarrels with me, but listens coldly. After I finished, he simply expressed his opinion and then stopped talking.

I think he is just avoiding the conflict with me, but he is too lazy to really care about the real thoughts in my heart; He takes care of my life, but rarely communicates with me to share his heart.

What we talk about most is family affairs. He always said that family is very important, and I am his family.

But I hope I am his lover first. He loves me because I am cute and worthy of love, not because I am his wife.

Different views on love and family should be the biggest difference between first marriage and second marriage.

Girls who enter marriage for the first time want to be pampered and treated gently, but all this comes from love first. She likes to share everything with her husband, including joys and sorrows, trivial matters; Looking forward to all the romance and surprises.

The second married man is obviously pragmatic. What he needs is a suitable marriage partner. Having been in love several times and married once, he knows what girls want, so he will avoid quarrels and conflicts and show more rationality and calmness.

But I really can't find the passion to marry anyone. For problems that can be solved with money, he will avoid solving them with emotion.

What he needs is a home, a harmonious family, not noisy love, but a down-to-earth life.

At this point, the first married woman will obviously feel very different from the romantic love she expected. The feeling of not being chosen by love is more like the result of weighing the pros and cons.

Second, he has always had reservations about me.

@ Miss Li is 32 years old

I married my second husband for the first time, because I was not young when I got married, so I was more rational. I didn't expect a vigorous love, so it's not bad to live well.

But after being married for a few years, what I can't stand most is that he always has reservations about me, which is manifested in all aspects of life.

He can really take care of a lot of things at home, and I don't have to worry or ask more questions.

But he won't tell me more things I want to ask. For example, things at work and the relationship between colleagues; He never talks about his social activities outside, so I asked him what he didn't want to talk about.

Sometimes I think he is a stranger. He always acts calm and doesn't talk to me much. Sometimes I don't know whether he is sad or happy.

Although I didn't expect much when I got married, this kind of life and emotional retention is suffocating.

"Once bitten, twice shy" can be used to describe a second married man. A failed marriage, no matter what causes the final divorce, cannot but leave a shadow in a man's heart.

With the division of property and real estate and the tearing of emotions after divorce, summing up lessons is actually the beginning of closing yourself.

Although the first marriage was clumsy, it was really unreserved, because no one expected to get off halfway one day.

This unreserved love ended in divorce, which was a great blow to everyone, and it was inevitable that everyone would want to protect themselves in the next marriage.

This is not a question of insincerity and carelessness, but a question of habitual self-protection. Therefore, if the first married woman has no reservations about the second married man remarrying, she will naturally feel a layer of estrangement in her life.

Third, the shadow of the predecessor.

@ Miss Zhu is 24 years old

I regret marrying a second-married man for the first time, and now I want a divorce, but I am afraid of becoming a second-married woman.

I was very happy when I lived with him, and I always felt that my love and enthusiasm could give him a brand-new start.

However, the years of living with his ex-wife left a clear mark on him. I obviously feel that he and his family unconsciously compare me with his ex-wife.

I am four years younger than his ex-wife, and many things are obviously inferior to his ex-wife, so I gradually found that he seems to miss his ex-wife.

He told me what to do and where to put things. I always thought it was his ex-wife's habit. I'm unhappy. He thinks I'm unreasonable.

In short, I live in the shadow of a woman who no longer exists, and my heart is very uncomfortable.

"Everyone you meet later is someone else's", which is cruel, but it is true.

But breaking up is a scratch and divorce is a disaster. Ex-girlfriends can't compete with ex-wives. The beauty of an ex-girlfriend lies in her imagination. The shadow of ex-wife is in every aspect of life.

Scientists have found that if two people live together for a long time, their looks will become more and more similar, not to mention the habits formed by years of life.

Moreover, marriage often involves two families, and the influence of the ex-wife also invisibly permeates the man's relatives and friends.

Therefore, it is more like a battle in which a first-time married woman marries a second-time married man, grabbing a man's inner war and grabbing a man's life, family and social battlefield.

Opponents of this movement have left and even dismissed it. I have to say, it's not fair to the first woman who gets married.

A first-time married woman should never find a second-time married man. 3 1. After marriage, they are no longer sincere.

Li Ru, 32, is what people call an "older woman". Junior high school education, successful career, demanding too much from the other half in the early years, leading to being single for too long.

When I really want to get married, I found that age has become one of the factors that many men are discouraged from. Depressed, she can only concentrate on her work and show people as a "strong woman".

However, just before her 33rd birthday, she met Pierre, who had been in France for many years and had the same successful career, in a company business.

The latter is a French-Chinese hybrid, tall and handsome, but Pierre, who is two years older than her, is divorced.

Li Ru, who has been waiting for many years, thinks this is her "the only thrill". With her shiny appearance and outstanding conditions, Li Ru didn't care about each other's marriage history at all, and they soon got in touch.

Pierre, who was deeply influenced by western thoughts, was more "open". After only a few months of dating, they soon "settled for life" and had a "flash marriage". This is also unexpected by many relatives and friends around.

But after the marriage, Li Ru found that Pierre, who was used to single life, didn't care about his feelings at all in many things, and even openly talked about some "private" topics with other women in the presence of Li Ru.

Coupled with the differences in the original cultural background and values, the two people who were originally "congenial" began to quarrel. After Pierre came home from the bar late at night, his mood reached an extreme.

After an argument, Pierre told Li Ru to "get out" or he would start work on her. Li Ru, who lived on the street late at night, was desperate and regretted it.

Men who get married for the second time often don't care about the feelings of the other half as much as they did when they got married for the first time, and even live very self. This situation is naturally not conducive to the development of feelings.

2. It will be more troublesome if you take care of children.

Many divorced men have children. Of course, some remarried women also have children. So no matter what the situation is, it will inevitably involve many problems.

Wang Miao, 38, has encountered such a situation: divorced, but had no children before; Li Aiguo, the remarried husband, is the same age as her, but she has a child.

Many people will consider this question before remarriage, that is, how to become a "stepmother". After all, this kind of experience is not a common situation for people, so it is often necessary to "cross the river by feeling the stones."

Wang Miao, who has become a "stepmother" in a fog, is naturally under great pressure. She will try to spend her spare time with her stepson when she needs to finish her work. However, because she has never been a mother, this experience is also very tortuous.

In fact, such difficulties are unnecessary for Wang Miao, but because of Li Aiguo's excellent quality and meticulous care for her, Wang Miao decided to remarry him and wanted to be a good mother.

But the ideal is good. Although she has no experience in raising children, she has tried her best, but young children are not "ungrateful" and their relationship has never been particularly harmonious.

Also because of the existence of children, the feelings of Li Aiguo and Wang Miao, the original "We are all unhappy-live far apart", have also been implicated in many ways.

After the children broke up with Wang Miao several times, Li Aiguo said that Wang Miao was too tired and he was very upset. Tangled and exhausted, Wang Miao, who had already experienced a failed marriage, didn't know what to do and fell into pain.

The behavior of the second married man is inconclusive.

Although the reason for divorce is not necessarily because of any mistakes made by men, many mistakes made in previous marriages will not be corrected after the second marriage.

Although Zhang Ting, who is 28 years old, is not very old, her marriage with her ex-husband was not smooth after her "flash marriage" three years ago. It is because they don't know each other before marriage and get married too soon, so life after marriage makes them feel uncomfortable.

After the divorce, she thought she was too young to seek happiness, but drawing lessons from her last marriage, she thought she should fully understand each other before making a marriage decision.

For more than two years after the divorce, Tamia Liu of the same company has been taking care of her, because Tamia Liu has also experienced a failed marriage, and she can also feel the feelings of the other party for her.

Zhang Ting only cares about whether the real situation of the other party is worth entrusting for life.

For more than two years, Zhang Ting gradually put down her doubts after many contacts. Tamia Liu is very kind to her, often taking care of her in every possible way, and even being tolerant of her occasional temper tantrums. So the two chose to come together after their marriage failed for more than three years.

However, after marriage, Zhang Ting, who thought he knew a lot, found that Tamia Liu was a different person, and he was no longer as patient and gentle with Zhang Ting as before. His words and deeds became rude, he often called names, and his behavior was low. Tamia Liu made no secret of this: he just wanted to be with her and satisfy his "conquest desire", so he concealed his true self before.

Although Zhang Ting is desperate, she has been married for the second time, and she has no choice but to fall in life.

Although these cases can only represent some individuals, we can learn some lessons from them: not all men who have been married twice are unreliable, but previous experiences may have shaped some bad habits.