You are right, but what if someone wants to find fault with you and let you take responsibility?

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More than twenty years ago, I worked as a worker in a collective enterprise.

The factory has more than 300 workers, mainly producing copper products. I am an operator in the workshop.

One day when I was on the night shift, an iron part weighing almost several kilograms fell from the machine and hurt my left thumb.

After resting at home for two days, I didn't feel very painful and went to work.

Another week passed, and when I slept at night, my ankle and thumb hurt so much that I couldn't sleep. So I went to the hospital for examination. After filming, my foot and thumb were slightly fractured, which turned out to be a recurrence of old injuries. No wonder it hurts so much.

With the doctor's certificate, I went to the factory to ask for leave from the monitor.

Who knows that the monitor denied that I was injured at work, saying that you have been working during this period, and rest should be regarded as sick leave.

I'm puzzled. Why isn't it a work-related injury? Obviously, I was injured at work, why should I be responsible for it myself?

I care about work-related injuries for a reason: the rest of work-related injuries does not deduct wages and bonuses, nor does it affect welfare and year-end awards; If sick leave is included, the loss will be great.

Because I don't know the labor security law, I can't compete with the monitor for a while, but in my heart, I know I'm right.

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So I found the labor and personnel section of the factory, which reflected my demands.

The personnel chief also said it was not a work-related injury, so I asked him what the basis was. He couldn't say clearly at the moment, but said in an official tone that he should call in sick.

I refused to accept it, so I asked to check the labor protection law and how to explain and stipulate my situation in detail.

The section chief had no choice but to look through the books. As expected, the Labor Protection Law stipulates that the recurrence of old injuries is regarded as work-related injuries.

Because the section chief was unfamiliar with the business, he made a mistake in judgment. He lost face for a while, and then said angrily, this time I will give you face and let you turn over the books. It won't happen again If more than 300 employees in the factory are like you, what can I do?

I was very angry, even though my business was not good, I found an unreasonable excuse to criticize me.

I really want to say: isn't this your job responsibility? But when the words came to my lips, I thought that he was also a leader, and I swallowed back.

03

Holding a work-related injury note, I found the monitor and gave it to him.

The monitor looks unhappy, but he is helpless.

I know the reason why he is unhappy, because at that time my work performance was really poor in the team. First, often ask for personal leave and sick leave. There are four people in a class, one is missing, and the other three increase the work pressure; Second, my strength is small, and my work is not active, which often drags down the production progress; Third, I don't get along with the other three people, and they don't want to help me.

But I don't care about their attitude at all. What I'm thinking is, I don't live on you, why should I curry favor with you!

But then the monitor's words completely angered me. He said, let's do it this time If the same thing happens next time, I won't agree to treat it as a work-related injury.

Obviously, he targeted me on purpose.

In that case, I decided to take revenge once.

04

I found the chief of labor and personnel again and reflected the problems in our team to him.

I report the monitor for favoritism: there is an employee in the class who is absent from work for two or three days every month, but on the attendance sheet, he is in Man Qin every month.

This time, the section chief became very serious. This is socialist wool, which is quite serious in nature.

The next day, I was informed by the factory that the factory department, workshop and team held a joint investigation meeting on the problems I reflected.

At the meeting that afternoon, both the monitor and his employees denied cheating on attendance, while another colleague who knew about it refused to testify on the grounds that he could not remember clearly.

My accusation became an orphan. In that era when there was neither monitoring nor mobile phones, coupled with the nature of collective enterprises, this incident finally became "everything happened for a reason, and there was no evidence."

I'm not wrong, but I lost!

Fortunately, the factory didn't criticize and punish me for this.

05

At the end of the meeting, the party branch secretary left me alone to talk.

We were awkwardly silent for five minutes.

In fact, everyone in the factory knows about cheating on attendance, but everyone is unwilling to poke this hornet's nest. After all, this is also a common phenomenon, involving the vital interests of many people. And the secretary, nature also play dumb with understand.

He just wanted to give me a comfort and find an excuse to interpret the result of the incident.

And my silence, I really can't figure out why I lost. Was all my previous education wrong? Are all the rules and regulations in the factory decorations? Is it an era of "guarding the people's mouth is not as good as guarding Sichuan"? ……

The first speaker is the secretary with a strong Shandong accent. First of all, he is sure that my report is correct, but he is not careful enough when collecting evidence. He also said that the factory will also take this incident to promote stricter attendance management system measures as soon as possible.

He also talked about his own views from the overall management, saying that the monitor and employees are the backbone of the work, and we can't be qualitative without finding conclusive evidence.

I know what he said is right. I was a little hasty. However, I didn't want to report their cheating before! There is no such thing as collecting and sorting out evidence. If the monitor hadn't bullied me, what happened today would never have happened.

Another thought in my heart is that I am just an ordinary worker, and I don't want to fight for anything anymore, although I am very angry.

So I told my secretary it was over.

06

The secretary also talked to me about the importance of teamwork and the benefits of unity and friendship to work and health. He wants to cheer me up and see a new me in the near future.

I was really absent-minded, so I finally said, I will do my job well.

At this point, the talks have basically ended, and it is only a big deal for the leaders to say a few words of encouragement.

But what he said next really surprised me. He said:

It would be great to do two-thirds of the work well. But you have to think clearly, two-thirds of the work is very stressful.

I looked up at my secretary with a puzzled face.

He went on to say: there is a difference between active work and passive work. For example, ten minutes before your class starts work, if you prepare the tools and materials needed for work in advance to make everyone feel happy, then even if you only did two-thirds of the workload during the eight-hour work period, in the eyes of others, you have done three-fifths or even thirty-seven today. If you take the initiative to tidy up your tools and clean up after the work is completed, you can bring yourself a good positive image. If you persist for a long time, it is not out of reach.

On the other hand, if you don't get to work on time before going to work every day and ask the monitor to tell you to start work, you will be depressed. Then, in the production process, even if you work harder than others and sweat three-fifths of the time, in the eyes of others, you have only completed three or less tasks.

Not the kui is a southern cadre, not the kui is the army specialized in youth political and ideological work, I deeply, deeply moved by him. ...

07

Nearly thirty years have passed, but I always remember the words of the old secretary.

I don't want to say how perfect my in-depth thinking and analysis of him was, but I actually benefited a lot from other things later.

I often tell my friends, colleagues, relatives, lovers and children what the old secretary said.

Everyone who hears this will have some meditation.

My feeling is: in one's life, it is inevitable that sometimes he is right and is mistaken for wrong by others. Among them, it is also difficult to avoid artificially imposed mistakes.

This is the coexistence of grievances and pains, which brings all people the torture in the process of life growth.

Don't say that we are just an ordinary person. Even a respected person or a person who shows respect for power can't avoid the sacrifice under the background of the times.

There are many such examples in the long river of history.

Being wronged, as long as it does not involve personal freedom and loss of life, does not mean that it must be a bad thing.

The arrival of grievances may be a test of our own growth again and again, or it may give us opportunities to gain insight into the world again and again.

When we were young, we didn't have the ability and qualification to compete. Therefore, the replacement of the right by the wrong is also the law in the operation of the survival of the fittest mechanism.

The only way to avoid the occurrence and recurrence of such incidents is to make yourself strong. Only when you are strong can you be bossy and condescending.

What position a person is in determines his vision and mind. Learning and re-learning is the best and last way to narrow the distance from low to high.

All grievances are in vain, because you are young and speak softly.

If you have self-knowledge, the best self-protection measure is to be immune to it, instead of thinking about it in vain and helping the world at the same time.

My last feeling is that the size between honor and disgrace is the most difficult thing to handle properly in anyone's life.

Dear friends, thank you!

This is a very good question, which I deeply feel and suffer from.

I came to Shanghai from other places. I usually like to play table tennis to exercise, and I am very indifferent to winning or losing. But I am surrounded by Shanghainese. Most of them are not as good as me, and I don't care who wins or loses. However, as long as someone loses to me, they accuse me of not throwing the ball high enough or serving badly. Over time, it becomes a habit. I have also communicated with them many times, and I promise to throw the ball as high as possible. They also made it clear that they no longer blame me, but they are still used to blaming others when the score is behind. If I argue with him, someone always advises me: forget it, don't dispute with him. The fairest sentence is: everyone knows that he is such a person. But no one will try to persuade the other party not to do this, which is not good. After a long time, I will be accused of winning because I care too much about unity. I often reflect, why is this? My own reason is that I am too strong to give in to unreasonable reasons and will not be flexible. Instead, I face a superficial smile and joy, and I do things in a subtle way. I am kind to my face, but I just can't tolerate others being better than him (my education and salary are higher than most of them, and my children are better than most of them). )。

Whether it is a unit or a region, if * * * does not distinguish between right and wrong, it seems to be standing at the moral high ground, but in fact it is a small group, and this unit or place will inevitably suffer indignities and act indiscriminately.

There is nothing wrong with you, but someone wants to find fault with you and make you take responsibility. What should I do?

You are not wrong, this is your cognition. But some people just want to believe that you are wrong, which is the cognition of others. The understanding of the two people is not unified. If two people don't intersect, there is no problem. Now, you two have an intersection, and the other party makes you take responsibility. This shows that the other party is stronger than you, and it is inevitable that there will be resentment. It is also wise to find a way.

I am not wrong, but my "determination" is wrong. Only my superiors, elders or other qualified institutions can make me "take responsibility". Then, I can only accept it first.

First of all, not accepting it means "great transgression" and another "mistake".

Secondly, what I should do is to find evidence to prove that it is not my fault.

Third, wait for the opportunity to tell the truth. Or appeal to the elders, superiors or elders of the upper institutions. Let the "evidence" I collected really prove my innocence.

Fourth, if there is no way to "whitewash" yourself, you can only continue to be wronged.

Fifth, what should be done, continue to do it, do it better, let time and facts prove that it is not my fault.

You are right, but many people just want to think you are wrong and take responsibility. The reasons are different, but you are definitely in a weak position. Although reasonable, it is difficult to stretch. Even if you have to be right again, you will be opposed. This is actually bullying the weak, oppressing people with power, and causing your anger. The only way to deal with this situation is to play dumb and turn a deaf ear. What has happened can only be tolerated, and we should learn from it. It won't happen again

No clouds, no rain, no smoke. When others decide that you are wrong and ask you to take responsibility, you should first keep calm, think about your shortcomings and deficiencies, and make mistakes unconsciously. If there is a mistake, you should bear the corresponding responsibility. If you have no mistakes at all, you must defend your dignity, never give in and be pushed around.

I can't do it when I see your problem. There's an old saying in China, those who don't come to the good will not come. Since he dares to turn black and white and gossip, he is powerful, and it's no use if you can't bear it. Because there is no reasonable place. So I have to put up with it. Unless you have the ability to beat him.

The commissary was not enough, so he killed the person in charge of the commissary. What's wrong with the canteen? Han Xin killed the head. Is Han Xin wrong? Scold the cook when you are full. Is there anything wrong with the kitchen? What's wrong with the hundreds of thousands of civilians who died with Saddam? A general will dry up thousands of bones. Are there any problems with these thousands of bones? Is it wrong for people to suffer when they suffer? There will be victims in any era. Is this victim wrong? Eat small losses, avoid big losses, avoid short fortune telling, and don't ask right or wrong.

If there is nothing wrong, then ignore it. There will always be some people in the world who can pretend to blame this and that every day. If there is no reason to admit it, just tell the truth and fight back strongly. If you admit it this time, you are wrong, and it will happen again. If the leader wants you to admit it, tell him the truth and tell him that you are right, but sometimes you have to take the blame, but you have to calculate the gains and losses. If it's irrelevant, call it a dog. Each of us is an independent individual, so there is no need to care about what others say and live for ourselves.

Stick to your principles. What is precious to people is your spirit. You have your own thoughts, your own consciousness. You can express your ideas and defend your principles. Because you are right, but there are always some people in your life, which is normal. You must cross the past to achieve personal growth. In this process, you will take responsibility, which is the price of growth. But it doesn't mean that you have to bear unwarranted responsibilities.

When I was young, I didn't have enough wings. It's normal to suffer some losses. But you should always adhere to the principle of resistance. There is nothing wrong with the heart, but righteousness is natural. Admittedly, people who talk big will be crazy for a while at some stage, but you can follow your own principles. This experience will shape your personal charm, affect your life, or include people around you. So I think we should stick to the principle of self and not be changed by outsiders.