Carefully cultivate her daughter's life, even in the calculation of marriage, what kind of mother does Lu Xiaoman have?

She was proficient in painting and was hired as a professional painter by China Painting Academy in her later years. She is good at drama, especially Kunqu opera. She is quite accomplished in literature, and her literary works are still good. She is Lu Xiaoman, a talented woman of the Republic of China.

Modern painter Liu Haisu once commented on her: "Poetry is fresh and pretty; The article contains grace; " Painting is quite common in Song Yuan's family. It is' a generation of talented women, a beauty'. "

However, it is such a "generation of talented women, beautiful women on earth" that amazes the world. However, her life is ups and downs, and she has experienced three failed emotional lives in succession, which has made her life go through hardships. It can be described as "half-life madness, half-life misery", and the story of her life twists and turns is very sad.

What caused Lu Xiaoman's bizarre and tragic life story? What is the reason behind this? Maybe we can find some answers from her family and mother.

The Lushi family is a prominent family in past dynasties. In the Lushi Ancestral Hall of Zhangshu, Changzhou, Lu Xiaoman's photos, paintings, poems, letters, newspaper reports, genealogical data and other materials are displayed.

Lu Xiaoman 1903 was born in Shanghai, and came from an official family. Her grandfather, Lu Rongchang, was a court doctor in the late Qing Dynasty. During Xianfeng period of Qing Dynasty, in order to avoid the Taiping Heavenly Kingdom War, the whole family moved to Shanghai to settle down.

Lu Rongchang lived a noble life and enjoyed a high reputation. 19 16, President Li of the Republic of China wrote an inscription for Lu Rongchang: "Hunger and Drowning". His wife, Liu, also got the plaque of "Ben Gu".

Lu Xiaoman's father, Lu Ding, was a juren in the late Qing Dynasty and graduated from Waseda University. He is also a proud disciple of Japanese famous Ito Bowen. When studying in Japan, Lu Ding joined the Alliance of Dr. Sun Yat-sen. ..

After returning to China, he worked in the Kuomintang government, and successively held important positions such as director, counselor, and director of taxation. He once served as director of the Ministry of Finance and director of taxation. Later, he also founded the savings bank of China. Therefore, the Lujia family was rich and was a prominent family at that time.

Lu Xiaoman was born in such a family. Although she ranked fifth, eight other brothers and sisters in her family died one after another, leaving only her only daughter, Lu Xiaoman. Naturally, she is loved by thousands of people, and her arrogance and willfulness inevitably grow on her.

Lu Xiaoman's father was born in a wealthy family, and his mother was not an idle generation.

In fact, Lu Xiaoman's more temperament and talents were inherited and cultivated by her mother Wu Manhua. We can also see some clues from the name "villain".

Wu Manhua, the eldest daughter of Stuart Zhongcheng Emperor Wu Qihe (Deputy Prime Minister) at No.3 Baima, Changzhou, and her grandfather Wu Guangyue used to be the governor of Jiangxi. Wu Manhua, who grew up in such a family, is definitely a lady in the history of the Republic of China. She has received a good education since childhood and is versatile. She is good at poetry and literature, especially meticulous painting. Lu Xiaoman likes painting since he was a child, and his painting skills are profound. In fact, she is mainly influenced by her mother.

Wu Manhua is a lady and has great expectations for her only daughter, Lu Xiaoman. She has been training Lu Xiaoman according to the standard of "celebrity". In her heart, there is a strong belief that Xiaoman must be cultivated into a "noble daughter".

Facts have proved that at this point, Wu Manhua's painstaking efforts were not in vain, and she was quite successful.

Lu Xiaoman spent his childhood in Shanghai. She received a good education in primary school, which is a nun-style and standardized education. Besides, she was endowed with wisdom and talent. At a young age, she can play chess, piano, calligraphy, painting and needlework. At the age of nine, his family moved to Beijing, and Xiaoman also went to Beijing with his parents and transferred to a school in Beijing, Sacred Heart School, which was a famous aristocratic school at that time. At that time, Lu Xiaoman's French was already very good, and her family specially invited a teacher to teach her English, so Lu Xiaoman later became a strange girl who could speak many languages.

Under the careful training of Wu Manhua and Lu Ding, Lu Xiaoman is proficient in many languages, versatile and good at painting and dancing. /kloc-when she was 0/7 years old, she had the opportunity to enter the Ministry of Foreign Affairs to do some auxiliary work after being recommended by the school. /kloc-at the age of 0/9, she has become famous in the diplomatic circles in Beijing.

Therefore, it is not an exaggeration for people to call her "a generation of talented women and a generation of beautiful women".

Flowers, applause, dance floor, wine, money ... These vain things can be said to have grown up with Lu Xiaoman. Growing up, she never had any constraints or troubles in money consumption, especially advocating a free, romantic and unrestrained life. And such unrestrained and self-centered personality and values directly fixed the "bitter tone" of Lu Xiaoman's life.

Lu Xiaoman's first marriage was entirely arranged by his parents. At the request of her parents, she married Wang Geng, a young officer who graduated from West Point Military Academy. This young man can be described as "young, handsome and promising". He is the son-in-law sought after by many people, and too many prominent families want to marry his daughter. Mr. and Mrs. Lu Ding are very satisfied with this son-in-law.

Unfortunately, the best son-in-law in people's eyes is not Lu Xiaoman's "dish" at all. After all, they are different people. He has no romantic mood at all. He only knows how to pursue success in his career, but he doesn't know how to make his wife happy. He is "out of place" and "out of place" with Lu Xiaoman who likes to pursue passionate life, enjoy life and be free and romantic. So, it didn't take long for their relationship to break down. Soon, this marriage ended with Lu Xiaoman's empathy.

In pursuit of love, Lu Xiaoman resolutely married a married man, Xu Zhimo, under great pressure and criticism. However, fate made man, the ideal lover in her dream, but it didn't bring her the expected happiness.

After marrying Xu Zhimo, she still lives a luxurious and laissez-faire life, obsessed with the colorful social stage and frequenting various communication places.

There is also a very important tragic origin, that is, she was pregnant with Wang Geng's child before divorcing Wang Geng. In order to get a smooth divorce, she had a forced abortion, but it laid a curse for her later life. The operation was unsuccessful and her health was not as good as before, which not only made her lose her fertility, but also required long-term medication.

After marriage, in order to meet Lu Xiaoman's still huge expenses, Xu Zhimo has to run around and give lectures every day to make money, but Lu Xiaoman's expenses are too high, and the family still cannot make ends meet. Xu zhimo will also complain. He once wrote in a letter to Lu Xiaoman: "The master is an ox, and his only use is to work to make money."

It is said that JOE and Lu Jia are both big families, and they can get financial support from their families after marriage. However, Wang Geng is a good son-in-law chosen by Lu Ding and his wife. They have been unable to agree with their daughter's infidelity and are deeply ashamed. They will not give Lu Xiaoman any economic support. Later, Lu Ding and his wife declared bankruptcy. At this point, Mr. and Mrs. Lu Ding, who have fallen into poverty, have no ability to support Lu Xiaoman. Xu Zhimo's family only recognized Zhang Youyi (Xu Zhimo's ex-wife) as their daughter-in-law and refused to provide financial assistance to Xu and Lu.

Just married for five years, Xu Zhimo died unexpectedly. Lu Xiaoman was entangled with Weng Wurui, whose family was average and never divorced, and lived a controversial cohabitation life for 30 years. Later, due to unbearable mental and physical stress, Lu Xiaoman had to take opium for a long time to relieve his pain.

After Weng's death, Lu Xiaoman, who had been unemployed for many years and was penniless, had to pick up a paintbrush again to make a living, but his life was still poor. When he died, there was not even a good new dress at home, or a friend of Weng Wurui sent a new dress to bury Lu Xiaoman.

Lu Xiaoman, a talented woman, grew up with a "golden key" and left in such a miserable situation. It can really be said that "people are not as good as the sky."

It can be said that for the sake of her daughter Lu Xiaoman's happy life, her mother Wu Manhua has been carefully planning for her all her life.

Under the arrangement of Wu Manhua and her husband, 19-year-old Lu Xiaoman married Wang Geng, a famous Gao Fushuai officer at that time. If the plot can go according to the original idea, Lu Xiaoman's life is destined to be as "rich and stable" as her mother. However, after Xu Zhimo appeared, everything arranged by Wu Manhua and Lu Xiaoman was completely disrupted. ......

Wu Manhua couldn't accept her daughter's betrayal of marriage, and the strong opposition made Lu Xiaoman very upset. Lu Xiaoman had to ask the great writer Hu Shi to be a "middleman" to persuade Wu Manhua to accept Xu Zhimo as his new son-in-law.

Wu Manhua finally agreed to get married, but her mother made two meaningful demands: first, she wanted to invite Liang Qichao to get married; Second, the wedding will be held in Beijing Beihai Park.

Why did Wu Manhua put forward these two requirements? On the surface, it seems that it is only a question of the witness and the wedding venue, and it is not very important. However, careful scrutiny will reveal that these two requirements are far from simple! It is enough to see Wu Manhua's good intentions and wisdom.

Let's look at the first requirement. Liang Qichao is the teacher of Wang Geng and Xu Zhimo. If he agrees to get married, it means "he agrees to this marriage" Since even people with status and status like Liang Qichao agree with this marriage, it will block the world's mouth, and others naturally have no right to accuse their daughters.

Looking at the second requirement, Wu Manhua chose Beihai Park because it is a royal garden. Actually let Xu Zhimo give her daughter the biggest wedding and give her the biggest promise. Wu Manhua wants to give Xu Zhimo a test in this way and win the necessary "worth" for her daughter.

Therefore, Wu Manhua's two demands show her wisdom and scheming, which is not only her love for her daughter, but also a kind of scheming. 19261010.3, Lu Xiaoman and Xu Zhimo held a grand wedding in Beihai Park, and Liang Qichao was their witness.

Lu Xiaoman's first marriage was carefully planned by Wu Manhua. In her daughter's second marriage, she continued to be a director and made another effort to win happiness for her daughter.

However, people are not as good as heaven. In the fifth year after their marriage, Xu Zhimo died in an accidental plane crash in order to listen to his ex-girlfriend Lin's speech. Lu Xiaoman didn't get that happiness after all ... So, Lu Xiaoman's life began to fall into a trough at the age of 28 and never recovered. During her 30-year cohabitation with Weng, she still suffered from criticism and pain. At this time, Wu Manhua has no strength to take care of her daughter.

In order to give her daughter Lu Xiaoman a happy life, Wu Man Huawei has carefully planned and calculated her life. However, "people are not as good as heaven", after all, she failed to let her talented daughter enjoy a happy and complete life. The bitterness and bitterness are thought-provoking.

Author: Linglong