Can men and women get married if they disagree?

Xiao Chen, a Guangdong girl, wrote to tell her story. Xiao Chen is 3 1 year old. She had a fruitless love affair a few years ago, but never fell in love for the next four years. Until last year, she met a young man who made her feel reliable. He is one year younger than Chen Xiao, but he is excellent in all aspects and much more mature than Xiao Chen. After getting along for several months, I felt that they all hit it off, so I told my parents about my love, and Xiao Chen followed her boyfriend back to his hometown in Guangxi. The young man's mother was satisfied with Xiao Chen's Hundred and greeted him with a smile, which strengthened Xiao Chen's determination. After the Spring Festival, Chen Xiao and her boyfriend began to discuss marriage, and both parents were very happy to learn the news. Xiao Chen, who is all ready, is full of joy, just waiting for the wedding in May this year 1 day, and will be busy taking wedding photos for more than a month. However, a few days ago, Chen Xiao suddenly suffered an unexpected blow: her fiance's mother changed her smiling attitude and refused to agree to Chen Xiao's marriage with her son, without giving an explanation. No matter how Xiao Chen and her boyfriend ask questions, the future mother-in-law will not give reasons and will not be moved. In short, she will insist that Castle Peak will resolutely oppose their marriage and threaten to die. Chen Xiao and her boyfriend have nothing to do, so they try to find out why the old man suddenly changed his mind. After asking questions, Xiao Chen finally knew what had happened. It turned out that the future mother-in-law knew that they were getting married, so she quickly found a fortune teller to calculate the eight characters for them. As a result, the fortune teller asserted that two people's personalities did not match, and Xiao Chen would be a husband. The old man who loves his son stood up against the marriage. Xiao Chen knows the reason, but she certainly doesn't want to give up her hard-won love. She has a really good relationship with her boyfriend. The boyfriend begged his mother, but the old lady refused to live or die. Chen Xiao reasoned with the old lady, who changed her previous attitude. Not only did she refuse to listen to Chen Xiao, but she also swore that Chen Xiao would kill her son. Make trouble, and the originally harmonious relationship becomes cold and awkward. Chen Xiao was so angry that he wanted to call names, but he couldn't make the relationship more rigid, so he had to endure it in another way. The day before yesterday, Chen Xiao's boyfriend went back to his hometown and begged his mother to agree to his marriage. He even knelt down and begged his mother. The old lady still insisted on disagreeing. She would rather her son be single all his life than agree to marry Chen Xiao. Xiao Chen, who had nothing to do, cried all night. Yesterday morning, he received a phone call from his boyfriend. Last night, he went out to drink alone and was hospitalized after getting drunk. Xiao Chen hurried to her boyfriend's hometown, but she didn't even see his face. The old lady refused to let her see her son and took his cell phone. When her boyfriend was injured and hospitalized, Xiao Chen was so anxious that she just cried, but the old lady was even more determined-her son came back from Guangdong to drink and fell, which was the best evidence of Xiao Chen. The old lady thinks that her son must never be with Chen Xiao. She suffered so much before she got married. If she marries Chen Xiao, she will definitely go to come to a bad end. Chen Xiao's entreaties failed to win the understanding of her future mother-in-law. Chen Xiao offered not to get married as long as she could meet her boyfriend. The old lady not only disagreed, but also moved in two eldest sons and daughters-in-law. Five people scolded Chen Xiao together and kicked her out. Desperate and heartbroken, Xiao Chen wrote me an email overnight, hoping I could tell her what to do. The first thing I want to tell you is that whether you can marry your boyfriend or not, your future mother-in-law will definitely do something wrong today. Therefore, if Chen Xiao and her boyfriend really love each other, they must not cancel their engagement because of the so-called eight characters. In love, we should stick to what we should stick to, because happiness is hard to come by and will not come on our own initiative. Happiness is usually won. Many people in China believe in eight characters, but it is definitely unscientific. The horoscope is a method of calculating fortune according to the date of birth, so it is also called batch horoscope, which is actually the usual fortune telling. We all know that fortune telling is not credible. It is absurd to speculate on fate only by the date of birth. Chen Xiao and her boyfriend should not give up easily because of the fortune teller's nonsense. Even if you believe in Yin and Yang, you believe that there is no accident, only necessity, and any tiny antecedent will bring inevitable consequences. A small encounter will definitely affect the future fate, and the conclusion of fate will not disappear. Therefore, the ancients regarded prayer as the most important thing, and the purpose of prayer was to bring happiness to life, not to stifle happiness. Therefore, even if Chen Xiao's future mother-in-law believes this character, she must understand that her opposition today is likely to lay a great hidden danger for the future. There is a view in "The Master of Yin and Yang" that is very close to Murphy's theorem in the west, saying that what can go wrong will always go wrong. If you are worried that something will happen, it will happen. If Chen Xiao's future mother-in-law believes in the yin and yang gossip of fortune tellers, then she should also believe that what she is worried about today will happen tomorrow. Since it is worry and necessity, why are you firmly opposed to your son's marriage? Of course, it may be very difficult for an old fogey to completely give up what he has decided. I believe that Chen Xiao and her boyfriend have done their best. Faced with such obstacles, they must be physically and mentally exhausted. Kind Chen Xiao thought of giving up marriage, and filial boyfriend would rather get drunk than disobey his mother. Two such good children really love each other, but it is worrying that they should be separated alive by the nonsense of the fortune teller. I think even if Chen Xiao and her boyfriend are determined now, it may not help, because they need to face the old lady and two sons and daughters-in-law. The odds of winning the two-to-five competition are too small, which will probably intensify contradictions and deepen the prejudice of the elderly against Chen Xiao, so that even if they get married in the future, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will be difficult to get along with. The old man is firmly opposed to this kind of marriage, and his attitude towards Xiao Chen has changed greatly. He likes this kind of marriage very much. In the final analysis, it is because he mistakenly believed the fortune teller's words that his beloved son is so eager, not prejudiced against Xiao Chen personally. The answer is yes, as long as two people really love each other, the eight characters are not an obstacle at all. Since Chen Xiao loves her boyfriend and her mother loves her son, the starting point is the same. I believe we can find a solution, but not necessarily soon. Therefore, Chen Xiao and her boyfriend may wish to temporarily cancel the wedding date and slowly find ways to change the status quo. They live in Guangdong, and their boyfriend's mother is far away in Guangxi. They don't usually have much in common. I believe that time can change many things. In my mind, the hero's mother is bent on finding a beautiful girl with good conditions for her son. Finally, she completely changed her attitude, and the requirement for her son's object eventually became as long as she could have children. The turning point is sometimes waiting and sometimes creating. Xiao Chen can watch the last episode of Good Will Hunting, which may be enlightening.