My boyfriend told me not to indulge him too much, so he would be under pressure?

In other words, he may take your meekness as having no opinion. Don't blame me for being so blunt, because I did have a similar experience. After two years of contact, there have been almost no quarrels and disputes. I am the kind of person with a good temper. I don't care as long as it's not a matter of principle. On the other hand, I should be able to say that I am accommodating, or that I have no opinion. Finally, he asked to break up, probably because he felt that being with me was not exciting, fresh or dull.

Talk to him. Tell him that you are not accommodating him, but that you are indifferent. If he feels stressed, ask him what he can do to avoid feeling stressed, and then make some appropriate changes within a reasonable range.

Or, paying more attention to yourself is really suppressing your thoughts and feelings? If there is, you must say it, and don't have the idea that "others are happy, but you don't care". Maybe I was used to depression, so I didn't notice it. It was after that that I gradually learned more about myself!