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What enlightenment can the little blind man's tortuous life bring us in the sea of life?

The ancient Greek philosopher Zhi Nuo once said, "Destiny is an endless causal chain, so everything depends on it, and the development of the world itself follows this principle and causal relationship."

If we regard life as a cause and effect, we may say that a person's childhood experience will shape his character, and his character will affect his later experience.

In Mai Jia's new work "Sea of Life", the life track of the role of the little blind man skillfully fits this causal chain. The poor family of the little blind man gave him a distorted personality. And the distortion of his character once again brought a painful tragedy to his life.

The career planted in the previous life stage will bring the fruits of the next life stage. Knowing what causes and what fruits will be planted can lead to a better and smoother life.

The tragic life of the little blind man can be traced back to his father's derailed marriage. In fact, "Little Blind Man" is just a nickname. He is not really blind, but his father, the blind man, is really blind.

In order to marry a beautiful daughter-in-law, the blind boy made a move and gave the prince three copies for a civet cat. On blind date, the younger brother of the blind guy went to see the woman, entered the bridal chamber, and the younger brother appeared first. When the bridal chamber lights up at night, my brother will take the opportunity to exchange in the dark. Because the two brothers look alike and sound alike, the bride didn't notice anything wrong when she was in the bridal chamber.

The next morning, in order to get away with it, the blind boy pretended to cry and lie about his eyes, and suddenly became blind after spending the night in the bridal chamber.

At this time, the bride who was still in the dark not only cried with her husband in her arms, but also sought medical treatment for her husband. However, when the bride saw the blind brother, she finally understood the cruel truth. This poor woman, in order to revenge and humiliate her husband, did not hesitate to have an affair with other men from other places.

One night, the bride escaped from her cheating home and disappeared without a trace. Until a dark night, she left the little blind man who was still in infancy at the door of the blind man's house, and the little blind man became a child without a mother.

In fact, the ending of this marriage was doomed as early as the moment when the blind guy decided to cheat.

Lies are like driftwood, which will be washed ashore sooner or later, and the bride will see through the truth sooner or later. The lucky blind guy thinks that even if his wife knows the truth of being cheated after cooking raw rice, she will not leave this home. But what he didn't expect was that cheating in marriage would bring a devastating blow. When the trust between husband and wife is broken, this marriage is doomed to be short.

In real life, there are countless similar cases. It is for this reason that Zhang Henshui, a writer of the Republic of China, failed in his first marriage.

At the beginning, in order to get rid of Zhang Henshui and Xu, the Xu family also used the switch plan. The "Xu" Zhang Henshui saw before marriage was beautiful and dignified, but when he lifted the bride's red veil, he saw an ugly face. After the marriage, Zhang Henshui was still worried about the original scam. Even though his wife Xu is gentle and virtuous, Zhang Henshui can't devote herself to this marriage.

It can be seen that any principled deception cannot be tolerated in marriage. Only when husband and wife are honest with each other can they spend the rest of their lives together.

So, what should couples do to be honest with each other?

The reason why the blind guy uses such a bad means of cheating on marriage is because he is worried about his disability and feels inferior to his blindness.

Many times, we don't want to be honest with our partners about our shortcomings because we can't accept them frankly.

However, everyone has defects, even severe disabilities are just a limitation. When we let go of our obsession with defects, we can show our true selves more openly and find true love.

Writer Shi Tiesheng and his wife Chen Ximi are both disabled. Together, they only have a pair of good legs, but they know how to embrace their own shortcomings, wholeheartedly tolerate each other's shortcomings, and start a happy marriage through mutual support.

In marriage, there is room for the defects of husband and wife, but there is no room for principled deception.

At that time, the mother of the little blind man could not contact the groom too much before marriage, which led to this absurd marriage.

However, there are still many people who have entered the marriage hall without knowing each other. And such marriages, in the end, mostly ended in a hurry.

Among them, some deliberately cheat marriage, some unintentionally cheat marriage, but the huge contrast before and after marriage makes the other party feel cheated.

Cao Yu said: "If you know his appearance, you can not doubt him;" You can know if you don't doubt each other. "

Give yourself more time, get to know each other and trust each other, so that you won't be deceived by lies, and you won't always suspect that the other party has deceived you. Only when you firmly believe that the other person is an honest person can you be firmly together.

"The little blind man grew up drinking goat's milk, but he became a wolf in sheep's clothing."

Peeping into girls' toilets, swearing at female teachers, doing petty theft at school, he did all shameless things.

Once, the little blind man was severely scolded by the PE teacher for stealing the shot put. Not content, the little blind man drowned the teacher's two old hens in the cesspit the next day. When the teacher's grandmother saw her dead old hen, she couldn't help squatting beside the cesspit and crying all the time, while he secretly hid and smiled proudly.

When the little blind man has a little power, in order to find out the secret in the colonel's crotch, he will expose the colonel's privacy by hook or by crook and release his malice to the colonel endlessly. When he was punished by the colonel, he maliciously fabricated the ambiguous relationship between the colonel and my father in order to vent his anger. He used rumors to make "an old man defeated by strength, an inexperienced teenager, bear the most shameful shame and the heaviest weight in the world."

Many years later, the little blind man received the kindness and care of "me" during the three meals, but he still didn't stop being malicious to "me" and his father, and he never felt guilty about his past actions.

The little blind man adheres to the principle of self-centeredness all his life. He shows a ruthless side to everyone except himself. In order to get the pleasure of doing evil, he will hurt others for no reason, and he will never have feelings and pity for others.

And his egoism actually comes from the experience of being abandoned by his mother in his childhood.

Adler said in Inferiority and Transcendence: "For a baby, the mother is the most important, and he has a serious sense of dependence on her. This background gave birth to his yearning for cooperation ... Mother is like a bridge, which plays a connecting role between babies and social life. "

And a person who has completely lost his mother since childhood, it is difficult to learn how to cooperate with others, how to get in touch with society and how to have feelings for others.

The psychologist found a two and a half-year-old girl.

The little girl Mary had to stay in the hospital for a whole year because of illness. The hospital provided good care for Mary, but in order to ensure the sterile environment of the ward, the hospital did not allow the girl's mother to accompany her.

After a year of treatment, although Mary recovered physically, she was psychologically traumatized. She lost her emotional needs, no longer needed her mother's company, and refused to accept intimate relationships.

When Mary grows up slowly, it is still difficult for her to establish close relationships with others, and she is self-centered in everything and completely ignores the needs of others.

When she was young, the trauma of being separated from her mother had an indelible impact on her life.

It can be seen that if the mother is absent when the child is young, it may make the child become self-centered, ignore the feelings of others, and it is difficult to establish real contact with society and others.

So, what should parents do to make their children have a healthy psychology?

In the infancy of children, mothers should accompany their children wholeheartedly and give them unconditional love. The so-called unconditional love is the love that children can get without effort. When the child is hungry, feed the child carefully. When the child is crying, hug the child immediately. Smile at your child when he looks at you.

In addition, Adler also believes that only when a mother is really interested in her child can she give her child the most considerate care when she gestures.

If the mother is not interested in her child, she may neglect the child's nutrition and sleep when taking care of her child, but may make her child dislike intimacy.

In addition to being genuinely interested in children, mothers should also guide children to become interested in the outside world. In various situations in life, flexibly guide children to cooperate with others. For example, let children exchange toys with other children to play and carry toys together.

An experiment shows that a mother's satisfaction with her marriage will affect her sensitivity in caring for her baby, which in turn will affect the baby's physical and mental health.

Simply put, a mother with a happier marriage can cultivate a mentally healthy child.

When the mother feels enough love in the marriage relationship, she will be more willing to care for the crystallization of their love, become interested in taking care of the children, and strive to make the children feel safe enough and have a healthier psychology.

Therefore, the husband should give his wife enough care and love, share the hard work with his wife, and participate in all aspects of feeding, changing diapers and putting the children to bed.

A happy mother can sow a healthy seed in her child's heart.

The little blind man tried his best to satisfy his own selfish desires.

From peeking at the colonel's toilet to strategically arranging the colonel to take a bath. After the little blind man succeeded, he saw the naked colonel and saw what the colonel did not lack. It turned out that the colonel was really not the "eunuch" that everyone said, and the morbid curiosity of the little blind man was satisfied. However, at the same time, he discovered another secret of the colonel-he carved a line on the colonel's stomach. As for the word, the little blind man didn't see it clearly.

Although the little blind man knew it was a secret that the colonel didn't want to reveal, it was not a reason to stop him from discovering it. For a little blind man who does whatever it takes to achieve his selfish desires, he will only consider his own needs and will not care about the feelings of others.

So, the unwilling little blind man waited until the colonel fell asleep and took a flashlight to pull the colonel's underpants. Unexpectedly, the colonel suddenly woke up. He saw the situation in front of him and thought that the little blind man saw his own words.

But that line is the colonel's humiliating history, the past he doesn't want to face, and the unspeakable wound. When he saw the little blind man brutally unveil his fig leaf, the calm man suddenly lost control.

In order to keep his secret, the colonel picked up his precise scalpel, so that the little blind man could no longer speak or write.

Later, accompanied by the blind guy, the little blind man went to major hospitals to see a doctor, and spent all the money earned by the blind guy's fortune telling, but his broken tongue and zombie hand were not cured.

The little blind man who brought pain to others was punished in that pool of blood.

The little blind man's twisted personality prompted him to hurt others constantly. He knew it was a secret that the colonel was trying to hide, but he used despicable means on each other again and again, just to satisfy his morbid curiosity.

However, harming others will eventually harm yourself.

This kind of people who only have their own eyes will eventually tie themselves up. When they hurt others again and again, they will touch each other's bottom line sooner or later. When they brutally stab each other's wounds, the angered partner will also return the original degree of pain.

Then, for such a person whose personality is distorted because of his early experience, how can he avoid the end of harming others and himself?

"Inferiority and Transcendence" wrote: "After research, human memory can best reveal the secrets of the individual mind ... People's memory is not accidental, because personal memory usually records events that he thinks are important, and these events are selected from thousands of impressions."

If our memory from birth to now is like a video tape, please put this video tape backwards until you touch your earliest memory, record this memory and write down some feelings it brings you.

Then, continue to play the video tape and keep recording those unforgettable clips.

In fact, people's memory will inevitably be distorted with the passage of time. But distorted memories are still very valuable, because memories that have been artificially "tampered with" can better reflect people's inner thoughts.

After completing this memory, let's take a closer look at what is recorded on the paper. Perhaps, you can find some commonalities from these fragmentary memento mori.

And it may be the injury that I have been worried about for a long time, or it may be the personality distortion caused by the encounter.

We can't change the misfortune we suffered in the past, but if we want to reduce the negative impact of this "misfortune", please learn to accept it.

It's a pity that people don't necessarily have psychological troubles. Only those who refuse to accept misfortune and dare not accept the truth will be troubled by misfortune.

Teacher Wu Zhihong mentioned in "Thank you for your imperfections" that when you encounter misfortune, it is better to let the sadness in your heart flow naturally than to suppress it.

When you finish this process, it means that you accept the misfortune in life and decide not to continue to compete with it, and it can't bother you any more.

There is a saying that lucky people are cured by childhood all their lives, and unfortunate people are cured by childhood all their lives.

However, there are too few lucky people, and most people will experience great or small misfortunes.

In fact, the ability to accept misfortune is also a kind of luck.

Wen | Gardenia

References:

Adler in inferiority and transcendence

A study on the influencing factors of maternal-infant attachment and its role in children's cognitive and behavioral development

"Thank yourself for your imperfections" Wu Zhihong.