The teacher assigned a composition entitled Disciples Rules. Who can give me some examples of filial piety?

It's a matter of determination. Then when you make up your mind, you should also have a good attitude, "aim high" and be ambitious. Because the higher one pursues, the faster one will make progress. We are like this, and so are children. Fan Zhongyan often told fortune when he was a child. He said to the fortune teller, "Please help me have a look and see if I can be a prime minister when I grow up?" As soon as the fortune teller heard this, the child had a big tone at an early age and insisted on becoming prime minister: "Why do you have such a big tone?" Fan Zhongyan was very embarrassed. He thought for a moment and said, "Then please help me to see if I can be a doctor when I grow up?" This fortune teller is very strange. He has just grown into a prime minister. How did he become a doctor again? He asked him, "Why are your ambitions so far away?" Fan Zhongyan said: "Because being a prime minister and a doctor can save people and save the world." The fortune teller listened and said, "You really have a heart for loving others and being a prime minister." . Therefore, Fan Zhongyan was determined to save the world from childhood, and finally became a famous figure when he grew up. So aim high.

What if our ambition is only to get a hundred points in the exam and do papers? After the exam, it will be gone as soon as it is thrown; Determined to get a salary of several thousand dollars, what is the living condition? Just to satisfy your own desires. So if you have different aspirations, your life pattern will be different. The ancients said, "Take the law." : take the law; Take the law and get nothing. Therefore, I am determined to be ambitious.

In the process of educating his disciples, Dade summed up the teaching motto: "Excellent students can accept the torture of teachers, be patient and make progress;" Middle school students can accept the encouragement of teachers and study hard; Inferior students can accept teachers' praise and grow up in love; Inferior students can't accept anything and rebel against everything. Ladies and gentlemen, let's see, where are we going to guide our children to receive education? There are all kinds of answers. When I was teaching my parents, I told them what the sages thought and expected of their students. They were surprised and opened their eyes wide. Why are they surprised? We are all teaching our children "inferior students". Think about it, are we doing something like this? We think our child needs praise, so we praise him every day, love him every day and protect him, thinking that we can grow up by loving him. However, if you spoil it too much, "if you don't love it in the right way, it will hurt you" (note that language is "the sword of the child"), and if you love it in the wrong way, it will only hurt him. The parents opened their eyes wide when they heard this, and it took them a long time to find out that we were all teaching our children to be inferior students.

You see, children are different with different orientations. Excellent students can stand the teacher's torture, be patient and enterprising. We have a child who goes down to exercise, squats down and gets tired after standing for a while, so he has to stand up. The teacher said, how can you stand up before time? He refused to listen, and other children began to say, "Top students can stand the torture of teachers, have patience and are enterprising." Hearing this, he immediately squatted down. Therefore, children will be different if they have ambitions, and they should be reminded from time to time.

Aim high, but another attitude is also important: don't set your goals too high. Because it is dangerous when children aim too high and don't know how to do it down to earth. Therefore, I also told parents and our children: "We aim high, and our position as a teacher is to' remember the past and learn from the future'. Where should we start? Set a world-class ambition. What is the most important thing in the world now? " "Governing the country and keeping the country safe, teaching first" is education. To "stand for heaven and earth, stand for the people" is the first-class ambition. It's no use shouting slogans every day, but you have made great ambitions. You should also start with "parents should call, but don't delay"; We should also start with "slowly open the curtains and make no noise"; We should also start from "walk calmly and stand up straight." "Therefore, we must take back our ambitions and don't set our goals too high. Start with every move in your life, help your elders eat at the dinner table, and wake up in the morning and say, "Good morning! "Did you have a good rest last night? If we don't get up in the morning, can we achieve the goal of "connecting the past and the future, and opening peace for all generations"? Therefore, we should pull our ambitions back to practical actions.

I talked about Disciple Rules in Shenzhen, and it took me a year to talk about "sincerity", because every lecture was combined with life and explained in great detail. Many parents have followed my class for more than a year. These parents have been listening to my classes for a long time and are very familiar with me. I have always encouraged them to aspire to be a modern "Meng Mu" (the mother of Yasheng Mencius) and not to compete with outsiders for how much money they earn. This is not the most important thing, but to be a "strong woman". What is a strong woman? Our teacher Yang said, "Be a strong woman, not a' woman hanging on the wall'." A strong woman is all-round, and family happiness is the real happiness. A strong woman is to do the hardest thing and the most important thing. That is a strong woman. How much money is not the most difficult, nor is it the most important. What's the hardest part? The most difficult thing is to handle the family well and educate the children well. So you have handled these two most difficult and important things well, and that is the real strong woman. So, if you want to be a modern Meng Mu, you can see that the story of Meng Mu has been circulated for more than 2,000 years and is still being praised. That's the real strong woman, right? Now I earn some money, drive a car and buy some brand-name clothes. What kind of strong woman is that?

Every time they listen to my encouragement, they feel particularly upright and want to be strong women. As a result, one day I asked them: You want to be strong women, so did you get up this morning to say hello to your husband? They didn't do well when they heard it, and then they fell into life and reality. I asked them: I come to class very hard every Saturday morning, but my husband is still sleeping under the covers. He will probably say angrily, "I study every day, but you are so self-motivated and sleep late every day." Does this curse work? They replied: It's really useless. It is useless to lift the quilt for him every day and scold him to wake him up. Later, I stood by the bed every day and asked, "Sir, did you have a good rest last night?" After asking for a week, my husband got out of bed and said, "Don't torture me, I'm up." So start from yourself, start from life, start from every little thing. This is aiming high, but we should start from the present and start from life.

In addition, I am determined to have "perseverance". As the saying goes, "a villain is always determined, and a gentleman is determined to grow." If a person wants to achieve something, once he has set his ambition, he must stick to it. In fact, many people are not incapable, but have no perseverance, so they can't do it. Many successful people can persist in doing simple tasks and do them again and again. A soldier may become a general just because he stands at attention and takes good steps every day. Therefore, only by doing small things repeatedly and persisting in doing them can a person be achieved.

It's too hard to persist. Let's see why "the villain is always determined to win", why? Because our ambitions are always changing. My own ambition is always changing. When I was a child, I saw scholars envious and wanted to be teachers, so I didn't study science in the college entrance examination. I like being a teacher very much, but later I was hit by society and my ambition changed. I'd better have someone to support me so that I can read at home without working.

Why are our ambitions always changing? The important reason is that we don't have a measure of life in our hearts. We don't know what is the most important thing in life, so we will be influenced by the outside world and change our ambitions in order to make money. When there is no such scale, our hearts will be led by external material desires. In fact, we are not living in reason, but are led by desire.

Therefore, since the reform and opening up, under the impact of the economic tide, everyone has gone to business to make money, and their thoughts have become more complicated. Everyone is drifting with the tide, driven by external things and internal desires, and taken away, and there is no way to set their own goals. Therefore, to be truly firm and persistent, truly firm and long-term, we must have a very important attitude, indifferent to fame and fortune, and reduce material desires.

As the saying goes, "tranquility is the source of wisdom", and tranquility is the source of wisdom. We should reduce our material desires and live and work in peace and contentment. Only by living in poverty and not being influenced by the outside world can you really work hard towards your goals. We see Yan Yuan's "one scoop of food and one scoop of drink", "People will be worried if they can't bear it, and people will not change their fun if they go". Why doesn't he "have fun"? There is a road in the heart, a road in the heart and happiness in the heart. We saw Luz again. In the Analects of Confucius, Confucius said, "What reason do people who wear robes and foxes have to be ashamed? Although Zhong You is in rags, he won't feel inferior when standing with people who are dressed in luxury. Why? Because he knows well, he doesn't need to compare with others by appearance clothes.

The same is true for your children. You dressed him well and wore famous brands since childhood, and his desire and attention were focused on this place. He will think that I have to dress beautifully to stand with others, but in fact, when he really has something inside, he will have heartfelt confidence, and he will not care about external vanity at all.

There is a teacher Chen who teaches with me in Shenzhen. Teacher Chen's child is older than my son, and my son is older than Teacher Liu's daughter. There is also a teacher whose children are younger. These children's clothes are left over from the second one, and the second one is for the third one. The children are very happy and don't feel compelled to buy new clothes. Do you still think this dress was not worn yesterday? I will wear it today. When you guide him correctly, he will not develop this secular desire.

Once, I took my son to buy pajamas. After a while, he suddenly said, "Mom, this is too small. You should buy a bigger one. Give it to Brother Ziyang when you buy it, and then give it to me when he is dressed. " I'm glad to hear the news. After I bought it, I gave it to Mr. Chen and said, "Give it to your son first, and then give it to my son when it is worn out." Teacher Chen was embarrassed to accept it at first, but then she hesitated and took the pajamas away. Why did he accept it again? Later, Mr. Chen said in his lecture: Because he thought it was a good educational opportunity. When he brought it to his son, he said, "My brother gave it to you. Let you wear it first, and then wear it when you are old. " Because my son is the oldest, he often wears new clothes and has no feelings, so I was shocked to hear this: someone actually did it! When I buy new clothes, I give them to others first, and others will wear them when they are old. I really admire them. Teacher Chen also realized that this was a good educational opportunity and quickly seized this opportunity to guide his son.

When a child's attention is not on material desires, he will concentrate on his studies. We often tell our children, "Don't get angry if clothes and food are not as good as people." Which dress is the most beautiful? Temperament and virtue are the two most beautiful clothes. So I often tell my children that one dress is the most beautiful. You don't have to buy this dress. You can knit it yourself. How come? Do one sentence, weave one sentence, do two sentences and weave two sentences in Disciple Rules. When you have done all the discipleship rules, you will wear the most beautiful and gorgeous clothes in the world.