What's the conflict between Diana and the royal family?

Before moving into the royal family, Diana left a message to her roommates: "Please call me, I believe I will need your help." Her words always seem unfortunate.

Cinderella got the prince, but lost her free life. The ivory tower is magnificent, but it is so inhuman. While the whole world is congratulating the prince on his happiness, Cinderella is struggling to face everything.

On the first night of her royal life, she lived in Clarence Palace, the Queen Mother's residence in London. It was a quiet night when the storm was coming, and she walked into this strange world completely helpless. No one in the royal family thought it necessary to welcome her, including her future husband.

It is taken for granted that Diana was educated in royal manners. In fact, Diana received very limited training about her new identity.

After moving into Buckingham Palace, Diana began to feel that it was a "suffocating" place.

For a girl who is used to noisy apartments, Buckingham Palace looks like everything except home. Diana feels like a stagnant pool here. The royal staidness does not match her lively temperament. She found that how to choose clothes is the only thing that the royal family likes to innovate. The rest, she just needs to "obey". She must learn the complicated etiquette in the court and the difference between the young and the old, and be familiar with the glorious history of the royal ancestors. However, it seems that no one is prepared to communicate with her spiritually and give her family and friends warmth.

Lonely girls need these. She found that people in the palace were very polite to her and deliberately avoided her.

Gradually, she was tired of the smoothness, prevarication and subtle ambiguity of court ministers; Especially when she asked them directly about her fiance's relationship with Camilla Parker Bowles, she felt this.

She wandered around looking for someone to talk to. So she often strolls from the third floor apartment to the kitchen to chat with the chef to relieve boredom. Once, Diana dressed casually in overalls and barefoot, preparing bread and butter for a footman, who was very uncomfortable.

Her efforts give others an "alternative" feeling. Everyone is so used to court life that they seem to forget that this young girl also needs understanding and communication from others. She just became a symbol, a title, an identity.

Diana's evening dress caused a sensation in London when she first attended a formal event. Her unique taste in clothes made her choose a strapless black silk evening dress, and the leader's chest was very low.

Clothing industry likes it, and British civilians appreciate it. But the royal family will not be satisfied.

This is by no means a conservative and solemn image of royal women.

Charles even accused Diana of wearing mourning clothes.

This sentence hurt Diana, and she replied rudely, "I'm not a member of your family yet."

This unhappiness is nothing. It's just that their conceptual differences are beginning to appear.

What happened next made her more nervous. Faced with rows of spotlights and critical reporters, Diana, who was unfamiliar with royal etiquette, was at a loss and embarrassed.

When Grace of Monaco, who rescued her from the predicament, comforted her, she said a meaningful sentence: "Don't be afraid, the worse is yet to come."

In order to relieve the tension before marriage, she once asked the teacher of Sisheath Middle School to teach her to dance again. In the last dance class before the wedding, Snape wrote in his diary: "Diana broke her hands and pointed out the days before the wedding, imagining the crowd outside the courtroom, and couldn't help feeling sad. We hoped to continue the class in June+10 in 5438, but Miss Diana said,'12 days later, I am not who I am now.' "

When Diana said this, she must have understood that she would pay an expensive and incalculable price for the coming glory-freedom and herself.

From the day she made her wedding vows, she bid farewell to the lifestyle she used to in the past 20 years, the freedom to go shopping alone, and the freedom to shop at will. She can no longer visit her friends or have a drink in a small bar on a whim.

She not only married Charles, but also married Charles' duties and everything related to it.

10 In June, Diana made her first visit after becoming Princess of Wales. For the shy princess, it is really a kind of pressure for her to meet the love of the public. She kept walking through the crowd and accepting the bouquet, looking very happy. However, heavy rain, severe pregnancy reaction and her physical condition made her unable to bear the glory of being the Princess of Wales. She told her husband several times in tears that she didn't have enough energy and courage to face the flood of enthusiastic people. More than once, she missed the quiet apartment she lived in before marriage and longed to return to her happy and simple friends.

Charles sympathizes with her new wife, but the duties of the royal family cannot be ignored. For the glory of the royal family, people need to sacrifice for it. After trying again and again to overcome her shyness and behave appropriately in public, she sadly discovered the fact that "no matter how well you do, you will never hear any compliments from the royal family." Diana was very depressed. In the process of difficult adaptation, Diana was forced to cut off her close ties with the former world, but she could not get any valuable compensation from the royal family.

What she needs is wise advice and comforting words, but all she hears is a smooth and polite response. They either treat her as an outsider or take her words seriously.

The royal family abides by the ancestral motto: you are either a member of the royal family or you are not.

If Diana wants to become a "royal family", she must work hard on her own, and others can't help her. As an adult member of the royal family, she should be responsible for her actions and solve her own problems. Doing something wrong is her dereliction of duty; If you do the right thing, you have done your duty, and you don't have to expect any praise or encouragement.

In court and other occasions, Diana was most puzzled by the change of her identity. She is no longer Diana Spencer, but an identity, a title. "Her Royal Highness Princess of Wales" kept her away not only from her former friends, but also from her royal relatives.

Royal etiquette stipulates that when people address her, they should first use "Your Highness" and then "Madam". Of course, everyone has to curtsy to her. Diana felt very uncomfortable.

She realized that everyone looked at her in a new way and regarded her as a precious porcelain, which could only be appreciated but not touched. Diana was overtreated, and what she longed for most was comfort and encouragement.

In this predicament, her eating disorder recurred, she constantly felt sick, and her weight dropped sharply, reaching the point of "skin and bones". She often cries, quarrels with Charles and even thinks of suicide, but this will only leave a bad impression on the royal family. Second, light appeared.

1982 In September, Grace of Monaco died in a car accident. Diana was very sad to hear the bad news. A year and a half ago, when she first appeared in a royal social occasion, it was Princess Grace who comforted her. She wanted to go to the funeral, and finally got the queen's approval. This is the first time that she has gone abroad on behalf of the royal family alone. At the funeral full of strong emotions and impulsive, she behaved solemnly and appropriately, and was well received by the public after returning home.

In this tragic atmosphere, Diana gradually realized that she could adapt to the new environment like Princess Grace and use her position to make contributions to the royal family and even the whole country. From Princess Grace, who is also a civilian, Diana vaguely saw her way out. But she doesn't know how to do it.

The successful visit of the Crown Prince and his wife to Australia from 65438 to 0983 was an important turning point in her life. She is no longer an innocent girl, but a more mature woman. This is not a big change, but it shows that her spirit is slowly recovering. For a long time, she couldn't control herself and adapt to the royal life and her new role. Now, she has enhanced her self-confidence and accumulated some experience. This makes her more confident about the future. Although it is inevitable that she will shed tears and be stimulated in her later life, after all, the ice has been broken and the passage has appeared, and she is sure of the next voyage.

A notable sign of her transformation is that she began to contact her friends. For a long time, she was afraid to contact her friends and deliberately closed herself up. Living in the forbidden palace, she dare not imagine the happy life of her friends in the past. At that time, friends often talked about interesting holidays, happy dinners and new jobs together. Compared with her life as a superstar, it seems unremarkable and insignificant. However, for her, this small talk means freedom, and she has lost her freedom forever. Besides, she doesn't want her friends to see this unlucky appearance. She is like a wounded animal, hiding alone in a secluded place and licking her wounds.

After returning from a visit to Australia and Canada, she felt that she had enough courage and confidence to face her former friends. She wrote letter after letter asking about everyone's health and living conditions. She wrote to invite Adam Russell to meet in an Italian restaurant.

Three years later, Adam Russell found that he could never find the happy and lively girl on the ski resort. It is undeniable that the Princess of Wales is beautiful and confident, but she can't hide her loneliness and anguish. At that time, the greatest luxury in her life was eating red bean paste and ketchup toast while watching TV. "I think this is heaven." She once said to him so naively. Now Adam Russell sees Diana, like a prisoner in a prison.

1984, Diana gave birth to Prince Henry. As a princess, she feels that her successor's task has been completed. And her relationship with Charles is getting colder every day. Charles abandoned his wife and children to seek a quiet life on the farm, while Diana devoted herself to material revelry. She spends a lot of time and money swimming in the indoor swimming pool of Buckingham Palace every day and smearing a set of beauty secrets in Kensington's home. She spends a lot of money on clothes and hairstyles, and dresses like a Hollywood star. Diana is more and more radiant, and every clever little decoration of hers will cause women to imitate.

Diana's custom-made evening dress will cost 4000 pounds. Diana has spent more than 800,000 pounds on complete sets of clothes, not including 200,000 pounds of home clothes. When she visits, she will choose 200 of her 4200 clothes and wear 50 of them. Before getting married, Diana had almost no jewelry. Charles gave her an engagement ring: a pair of huge oval blue gem ring with 65,438+04 diamonds, which is worth 28,500 pounds. After that, the jewels she received were priceless.

Matter cannot fill an empty mind. Diana lived a double life in confusion. On the one hand, I was warmly welcomed and praised by the public. On the other hand, my husband and people in the royal family didn't see any encouragement and suggestions.

She is still doubting her own value, and she is still wandering.

1986 The appearance of Princess Sarah brought fresh air to the royal family. At that time, all the praise in the royal family was given to the young, lively and energetic Duchess of York. In this case, coupled with the advice of her husband Charles, she once gave up herself and tried to imitate her sister-in-law.

The result is self-defeating. The public media consider her frivolous, not to mention the conservative royal family. As for her husband Charles, their relationship is still deteriorating and they have separated.

1987, when she and Charles visited the south of Wales, they became strangers, which announced that she began to reflect. Her imitation was a complete failure.

It was the quietest time for Diana. She drove away from Kensington Palace, away from the surveillance cameras and the royal family, broke free from the high wall that imprisoned her, went to her favorite Douste coast, and walked alone on the beach.

She now realizes that her hopes of getting back together with Charles are completely dashed. His indifferent contempt shattered all her illusions of reunion. She tried to cater to all his demands, but her efforts did not narrow the distance between them, but made her the focus of ridicule.

She finally realized that if she wants to live a real life, she must find herself and the real Diana Spencer. The girl's true character was abandoned and her talent was buried for seven years.

For a long time, she blindly obeyed the demands of her husband, the royal family and the media and suppressed her true self. Now, she will face all the challenges that life has given her.

Third, the royal family and the princess.

The spirit of the British royal family is now in the "Troika" composed of the Queen Mother, Queen Elizabeth and Princess Margaret.

They are the souls of the Windsor family.

Queen Elizabeth and Princess Margaret are the last generation of royal family members who are immune to real life. Since childhood, they have lived in the deep palace compound, isolated from the outside world, and daily necessities such as queuing, shopping and installment payment have never been related to them. They just sit quietly in the position allowed by social expectations and rules and regulations, year after year.

Responsibility, obligation and spirit of sacrifice cast their creed of survival. In these unfathomable terms, they live in the way expected by the royal family and the public, licking the loneliness in the eyes of others.

"Never complain, never explain" is the core of Windsor's royal belief.

As an outsider, Diana clearly saw the gap between the outside world and the royal family. They don't want to face the grim reality and only remember the past scenery; They despise the lives of ordinary people and only close themselves off with a reserved and noble attitude. Extremely lonely and sacred, this is the lifestyle chosen by this family.

The core figure of the troika is undoubtedly Queen Elizabeth. The old Queen Mother insisted on staying in London to encourage her husband and soldiers and civilians during World War II. Hitler cursed her as "the most terrible woman in the world".

Diana's entry into Buckingham Palace was supported by the Queen Mother. She once advised her grandson Charles to pay attention to Miss Diana Spencer: "Look how gentle, sweet and naive she is!" The Queen Mother has always been a supporter of Diana's royal love.

However, the Queen Mother will soon be unable to like the girl she likes.

The queen mother originally expected the princess to be good-looking and obedient, and to integrate into the royal system soon. But Diana is far from what she imagined. Except for her beauty, everything is different from the queen mother's standard. She advocates freedom, does not stick to the rules of the royal family, and also steals the scenery of her husband Charles with her own charm.

As for Diana, she thinks that the Queen Mother is too formal and the social activities hosted by her are always serious and lifeless. Another thing that made her even more unacceptable was that she found that the Queen Mother privately seemed to approve Camilla's affair with Charles. When Camilla lives in the queen mother's residence, the prince can call her.

The Queen Mother and Charles have deep feelings, but Diana is obviously excluded.

In contrast, Diana likes Princess Margaret better, and she can best help Diana adapt to court life.

When Diana entered the palace, she was extremely uncomfortable with life in the palace. Especially the cold, rigid atmosphere always makes her feel suffocated, as if the vitality of youth is being sucked away a little bit, and people will be depressed in the blink of an eye.

At that time, Princess Margaret came to her side and quietly told her the rules of the royal family to help her adapt to the life of the royal family. Diana said, "I admire Margaret very much and like her very much. She has always been very kind to me. "

Diana felt awe and respect for her mother-in-law Queen Elizabeth at first.

At first, according to court etiquette, every time I saw the queen, she would salute meticulously. At other times in court life, she should avoid getting too close to the queen.

But in a few separate conversations later, Diana became less formal. They mainly talked about the tension between the couple and Charles' mental state. The queen found Charles's life goal unclear, eccentric and capricious. The Queen also believes that Charles, like Diana, did not get happiness from this marriage.

As the head of a country, the Queen has been sticking to her duties for 40 years, maintaining the declining monarchy and giving full play to the traditions and functions of the royal family. Diana enjoyed it very much. Although she is eager to escape from the royal marriage, she can't help but say to the respected queen, "I won't let you down."

One sultry afternoon, Diana went to a garden party. Her friend handed her a fan, but Diana refused. "I can't do that." Because my mother-in-law is standing with a handbag, gloves, socks and shoes. "The Queen can show great self-control on every occasion, and Diana can't help but sincerely admire and respect her.

Although she is a traitor to the British royal family, although her personality does not meet the expectations of the Queen, she still trusts and admires her ability and tries her best to get along with her to maintain the friendly relationship between her mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

Diana and her father-in-law Prince Philip are also very friendly. Perhaps the lonely prince can better understand Diana's status as a foil to the royal family. On the marriage of the Crown Prince and his wife, he once reprimanded his son Charles, thinking that as long as Diana was given time and opportunity, everything would be fine. As a result, the father and son broke up.

The relationship between Diana and Princess Anne is a bit delicate. Diana praised Princess Anne for her independence and initiative, and praised her efforts to break through the princess's cage and set up a fund to save children. 1984 When Prince Henry was born in September, Diana chose her good friend Caroline bartholomew instead of Princess Anne as Henry's godmother. The press made a big fuss, saying it showed the cold relationship between Diana and Princess Anne.

Diana thinks that Princess Anne is already the child's aunt, so there is no need to work two more jobs.

On the other hand, Princess Anne never liked Diana. She sided with her brother Charles and thought that all the remarks against Charles in the newspaper were planned by Diana. She didn't even want to talk to the princess and refused to pay attention to her on any occasion. The arrival of Diana not only encroached on Princess Anne's due position, but also stole Princess Anne's dressing skills. She always puts on a brand-new costume to show her beautiful figure to the maximum extent, or puts on a bikini and sunbathes on the beach, regardless of the pursuit of journalists. This made Anne very angry. Diana took away all the scenery she deserved.

On formal occasions, as long as Diana and Princess Anne appear at the same time, Princess Anne always stands as far away from Diana as possible.

Diana, a commoner with noble blood, is a girl next door. Her habits and hobbies determine her strangeness to the royal family. After all, she is an outsider and can't blend into the royal family. However, Princess Anne has always been familiar with the palace. Born and raised, there is an indelible gap between her and Diana.

What happened to Diana was Sarah, Duchess of York, who was also a civilian.

Five years ago, the Duchess of York was full of youthful energy when she was on holiday in Balmoral. In just a few years, she was deprived of the spirit of all young people by the royal system and was swallowed up step by step. Her life is no longer art, but just a burden. From clothing to the choice of friends, she was trapped in the siege of the press without exception and had nowhere to breathe.

In the indifferent royal family, the duchess looked for sustenance from the outside world.

She has met all kinds of people, some with Tolocka fortune-telling, some with psychic powers, and some with astrology or other methods. The duchess hopes to find a way out of the royal maze.

At one time, the Duchess spent several hours consulting fortune tellers and astrologers every day. Perhaps in those predictions, the Duchess of York can get some comfort.

In Othello, Yago constantly predicted that the royal family would be destroyed, and Yago in Buckingham Palace was the Duchess of York. 1992 in the days before the divorce, she always whispered in Diana's ear, encouraging, pleading, predicting the fate of the royal family and urging her to escape from this cage.

For a desperate woman, her request should be an attractive appeal, but unfortunately, Diana has begun to believe in self-judgment.

She sadly watched her girlfriend fall into a similar situation with herself. In the royal family, they are isolated from the royal family.

On a pleasant evening in August, members of the royal family enjoyed a barbecue on the lawn of Balmoral Castle. We ate and talked, and somehow, we had an argument, mainly against the Duchess of York, which made her leave in a rage. Diana tried to defend her, saying that no one would have thought that life would be so difficult to adapt to after marrying a member of the royal family, and as time went on, the duchess's constraints on the royal family became more and more unbearable. Diana even tried to convince her daughter Wang Mingbai that if the Duchess of York was bound again, she would leave one day. Sure enough, Sarah told her friend that this was her last trip to Barmore. Eight months later, she officially separated from Prince Andrew.

Diana was surprised to see how people around the Queen quickly turned against the Duchess and pushed her against the royal family on charges of misconduct. She was very sad about it.

"The sword of Buckingham Palace points at the Duchess", a reporter from the London Broadcasting Corporation pointed out the situation at that time. Sarah has been accused of using her marriage with the royal family for personal gain, and she is also considered to use public relations companies to create momentum for her separation from the royal family.

The duchess's endless criticism of Lacrimosa is like a year. 1In August, 1992, The Daily Mirror published a photo of the Duchess of York and her lover on vacation in the south of France, which caused a heated discussion.

1994 In May, the Duke and Duchess of York divorced. If Diana is determined to break out of the besieged city, she will certainly experience what Sarah has suffered.

During the separation of the Duke and Duchess of York, Charles and Sarah discussed marriage together. He also talked to the Duchess about the dilemma of his marriage, and repeatedly stressed that as the legal direct heir to the throne, it is almost impossible for him to have the slightest idea of separating from Diana. The Duchess of York replied rudely, "At least, I am worthy of myself." Dissatisfaction with the royal system and sympathy for Diana's situation are all contained in this sentence. In fact, Charles and Diana are very grateful to themselves. They were tied to the pillars of marriage in the name of royal image, trying to get rid of them. If you are a civilian, you can break up peacefully, but you can only perform painfully.

The queen expressed her understanding of the tension in their marriage. It is often uncomfortable for the Wangs to get married with foreigners, but in the past, everyone was a junior in the royal family. But Diana is different. She is the future queen. She had no other choice. Her only occupation is to become Princess of Wales. She can't leave the royal responsibility to be a teacher in kindergarten. In public, she is still Charles' necessary partner. They must jointly fulfill their national responsibilities and obligations, and they must look happy.

Their tragedy is just an enhanced version of the royal marriage tragedy. The failure of the marriage between civilians and members of the royal family is not the Charles couple, but the bitter fruit of the royal family's impact in the historical process.

Since house of hanover's rule in England, George I has brought a rule from Germany that a prince must marry a woman of royal blood. If the prince dares to marry a commoner or a real commoner, his wife and children will not inherit the title and property, or even be recognized.

Europe's monarchy collapsed in World War I, leaving little. It is almost impossible for members of the royal family to find a suitable couple. George V was forced to reform the marriage system, allowing his children's spouses to come from three noble families: Duke, Marquis and Earl. Queen Elizabeth became the first commoner to marry a prince in more than 200 years.

However, no matter how noble a commoner is, the marriage with the royal family will end in a sour ending. Except for the Queen Mother and Queen, other people's marriages ended in divorce, such as Princess Margaret and Tony Armstrong, or separated, such as the Duke and Duchess of York, or maintained the status quo against their will like the prince and duchess.

Those civilians who enter the royal family are often confused by various rules and regulations of the royal family: being followed by the media, acting as vassals of spouses, unable to find a place to reflect their own values, and marriage has lost its original meaning and become a prison for prisoners. Diana is just one of them.

British Prime Minister Major called on Queen Elizabeth to discuss the future role of Princess Diana. Because after the marriage with Charles broke down, Princess Diana proposed to Major that she wanted to be a visiting ambassador in Britain and do her part for humanitarianism.

The Prime Minister is interested in the beauty of adults, but other officials think Diana is incompetent. She has never received any training in diplomatic etiquette.

Over the years, Diana's talent in the diplomatic field has long impressed the British diplomatic community, which has always been indifferent and harsh.

1995165438+10. In October, Princess Diana paid a charity visit to Argentina, which had a war with Britain in 1982 because of the ownership of the Falkland Islands, and received many praises, which seemed to add weight to her role as an ambassador.

Opinion polls show that most British people agree to choose the princess as the ambassador. The opposition believes that it is not enough to just smile and touch people's heads, which requires years of experience. Finally, Buckingham Palace replied that such a sacred mission should belong to the Crown Prince.

The royal family and Diana are still at odds. The difference is that Diana no longer tried to adapt to the royal family, but found her place in the royal family. The change of anti-customer orientation also indicates Diana's change from a shy girl to a mature woman.

She wants to start her own life.