The test of a person's life is mentality.

My life of more than 30 years is basically dull, or most people spend their lives in a dull way, so there is nothing wrong with it, because I think the challenge of people's life is their mentality, and things they encounter can be ups and downs, but their inner feelings must be flowing. Why? Because throughout his life, happiness depends on his inner feelings.

I didn't dare to think about what it was like to leave my relatives countless times before, because when I grew up, my relatives left this world because of a cerebral hemorrhage when I was 1 years old. I have never seen my relatives leave. So I used to lie in bed countless times and count my grandparents' ages. I'm thinking, if everyone lives to be 80 years old, then ~ ~ But at that time, they were still young, so every time I calculate the time, I feel that people's lives are so short that they are counted by the day. The older we grow up, the more scared I am. I want to be filial to my elders as soon as possible. I want them to get old.

So every weekend, during the holidays, I will go to see my grandparents and grandpa for the first time, and I will try my best to buy them food, sometimes two persimmons, and sometimes a fried bag of 2 yuan. I am very happy to see them eating.

Fear of death:

Until September 26th, 2065438+February 2008, my grandmother died of organ failure at the age of eighty-six. Because I didn't see my grandmother for the last time, I always felt guilty, so my grandmother appeared in my dreams for three years. The same picture, sitting at the head of the village, shaking her fan, said with a kind smile, you are back ~ I always wake up from my dream after saying this, I miss my grandmother, I know, I have regrets in my heart, but after three years, I never dreamed of her again, as if I knew why.

Let death leave no regrets.

On the 19th day of the twelfth lunar month in 20 18, my grandfather just lay in bed for one hundred days and then left peacefully. Grandpa's five sons and two daughters are with him. Before he left, grandpa also confessed his own affairs. Grandpa is 93 years old. He said he insisted on attending the wedding of his youngest grandson. There is nothing to regret. When he was old, he felt that there was no energy in his body and he could not return to heaven.

As a doctor, Bo Er can't do anything about it, and so can my grandfather. He said that he wanted to live to be the oldest man in all faults, but his physical condition is really not good at present. Grandpa was on crutches a hundred days ago, and he couldn't support it at once. He squatted on the ground, didn't fall, just collapsed. Bo Er said that at that time, his heart and kidneys had failed. ...

Because of my grandmother, I went home to visit my grandfather the first time he was ill, so I have no regrets. My grandfather finally left peacefully, as if he were asleep. Grandma was forced to spark at that time, and grandpa was still buried at this time. Perhaps the government changed its strategy in consideration of the feelings of rural people.

Look at death calmly

Half a month later, on the fourth day of the first lunar month, grandpa died peacefully at the age of ninety. The fortune teller said that my grandfather's soul left three days ago. Although I have received a college education, I would rather believe this is true, because my grandfather gave us time to let our three daughters return to China, and they all went into filial piety and talked. They left in their sleep without any sin. This should be the best destination.

When my grandfather was in his fifties, my grandmother passed away. Since then, my grandfather has lived alone for more than 30 years. Although several children are very filial, life without a wife is somewhat regrettable. But my grandfather has been considerate of others and children's feelings all his life, and has never found another holiday. Even when I finally left, people in the village said that my grandfather was considerate all his life and was a very good person!

Grandpa had a stomach tumor resection at the age of 79. At that time, the doctor said that he might die for two or three months, or he might not be able to get off the operating table. Within 24 hours, it was a critical period, and grandpa survived. Everyone says this is a blessing for grandma and a gift from God.

So for grandpa's departure, our family didn't have too much sadness and regret, and felt that grandpa had a good life for the rest of his life. Grandpa lived clearly and thoroughly!

From then on, I looked at death again and had a new understanding.

Personally, I haven't experienced any major events, but I still have some experience.

My first close contact with death

According to my parents, when I was just able to climb, they once took me to work in the fields. At that time, tractors had been used to cultivate land. They put me in the back seat of the car to sleep, and they pulled the front of the car to plow. After working for a while, my mother went to see me, but I couldn't find it.

But it was bare at that time and won't be taken away. Where's the baby? Mom and dad searched in the ditch of ploughing, and finally found me, still sleeping. They guessed that I woke up once during their work, and I couldn't find my parents, so I climbed out. The tractor was so loud and it was dark that I couldn't find it buried in the ground.

No one knows the details, but my parents were scared and resigned. Take me home quickly, observe and see if there is any problem. Fortunately, I will be raised healthily. Otherwise, my parents said they would regret it for the rest of their lives. It was careless. At that time, I was too young to remember, so there was not much turmoil in my heart.

Facing death ~ medical accident for the second time.

1 year-old, vaccinated. It was in our village. The village doctor contracted the vaccine business of the health center, saying that it was to save money and trouble. He didn't give me a penicillin skin test, but he gave me an injection, so the accident happened to me. I had an allergic accident, foaming at the mouth. Later, my father beat the village doctor and took me to the township hospital for treatment. How did it get better? There were many incidents in which children died young, and I survived. I believe I will be blessed after I survive!

Facing death for the third time ~ falling into the water.

However, it has been 25 years since I fell into the water at the age of nine, and I still remember it deeply. I am still afraid of water and dare not learn to swim.

At that time, the river in our village rose, and people in the village would bathe in the river at noon. At that time, my brother was 3 years old and I was 9 years old. My father and I went to take a bath, and my father took my brother to take a bath, while I sat by the water, afraid to go into the water, and washed my feet. But accidentally, I slipped into the water, because there is no protective measures by the river on our side and there is no common sense in the countryside. The first time I went into the water, I was not prepared at all. I was so scared that I didn't think too much. In the water, I have a strong desire to survive. I grabbed a leg at random and floated up. I was saved. But there is water in my mouth, ears and nose, and my ears are buzzing. Later, my father found out, came to have a look and said, hurry home and rest. I'll help your brother take a bath and go home.

I was scared, but I was helpless, so I went home silently. Later, I never talked to my family about it, because I didn't want them to worry, but I won't be too close to the water from now on, because there must be a safe distance, maybe it's a shadow!

I faced death for the fourth time.

When I was about ten years old, I had a high fever of 40℃ Later, my second uncle said that I almost got pleurisy. Finally, conservative treatment, streptomycin for three months. In the end, there are pinholes all over my ass, because no matter how painful it is, I know I can only bear it. Only in this way can I live.

I faced death for the fifth time

I was far from home when I was in junior high school. Once when I came home, I rode my bike to the middle of a crossroads and accidentally stopped. At this time, a truck came in the distance. I was worried, so I hurried across the road, ran across the road without stepping on the stool, and fell on a coal pile. I only remember that my hands are burning and my arms and legs are burning, but I forgot the pain because my face and body are burning. When I saw my dear grandma, I jumped on her and began to cry loudly. I was wronged and depressed, and the pain broke out. Later, I found that my hands and knees were broken and I was still bleeding, and there was cinder inside. I'm worried about whether I will get any serious illness. Grandma comforted me, it's okay, coal will be interpreted and won't fester. Just wash it.

I quickly washed my face, arms and legs, and looked brand-new. I smiled, and grandma smiled, saying that she was really a brave child.

I still remember that scene.

My high school, a key high school in the city, studied hard to get into a good university, but on the eve of the college entrance examination, I suddenly found that two strands of hair behind my ears suddenly turned white. I am only 18 years old. How can my hair turn white? Yang went to ask my aunt for 16, and her hair turned white. I'm just studying. With so many students studying, it happened that my hair turned white.

At that time, I didn't expect to go to college. If I make a mistake in my study, I will regret it all my life. I didn't ask for leave, so I went straight home from the city by car. When I met my parents, I told them I wouldn't go to school. That was the first time I didn't want to go to school. The education I received since I was a child was to learn to change my destiny. Now I flinch and don't want to change my destiny.

My parents asked me, and I pointed to my ears. My parents were a little surprised to see my white hair, so they took me to see Bo Er, a doctor and the most knowledgeable person in our family.

Juwan looked at it and said he was a little nervous and worried. He added some nutrition and relaxed his mood. No big deal.

After listening to Bo Er's words, I was relieved. It's not a terminal illness, it's a nervous breakdown in the brain. I have a lot of classmates and a headache. My head doesn't hurt, which means their conditions are better than theirs.

I have to hurry back to class and adjust my mind.

But after this incident, my parents took special care of me and bought me a particularly popular oral liquid, Life No.1, but I heard from my classmates that if I drank too much, I would grow a beard. I didn't know why it was so simple, so I stopped drinking. But later, scientific research proved that oral liquid and vinegar egg tonic didn't have much effect, but only grasped the psychology of parents of college entrance examination students, so I only drank one box at that time, saving my parents a lot of money because it was expensive to sell.

Later, I passed an ordinary undergraduate course in the college entrance examination, and my parents were very satisfied. I will work hard to improve my working ability and find a good job, so I worked hard for 14 years, and now I have some achievements.

I wrote an article "Don't complain, don't treat others badly" before, telling me what I saw, heard and felt during my college years. I have made many adjustments in my mind to adapt to the university, society and family. Many things are also very open.

I am writing this article today because recently, I found that my father, although 60 years old, has less experience and a simple view of things. On the face, he can't get a good psychological adjustment, and his heart is very lost, which leads to insomnia. I'm afraid I can only care about him and enlighten him, but I still need him to solve his own heart in the end.

I tried my best to make him not worry about the lack of money, which he cared about all his life, so I told my dad that my husband and I had a month's salary, even if my brother didn't wait to take care of you, it would be enough for my parents to live a good life. As long as you take care of yourself, nothing else is a problem.

I also told my father some recent news about my family. I told him about the epidemic in Italy, which led to a couple of young men and women who were supposed to get married in March this year. After the girlfriend was infected, her boyfriend went to visit her, took off her protective clothing, kissed her, and finally both died.

Recently, a young man playing extreme sports at high altitude failed to fly during the activity and disappeared, confirming his death.

You should be able to feel that I just let my father compare through some more realistic and cruel things. In fact, he is very happy now, and we have no psychological burden, just like he is happy and healthy.

Life cannot be copied. Love yourself more.

Life experiences cannot be duplicated, but all challenges are ultimately psychological challenges.

You should face failure and don't be discouraged.

You must face success, not pride,

You have to face irony and have the spirit of ah q,

You have to face the resistance of young people,

You have to face getting married and having children,

You have to face aging,

Finally facing death,

These things are testing people's mentality.

There is no clear definition of success and failure.

People are born different, and the most important thing is how you define your success and failure.

You can't aim too high,

Finally, my heart is full,

Bravely accept yourself as yourself,

Face yourself ...

Mentally defeated,

You can never be happy.

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