If there is an afterlife, don't get married, don't have children, don't be anyone's wife and don't be anyone's mother.

? "If there is an afterlife, if you don't marry, you won't be infertile, you won't be a wife, and you won't be a mother."

? Seeing this topic, I burst into tears. I don't know, how many people remember their original dream, the one who wanted to be a scientist and finally became a scientist? Did the man who wanted to be a doctor end up as a lawyer? And the man who wants to be a hero wandering around the world turns out to be an ordinary office worker, working nine to five?

? Those years, those dreams, those poems that have never been to, those distant places, are they still there?

0 1 About yourself

? The dream is full and the reality is skinny. Those so-called once have become more and more distant and seem to be out of sight.

As a girl, I once had my own dream. I dream of becoming a freelance writer, wandering around and having homes everywhere. I want to be as brave as Sanmao to pursue what I want. However, the reality is that I got married and had children as soon as I graduated from college, and I grew old in my daily life.

Although I still have a dream in my heart, I will come out from time to time to remind myself that I shouldn't live like this. People have to live for themselves once. However, when I was going to write a poem for my life, I said, "Alas, the child has to be vaccinated again!" " ""Hey, Dad, there is an activity in the supermarket today. Do you want to order? "

? If time can go back to the past, I don't know if I can still stick to my original choice.

? I saw a sentence in my circle of friends that day: "What would you do if you were twenty years younger?" A casual remark from a friend made me lost in thought. If I were twenty years old again, I would have gone to college by then, and I like writing. I have got an internship invitation from a magazine. However, I didn't go. For love, after graduating from college, I returned to my hometown and became a teacher.

My husband is my high school classmate. He has no job and poor family conditions. When I was young, I married him for nothing but love.

I thought marrying him meant marrying love. Later, I realized, but not as those who used to be poor together knew, that love was so small or even insignificant in front of Nuoda's life.

After marriage, because he didn't find anything to do, they both used a salary. Every time I get paid, it will be gone in a few days. They looked at each other in disgust and couldn't remember how many times they had fallen into a sleepless quarrel. After giving birth to the baby, the mother-in-law refused to take care of the baby. When she was a mother for the first time, she had to go to work and take care of the baby, and life became a chicken feather.

? Wake up in the middle of the night and look at the sleeping child, tears streaming down her face. I don't know, what's the point of living such a chaotic life?

About grandma, about mom.

? My grandmother died a long time ago, and life was extremely difficult. She didn't think about happiness for a day until the day she left. In the early years, my family was poor, and my grandmother grew up with a full stomach and an empty stomach. At that time, she was a fortune teller. Later, I got married and had children. I have worked hard for my children all my life and have never lived a day for myself.

When I was young, my impression of my grandmother was that she liked singing very much. Sometimes she will drive the ducks to the river and hum a few songs gently. Grandma's voice is sweet. Even though she is an old man, that kind of singing is the most beautiful song I heard when I was a child.

I wonder if my grandmother had a dream about music. Maybe at that time, they only knew their husbands and children all their lives, and they didn't know what dreams were.

Do you know nothing, but think less and live happier?

My mother is fifty years old this year. At the age of thirteen, she decided to lead an early marriage life. At the age of seventeen, she got married and gave birth to six siblings.

The reason why my mother has so many children is that the first few are girls. I wonder if there is a preference for boys in other places. This idea is too common in Guizhou. My father is very unhappy because the first few are girls. He beats her every day and scolds her. If he is a little unhappy, he will take it out on her. My grandmother also abused her in various ways, saying that she could not have a son. Neighbors say my mother is an "orphan girl", which means that she has no son to support the elderly and is alone.

? When we were young, we could see my mother Lacrimosa every day. I was very distressed at that time, but everything that happened to her was because of us disappointing girls, and we couldn't comfort her. She also took it out on us at any time and beat us to death.

? Fortunately, after giving birth to four daughters, my mother finally gave birth to a son. I still remember the day when my mother gave birth to my brother. Father was drunk, and everyone was very happy. He kept saying, "I have a son, I have a son!" " "Mom has a string of tears on her face. I don't know whether they shed tears for my life happily or sadly.

? Maybe, my mother doesn't understand. In my mother's eyes, her husband and children are everything. Maybe we are her dreams.

? About life

Sometimes I think, what is a woman's life for? As a wife, how many women have suffered domestic violence and betrayal, and how many women have become old. Being a mother, I have been worried about my children all my life. I am worried about her being cold when I am cold, and I am afraid of her being hungry when I am hungry. I have never lived for myself once in my life.

Therefore, maybe we have the idea that "if there is an afterlife, we will not get married, have children, have children, be wives or be mothers".

People who have this idea may be dissatisfied with the present situation of life and fantasize about starting all over again. However, life is too short and we will never have an afterlife.

Perhaps the meaning of a person's life happens to be that someone is worth paying and someone is worth caring about. Perhaps, only when we have tasted the ups and downs of life can we consider a perfect life and not waste our time in the world.

Well, then live in the present and work hard. As long as those poems and the distance have not run aground, it is not too late to act.