Fear and worry

I feel that you may have some symptoms of obsessive-compulsive disorder. I hope you will read my words patiently. I believe you will be inspired by them after reading it.

We can't beat obsessive-compulsive disorder, otherwise it wouldn't be called obsessive-compulsive disorder.

For obsessive-compulsive disorder with stones, we are eggs. Don't touch the stone with eggs.

Never control and restrain obsessive-compulsive disorder, it will only get worse. Allow your anxiety, anxiety and fear to appear.

In obsessive-compulsive disorder, all psychological resistance or distraction is ineffective.

No matter how ever-changing obsessive-compulsive disorder is, "letting nature take its course" is the core and key to treat obsessive-compulsive disorder.

Heart disease must also be treated with heart medicine, obsessive-compulsive disorder should be treated with medicine, and the symptoms should not be cured.

"Calm down and let nature take its course" can be understood as ignoring symptoms, or not resisting or interfering, or accepting, or ignoring or not afraid of confrontation when obsessive-compulsive disorder strikes, and at the same time allowing anxiety and fear caused by obsessive-compulsive disorder to exist.

When obsessive-compulsive disorder appears, we must accept the anxiety caused by symptoms, because this anxiety is normal. Only by accepting this anxiety will the anxiety subside normally. If you suppress and control anxiety, it will inevitably aggravate the influence of anxiety on yourself and cause more pain.

The most important thing you have to do is to calm your mind and let nature take its course, which is very important. OCD is like riding a bike on ice. The harder you push, the harder you fall. It is like a spring, too. The more you press it, the higher it plays. If you don't move it, it will stay still. Your obsessive-compulsive disorder is similar to the principle this spring. Don't deliberately control it in the future, just let nature take its course.

One more thing, people with obsessive-compulsive disorder often fantasize that everything is perfect, which is wrong. For example, most patients with obsessive-compulsive disorder have the thinking concept of "demanding perfection". Everything must be perfect. But if you think about it, is there perfection in the world? The answer is obviously yes and no! ! So when nature and reality are not perfect, but you insist on perfection, the result will be very contradictory and painful! Try to accept the imperfect self and the imperfect world, and face life with an inclusive attitude. I suggest that you treat compulsive thinking and compulsive behavior differently. For compulsive thinking, you should let nature take its course and adopt an accepting attitude, while for compulsive behavior, you should adopt a controlling attitude. The complexity and repetitiveness of obsessive-compulsive disorder determine that the road to rehabilitation is long, but persistence is the key, and I believe it will definitely pay off!

For another example, many people are always "afraid" of obsessive-compulsive disorder. In fact, normal people will do the same, but the parties don't care. Obsessive-compulsive disorder patients are afraid of this kind of thinking, so the more they are afraid, the more nervous they are, and constantly strengthen and consolidate this consciousness. The reason is that OCD patients must first change their thinking, that is, everyone has had these thoughts, so have I, and I am as normal as everyone else. Only in this way can we gradually build confidence. Relying on this, we can stand in front of the "paper tiger" of obsessive-compulsive disorder, fight against it and defeat it.

Don't always try to resist it or try to get rid of it, learn to accept it as a part of you, because the more you resist it, the easier it will affect you, because at this time your mind is full of it. Although you want to get rid of it, it just reminds you of its existence and will make you more sad. Pursuing perfection is a good thing, but who in this world can achieve absolute perfection without making mistakes? The answer is none. As long as you are human, no one can be absolutely perfect. Our reason is limited, and you can't exhaust all the accidents. This is what God can do. So, let nature take its course, don't let it occupy your heart, put it in a corner of your heart, don't touch it, even if you accidentally touch it again sometimes, don't worry, keep doing what you should do, whether it returns to that corner or not, and you will gradually calm down.

When you think something uncontrollably in your mind, relax mentally, don't control yourself to think hard or chase it deliberately, allow your anxiety and fear to appear, and then let nature take its course to calm your heart. It may be a little difficult at first, but it's easy to find that you don't want to do it again and again! Remember, the key is to let nature take its course and calm your mind. That's how I was cured. Obsessive-compulsive disorder is like patting a ball, and the bounce of the ball represents morbid thinking. So, how can we make the ball still, that is, the symptoms disappear? The answer is not to bounce the ball, and the ball will naturally stop. Only when the patient ignores its existence and puts his heart down will the symptoms slowly disappear. Why do many patients with obsessive-compulsive disorder struggle with it for many years, but they have been unable to overcome it? The reason is that you can't "let nature take its course and let it go". Learn to calm your mind, let go, and do it bit by bit. It will be very painful at first. As long as you persist in doing it for a long time, obsessive-compulsive disorder can be completely cured.

So I recommend three therapies for your reference.

The first therapy-sedation therapy.

In fact, it is very simple, that is, "do whatever you want, do whatever you want" as these two items.

"Let nature take its course" refers to the psychological aspect, that is, when some ideas appear, let them appear naturally, and don't force yourself not to think about it. The word nature, here, refers to the idea that appears naturally, so that it can think naturally, rather than controlling and forcing it to stop.

"Do what you want to do" refers to the behavior, that is, do what you should do now. Then let nature take its course, that is, when some ideas appear, don't force them to stop. It's okay to think about it, but now it's time to cook, you should cook, you should study, you should do what you should do now, that is, do what you want.

It is not to let the brain interfere too much, ignore one thing, and then try to do something else, instead of trying to control or forget the current state.

We don't exclude, analyze and judge, just like we wear clothes. We have never felt that human beings have a problem wearing clothes. Why? That's because we regard clothes as a part of our body, so-called letting nature take its course. For example, if you have an alarm clock at home, you won't notice its ticking after a long time. Residents around the railway station can also sleep soundly, which is accepting the influence on them. They always come and go naturally, just like we eat with chopsticks, write with pens, walk and brush our teeth, and they all flow in harmony. You deliberately change, but it seems unnatural.

The second treatment is as follows:

Step one: read your mind clearly. Learn to distinguish your forced thinking, leave your thoughts, persist in ignoring them, and be afraid of confrontation. Your thoughts are just thoughts.

Step 2: Stop all compulsions and rituals.

Step 3: Accept emotions. In the process of stopping compulsive behavior, negative emotions such as anxiety and fear will last for a period of time. As long as you insist on not doing compulsive behavior, but continue to do what you should do with such uncomfortable feelings as anxiety and fear, your mood will gradually ease over time according to its laws. Do this thousands of times and you win. OCD will eventually fade out of your life.

The third therapy-Morita therapy

Principles of treatment

The therapeutic principle of "conforming to nature"

As far as symptoms are concerned, it is futile to accept symptoms honestly and truly realize that resistance, resistance or avoidance and suppression are all futile. Don't treat symptoms as foreign bodies in body and mind, study and work with symptoms, and don't reject and resist. It should be said that "conforming to nature" is the most basic treatment principle in Morita therapy. This basic principle contains the following multi-layered meanings:

Follow the natural understanding of the law of mental activity and accept all kinds of ideas and concepts that may appear.

Neurotic patients often subjectively think that they can only have one idea but not another, which is abnormal or immoral, that is, the extreme desire for perfection has caused a strong sense of inferiority. The result is just as Gao said: "In any case, if someone tries to get rid of all evil thoughts, he may have an unhealthy and terrible compulsion." Neurotic patients take a resistant attitude towards this kind of psychology, and must keep their psychology absolutely clean, which will inevitably lead to psychological conflicts. To change this, we must accept the fact that people are not saints; Accept the fact that each of us may have evil thoughts, jealousy and narrow-mindedness, and realize that bad thoughts flash in our minds, which is inevitable in spiritual activities and cannot be changed and decided by human reason and will, but it is entirely up to us to decide whether to do it or not. So you don't have to fight your own thoughts, but you need to pay attention to your actions.

In addition, to understand the law of psychological activities, we need to understand the antagonistic effect of spirit and realize that people have two opposing psychological phenomena: the desire for life and the fear of death. To accept this psychological phenomenon, you don't have to be afraid of the horror of death, so you can try your best to eliminate these frightening thoughts and get yourself into a fierce inner spiritual conflict. For example, the idea that you might fall down when you are standing on a high place is an idea that anyone can have. Neurotic patients think this is an abnormal phenomenon and fight against it. The more they face, the more likely they are to fall. To change this symptom, only by recognizing the antagonistic role of spirit and psychologically giving up the resistance to opposing ideas can we alleviate or even eliminate the internal conflicts of spirit.

Comply with nature, recognize the law of symptom formation and development, and accept symptoms.

The neurotic patient had no psychosomatic abnormality, just because he was hypochondriac, and regarded a normal feeling as an abnormality, and wanted to reject and control this feeling, thus fixing his attention on this feeling, which led to the mutual reinforcement of attention and feeling, that is, the formation of spiritual interaction. This is a secondary vicious circle, which is the main reason for the formation and continuation of symptoms.

Recognizing this and accepting your symptoms, on the one hand, will not strengthen your subjective feelings about symptoms; On the other hand, because I no longer reject this feeling, I gradually let my attention no longer be fixed on the symptoms. Breaking mental interaction in this way can alleviate or even eliminate symptoms. For example, people who are afraid of blushing will pay more attention to their performance. The more they pay attention, the more nervous they will be, and the feeling of blushing will last. On the contrary, accepting the symptoms of blushing and communicating with people in a "blushing" manner will make you stop paying attention to this feeling, so the reaction of blushing will gradually fade away.

Understanding the law of symptoms also includes recognizing that the change of symptoms is a process that takes some time. Only by knowing this, can we persist in treating symptoms as normal and not exclude them as foreign bodies in our body and mind, and can we really eliminate the influence of spiritual interaction.

Morita therapy believes that to change the symptoms of neurosis, on the one hand, we should take a natural attitude towards the symptoms; On the other hand, do what you should do with the original desire of life. Usually the symptoms don't go away immediately. If the symptoms still exist, accept them despite the pain. Focus your attention and energy on the meaningful and effective things in your life. Trying to do what should be done, focusing on action and letting symptoms fluctuate will help break mental interaction and gradually build confidence to get rid of symptoms.

Neurotic patients originally had a strong desire to survive, but they were bound by the horror of death. Their original mental energy was devoted to the attention of symptoms, which affected their normal life, work and study. The worse the effect of work and study, the more patients' attention is fixed on their symptoms, and the more they regard symptoms as foreign bodies that must be eliminated, thus aggravating their symptoms.

Do what you think you should do according to the desire of life. First, you will lead the spiritual energy that has been pointing to your heart to the outside world. Second, symptoms improve because attention is no longer fixed on symptoms; Third, although it is still painful to act with symptoms, the action itself will bring two kinds of gains. One is to do what you should do, and don't wait for the symptoms to disappear; The second is that you can gain something in your work, study or life by doing it.

For example, people who are afraid of people are afraid of meeting people, and they feel extremely scared when they meet people. Morita therapy requires him to live with symptoms, and it doesn't matter if he is afraid of meeting people, but he should meet the people he should meet, communicate with people with fear, pay attention to what he wants to do, and don't pay attention to whether he is afraid again. If he persists in doing it, his fear will gradually ease. In this way, patients themselves will find that it is unnecessary to try their best to eliminate symptoms until they no longer exist. I was worried about this before and thought I couldn't do it because I kept thinking about it in my mind and didn't do it. To do what you want, patients need to do what they should do immediately, regardless of the pain, and break the past pattern of mental restraint.

In short, it is to find a suitable treatment under the principle of calming the heart and letting nature take its course. The treatment of obsessive-compulsive disorder is a painful process, and obsessive-compulsive disorder cannot be cured without going through a painful process. At least in the beginning, it will be extremely uncomfortable and painful. As I have told many friends with obsessive-compulsive disorder, it is very painful to correct normal people's thinking when obsessive-compulsive disorder becomes a habit.

Treating obsessive-compulsive disorder is like driving. When braking, there is always a little inertia before the car stops.

Another point is that everyone has obsessive-compulsive disorder, some people are lighter, and some people are more obvious, so as long as it does not affect life, obsessive-compulsive disorder is cured.

You should seriously consider these suggestions I gave you. It will be very painful at first, and there will usually be a painful adaptation period of 3-6 months. Stick to what I said above for two or three weeks, and you will find yourself changing.

15 years old has obsessive-compulsive disorder. OCD has tortured me for more than 20 years. My life is completely ruined, and I am in pain. I hope I can help you and learn from it. The above is my personal efforts to treat obsessive-compulsive disorder, and I also draw lessons from the treatment experience of some netizens. Welcome those who need it to paste, copy and reprint the above words. I am very grateful. )